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I am lost without an owner yet i find none! - 1/31/2008 3:05:59 PM

TVmisnothing

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What must it do to become the slave to a individual or couple it is willing to do it...

i must be doing something wrong i wish i knew what it was... any suggestions would be of great value....

respectfully

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RE: I am lost without an owner yet i find none! - 1/31/2008 3:08:11 PM

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Keep searching. There is someone for everyone.

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RE: I am lost without an owner yet i find none! - 1/31/2008 3:09:11 PM

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Not necessarily. But it won't help to ask a message board how to find one.

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RE: I am lost without an owner yet i find none! - 1/31/2008 3:11:09 PM

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Coming off as desperate and willing to be with anyone as long as they are Dominant is a bit off-putting. You might want to sound a little more selective. You do want to be interested in the person, not just the persons role. I know if I were still actively searching, the idea of being wanted becasue I was Dominant and not beacsue of who I might be would cause the problems.
Perhaps rethink your approach?

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RE: I am lost without an owner yet i find none! - 1/31/2008 3:13:00 PM

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Well, first of all, completely change your profile out of 3rd person speech, learn to punctuate and write a sentence... and I'm pretty sure you did not mean your opening line to be "I am nothing with a master."

I'm just saying.

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RE: I am lost without an owner yet i find none! - 1/31/2008 3:13:09 PM

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If you've been looking a while and not finding what you want, perhaps it would do to take time to find yourself first?
I don't mean to be flippant. From reading here, it appears that many people prefer to partner with someone who knows who they are and what they want. You may have better luck if you've answered those questions clearly for yourself.
If what you're doing isn't working, it usually doesn't hurt to try something else.
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RE: I am lost without an owner yet i find none! - 1/31/2008 3:13:15 PM

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work on being a whole and complete person without a Master :) An outlook such as the one you have portrayed here might work if all you are seeking is online fantasy.

then again that is only one opinion

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RE: I am lost without an owner yet i find none! - 1/31/2008 3:16:32 PM

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If you're that lost, you might start by learning to read a map.

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RE: I am lost without an owner yet i find none! - 1/31/2008 3:16:38 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: TVmisnothing

What must it do to become the slave to a individual or couple it is willing to do it...

i must be doing something wrong i wish i knew what it was... any suggestions would be of great value....

respectfully

m

Stop searching for someone else and then find yourself. You cannot submit if you are a lost cause already.

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RE: I am lost without an owner yet i find none! - 1/31/2008 3:17:47 PM

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I'm guessing it's because you sound completely desperate.

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RE: I am lost without an owner yet i find none! - 1/31/2008 3:18:54 PM

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Completely desperate and... male. Completely desperate and female is usually okay. I'm just sayin'.

Edited to add... I'm not sure to what degree the transvestite part enters into the equation, but I'm thinking it would have an effect as well.

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RE: I am lost without an owner yet i find none! - 1/31/2008 3:22:18 PM

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ORIGINAL: windchymes

If you're that lost, you might start by learning to read a map.

LOL
This would help

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RE: I am lost without an owner yet i find none! - 1/31/2008 3:24:00 PM

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A fish needs a bicycle.

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RE: I am lost without an owner yet i find none! - 1/31/2008 4:07:53 PM

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Not only are you desperate as some have already stated, but you are high maintenance from what i read in your Introduce Yourself post. What you offer in your post is yourself, the chance to watch you cross dress (even though you aren't passable at this time), the chance to help pay for your hormone therapy, and the chance to help pay for your breast implants so you can look more female. Although you have an education and degrees, i saw no offer of what you can give to a Master.

I'd suggest you get done with transgendering before seeking a Master. At this point a gay Master may not want you as you are transitioning to female. A straight Master might not want you because you are still male. Get your own life together first.

Edited to add: Strangely when i just went back to Introduce Yourself, your very long rambling post it gone. I'm rather puzzled.

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RE: I am lost without an owner yet i find none! - 1/31/2008 4:22:43 PM

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I am trying not to be flip so I won't say

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RE: I am lost without an owner yet i find none! - 1/31/2008 4:23:36 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: peppermint

Edited to add: Strangely when i just went back to Introduce Yourself, your very long rambling post it gone. I'm rather puzzled.

It was a personal ad, so it got deleted by a Moderator.

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RE: I am lost without an owner yet i find none! - 1/31/2008 4:25:16 PM

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The profile was not particularly appealing.

Changing it back to first person speech was sound advice.

As for the other advice given; finding yourself is probably a good idea.

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RE: I am lost without an owner yet i find none! - 1/31/2008 4:35:51 PM

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The problem could be that you are lost. While it appeals to some, others want someone who can do just fine on their own.

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RE: I am lost without an owner yet i find none! - 1/31/2008 5:52:06 PM

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Things take time. My slave and I are a couple who have been searching for about 6 months or so now. We are still looking.
So take heart it is the same on both sides of the fence.
It is harder for those who are Trans then those who are not, and as you are a male you are not as sought after as females. I would suggest doing a re-write in you ad and try replying to those in the catagory you are seeking. I understand its difficult for a submissive person to make the first move but sometimes its necessary to make yourself stand out.

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RE: I am lost without an owner yet i find none! - 2/1/2008 5:30:13 AM

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If the op dosent know how to read a map he will still be lost. Let me point him in the right direction
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