Stephann -> RE: what does a Master try and take another one slave (2/1/2008 10:12:10 AM)
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The "once a cheat always a cheat" line is a tad puritanical to me. I've cheated in my relationships. I've since learned that I cheated usually when the relationship wasn't fulfilling enough. When I felt the desire to cheat since that time, I accepted that the relationship wasn't working and moved on. I don't covet other people's SOs. I certainly can appreciate an attractive married woman, but no part of me would want to own someone who is happily involved with someone else; it'd be like seeing someone who looks great in a fine coat, and thinking "I'd look just as good in that coat." In reality, I probably wouldn't. Now, someone who is clearly unhappy in their relationship, to me, is fair game. I don't owe her SO any loyalty or respect simply by virtue of his ability to breath. If he and I are friends, that's a different matter of course. It then means I wouldn't pursue her out of respect for him; something that he's earned. If they eventually did split for reasons unrelated to me, then I'd consider it again; but we're dealing with a whole buncha 'what ifs' at this point. Either way, the underlying point is that the woman isn't actually property, until she becomes my property. The only sanctity within a relationships is that which the people within ascribe. Stephan
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