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mellomyst -> born into your role? (1/30/2008 1:19:34 PM)

hi, i was just wondering, most people ask me how did i become submissive, and what was my first experience.
Well to be honest i have always known to some extent that i like to be controlled even when i was around 8 or 9 my favourite types of games involved me being restrained or controlled so to be fair i have always known i was submissive just not known what it was.
Can anyone else relate to what i a mean?



takenbyjohnr07 -> RE: born into your role? (1/30/2008 1:45:17 PM)

Of course, i know i do.  i was born to serve the man i love, and i knew it from a very young age. It has always been with me, and i have never had any doubts about my feelings.



phoenixinchains -> RE: born into your role? (1/30/2008 1:57:22 PM)

some people are going to strongly feel they were, some won't feel they were born that way at all. some are just happy they figured themselves out[:)]
i hadn't started to understand until early double digits, and we'll leave it at that.



greyangelus -> RE: born into your role? (1/30/2008 2:57:47 PM)

Hey mellomyst.

There was a veeery long thread just dealing with this last week iffin your interested.



OedipusRexIt -> RE: born into your role? (1/30/2008 3:28:41 PM)

You can take this question, and apply it to so many things: 

Were you "born" that way, or did you "become" it.

In science and philosophy, it's known as the "nature versus nurture" question.  Or, sometimes, "free will versus determinism".  Take a look at John Calvin on Wiki, and you'll be off and running.

Many pscyhologists use this question as something of a litmus test.  Where you come down on it says a lot about your views on personal responsiblity, active vs. passive nature, humanism or theism  ... the list is a long one.

Me?  I was born a horny, hetero male with a strong personality.  My environment and experience reinforced these traits.  I took what I liked about myself and worked to make it better, while taking what I didn't like, and learning to do without it.  Therefore, I would say:

Both.


If I'd been shaken, instead of stirred, it could have been a different mix.




edit:  basking in my own wisdom, I noticed I'd left the "c" out of psychologist...



CalifChick -> RE: born into your role? (1/30/2008 3:33:44 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: OedipusRexIt

Many pscyhologists use this question as something of a litmus test.  Where you come down on it says a lot about your views on personal responsiblity, active vs. passive nature, humanism or theism  ... the list is a long one.

edit:  basking in my own wisdom, I noticed I'd left the "c" out of psychologist...


Is it wrong that it amuses me that you still spelled it incorrectly?

Cali



quick -> RE: born into your role? (1/30/2008 3:39:40 PM)

Wrong? Maybe. Funny? Definitely. That sort of thing happens to me far too often to NOT find it funny.



OedipusRexIt -> RE: born into your role? (1/30/2008 3:39:56 PM)

It's really never wrong to be amused.  It can sometimes be wrong to laugh in someone's face.

.... not in this case, however!  I get so lazy, I write, I think "proofread" and then I think "naaaah!" and hit the button.

What is it about acting in haste, and repenting at leisure?

... did I spell "naaaah"  right?



CalifChick -> RE: born into your role? (1/30/2008 3:41:56 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: OedipusRexIt

... did I spell "naaaah"  right?


I believe you spelled it correctly.

Cali "Don't Call Me William" Strunk




quick -> RE: born into your role? (1/30/2008 3:41:58 PM)

I fear you may have one too many A's in there.



Jeffff -> RE: born into your role? (1/30/2008 3:44:29 PM)

there is an "h" in naaaaaaaa?

Jeff



quick -> RE: born into your role? (1/30/2008 3:45:56 PM)

It is silent, for some. Not so silent for others.



LaTigresse -> RE: born into your role? (1/30/2008 3:47:50 PM)

I was born an evil goofy controlling batich..........I just grew up and got comfortable with it.



RCdc -> RE: born into your role? (1/30/2008 3:53:33 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: quick

It is silent, for some. Not so silent for others.


Damn - that's actually quite profound.
 
the.dark.



daddyncherry -> RE: born into your role? (1/30/2008 4:08:56 PM)

i kind of feel like i was born to be this way and then the circumstances in my life furthered it...then i began to seek it out in some ways...then directly to where i am now.

i recall being you and into 'slave" day at school...where you'd have to carry another's books or stuff....i got such a rise outta that in like 4th or 5th grade (after hearing that that was to come in middle school)...then asking  aboy if i could be his "slave"...somehow, i kind had actually put it together, maybe from some odd media intrusion into my psyche, or maybe a past life memory (whoTF knows)

When i was 15 i did something so ultra "the Secretary" when a young bf of mine thought he threw his retainer into a dumpster at Burger King...in trying to be a good gf, i hopped in there and searched for it, while he remained all clean outside of the dumpster.

As a junior i got a bf who was older...he would leave me a list of chores to do and if they weren't done (at my Mom's house) then he would turn around and leave and i would be "grounded" from seeing him...he also made me bring progress reports home weekly from school

The list goes on...but yeah, i think i was born to be who i am now.

edited: in case something i wrote was against TOS



lateralist1 -> RE: born into your role? (1/30/2008 4:11:04 PM)

Always been dominant it's in the genes.
Found out I was BDSM when I was about ten.
Just never thought anyone would actually like me treating them the way I wanted to until a few years ago.
Still won't really believe it unless I find him.



quick -> RE: born into your role? (1/30/2008 4:23:16 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

quote:

ORIGINAL: quick

It is silent, for some. Not so silent for others.


Damn - that's actually quite profound.
 
the.dark.


 
And damn if that didn't make me smile *S*.



MasterFireMaam -> RE: born into your role? (1/30/2008 5:03:30 PM)

If we look, I think everyone can. I hated it when I got cast as Wonder Girl to my older friend's Wonder Woman. I'd get captured and she'd rescue me. It SUCKED, but I liked her enough to go along....besides, I was young (5ish?) and she was close to 10. But, I remember very time we played, I asked, "Can't YOU get tied up for once?"

Master Fire



Gleegal67 -> RE: born into your role? (1/30/2008 5:30:48 PM)

I was born the nurturer in the family.  Growing up, my nurturing ways and submissiveness to the Dominants in the family were expected at all times.

For example, I was in charge of my siblings/younger family members, the household duties, the food preparations.  I was in charge of keeping the peace during family/friend functions.  I was to always anticipate the needs/wants of others - most of all the Dominants and their friends during these gatherings.

I do know that I was a key person in making sure that the environment was safe, and that the family and their friends could have great memories of those times together.  Even to this day, I am still expected to plan and organize the food and entertainment for all the family gatherings.  Which I thoroughly enjoy and know that I am very efficient to accomplish their goals set for me.

I do find it interesting now, almost after 30 years, that my family is starting to acknowledge my hard work and efforts.  Which is sweet.  I do not require their acknowledgments, but it is wonderful for them to start learning to see beyond themselves...and for that...I am most proud of their individual growths!

I know I was born submissive.  I also know that in my youth, my environment was chosen for me, and it strengthened my submissiveness.  Now as an adult, I have chosen an environment that assists to perfect my submissiveness.

Now, I'm off to plan a surprise 40th birthday party for a cousin of mine...

Michele
*always the gleeful one*




MzMia -> RE: born into your role? (1/30/2008 7:15:30 PM)

[:D]
I borrowed this line from someone on here.
 
From the womb to the tomb, many of us were born this way.



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