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Level -> RE: How should a sub act around others? (1/31/2008 4:00:30 PM)
A woman submissive to me would be polite.

kyraofMists -> RE: How should a sub act around others? (1/31/2008 4:10:39 PM)
How I am to behave would depend on who is present, what we are doing, where we are at and his preferences at the time. In general, I am expected to be polite and courteous and he is to be my primary focus. He would be highly annoyed if I were to behave any other way with out his express permission. There are times that Alandra and I are expected to be of service to other people that are present. Then there are times that we are expected to sit quietly at his feet and not speak to anyone else. It depends on what is most appropriate at the time and what he wants. Knight's Kyra

Aereci -> RE: How should a sub act around others? (1/31/2008 4:26:24 PM)
If you have to ask what behavior is expected out a grown woman, then perhaps you should seriously question the public behavior your partner is exhibiting. A submissive should not have to display any more sweet and charming behavior to others than currently is expected out a mature woman (or man, for that matter) in public. It is expected that mature citizens demonstrate politeness, a sense of professional decorum, and some degree of grace (all of which should be expected of your partner, and all of which she/he should exhibit without demand or pressure). Except for a special consideration for your requests and suggestions, she should act as all civilized members of society are expected to act.

DaggerDom -> RE: How should a sub act around others? (1/31/2008 4:35:01 PM)
A submissive's behavior may or may not reflect on her master, but what master would be so gutless as to even care?

Level -> RE: How should a sub act around others? (1/31/2008 4:39:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DaggerDom A submissive's behavior may or may not reflect on her master, but what master would be so gutless as to even care? Caring about that hardly qualifies as "gutless". Not caring falls more into the area of "clueless", IMO.

SailingBum -> RE: How should a sub act around others? (1/31/2008 4:42:04 PM)
I just don't get this question.... Because your her dom...your asking how she should treat others ??? WhatTheFuckOver BadOne

Aereci -> RE: How should a sub act around others? (1/31/2008 4:48:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DaggerDom A submissive's behavior may or may not reflect on her master, but what master would be so gutless as to even care? Putting care into your social status is hardly 'gutless'. Your job, relations, interactions, and societal worth depend on it.

ThundersCry -> RE: How should a sub act around others? (1/31/2008 5:01:53 PM)
Those that are a good reflection of each other, complimenting each other is a true blessing to be around...for me. =L= Those are the kinds of people that have someting I want... To have a sub/slave shame me in a public situation around my friends or guests would not go over to good with me, NOR....would I ever want to put her in that kind of situation. I am kinda like the man above... WhatTHEfook! <grins>

PrizedPosession -> RE: How should a sub act around others? (1/31/2008 5:07:32 PM)
Why would you be less than courteous to anyone? i thought it was just a human thing not a sub thing to be pleasant unless provoked.

breatheasone -> RE: How should a sub act around others? (1/31/2008 6:00:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sweetwenchie quote: ORIGINAL: LivingForce Let me rephrase myself.. Myself I tend to be sarcastic or rude to others without knowing it.. Now I do treat people I deem that need to be treated with respect that respect. Some people as soon as I get a first impression about them I give them no respect at all. Now I do treat people how I want to be treated and that is how I would want my submissive to treat others as well. If I saw my submissive treating someone without outright rudeness I would figure out why and make my decision from there. Does that make sense? Well then, her being rude and disrespectful to anyone she wishes truly is just a reflection of you. DITTO......

Willowmoon -> RE: How should a sub act around others? (1/31/2008 6:26:49 PM)
When I am at a party or munch I use my manners, say please, thank you, excuse me, offer to assist the host if I can see she is overwhelemed with the things that she needs to do however beyond that I am my Master's slave and nobody elses. I will be polite to strangers but I will not act submissive to them, I will not be quiet unless spoken to just because I am a slave. Master and I beleive that I have the right to inject my thoughts and ideas in to conversations. As for respect I will respect a person when they have earned my respect. Willow

ItalianSMistress -> RE: How should a sub act around others? (1/31/2008 6:35:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Level quote: ORIGINAL: DaggerDom A submissive's behavior may or may not reflect on her master, but what master would be so gutless as to even care? Caring about that hardly qualifies as "gutless". Not caring falls more into the area of "clueless", IMO. I agree Level, 100%

slavegirljoy -> RE: How should a sub act around others? (1/31/2008 6:38:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff Mine needs to please only me, no caveats, no hedging. I am not the sort to give a shit about others opinions of my relationship. She has a brain, I expect her to use it. Jeff This is the same for me and my Master. He wouldn't have anything to do with me, if i didn't have a brain or didn't know how to use it on my own, when i'm somewhere without Him. And, He wouldn't have anything to do with me, if i acted like i had been raised by a pack of hyenas instead of by civilized people. Besides that, i don't know how my behavior can be considered a reflection on my Master by people who don't even know me or my Master, when i'm out in public without Him. i'm not usually wearing my "PROPERTY OF MASTER DAVID" t-shirt or my "How's my Behavior? Call 1-800-MASTER to report me" t-shirt. joy Owned servant of Master David

MidMichCowboy -> RE: How should a sub act around others? (1/31/2008 7:15:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aereci Putting care into your social status is hardly 'gutless'. Your job, relations, interactions, and societal worth depend on it. Nicely said. We live as part of society and should be able to move comfortably through it. Too often in todays world we forget things like manners and showing consideration for others. Society has become accepting of behavior my mother would have whipped my ass for. People think they can be boorish and annoying, all in the pursuit of being themselves. If that is what they are like, I don't want to be around them. Civility is not a mask but a reflection of the respect and confidence a person feels for themselves. You grant it to others until they prove they don't deserve it.

AquaticSub -> RE: How should a sub act around others? (1/31/2008 7:26:28 PM)
~Fast Reply~ Basically, I act however I think best. Sometimes that is smiling when I want to yell and sometimes that is very literally telling someone to fuck off. I'm usually as sweet as I can be, polite but when someone is rude to me, tries to step on me, disrespects my owner than no, it does not shame him in any way for me to respond harshly. It would shame him to own someone who would not stand up for herself.

kittensmailbox -> RE: How should a sub act around others? (1/31/2008 7:30:55 PM)
respectful, polite, well mannered... Well we should say that ALL ppl should act around others...

pettingdragons -> RE: How should a sub act around others? (1/31/2008 7:33:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LivingForce I think like this... My submissive is my submissive. What are your thoughts on this? She should be what ever you want her to be...and if you want her to be herself then you have answered your own question...wait you didn't ask that our advise just for our thoughts...hmmm currently my thoughts are on if the laundry is done....Pamela

juliaoceania -> RE: How should a sub act around others? (1/31/2008 7:47:08 PM)
One of the things I most appreciate about my Daddy is the way he treats people. He is kind, respectful, and polite. He says "thank you", "please", and "excuse me". Manners are the grease of social relations. He treats everyone this way, from the bagger at the grocery store, to his neighbors. I would not want to be with someone I preceived as being rude or treating service people as if they were furniture. We are a reflection of each other. How am I to act? As is befitting of who I desire to be in this world... how is he to act? the same way... and if we are right for each other, then we will reflect one another. If he felt I was not a proper reflection of him he would call me on it. If I felt he was not reflecting well on me, I would tell him so. If I repeatedly thought him rude or obnoxious to others, I would question whether or not I wanted to submit to him anymore. If we are around lifestylers and someone is rude to me or demands things of me. I tell them to ask my Daddy, or I find my Daddy myself... he deals with that. Someone else's rudeness is no excuse for my own. I am not to let people tread on my boundaries either. If it is a vanilla situation, I would rather not have conflict most of the time, but will draw boundaries regardless... One does not have to be rude to draw a boundary

subnstudent -> RE: How should a sub act around others? (1/31/2008 8:11:10 PM)
Being a sub does not waive your right to stick up for yourself, nor does it reflect badly on your Dom/Master when you stand up for yourself when someone is disrespecting you. IMO, you're a worse reflection on your Dom when you just sit there and take it, because you're consenting to being treat badly, and not taking care of "Master's property," ya? That said, there are rules for good manners and social etiquitte, and being disrespectful in general is going to make people think badly of you. And those who do think a sub reflects on her master, will think badly of your master too.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: How should a sub act around others? (1/31/2008 8:39:03 PM)
It wouldn't occur to me to choose a submissive who didn't come to me equipped with proper manners. More than a few potentials never make it past the first meeting for that very reason! My subs reflect on me, and if I make a poor choice, how does that make me appear? I expect a sub, male or female, to behave like a civilized member of society, and behave naturally, without putting on airs. It is possible to stand up for yourself without being utterly obnoxious or rude. I'm sure we've all seen couples who complement each other beautifully in their lack of couth, though---water seeks its own level, as the saying goes!

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