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laurell3 -> RE: what does a Master try and take another one slave (2/2/2008 9:30:28 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Stephann
The "once a cheat always a cheat" line is a tad puritanical to me.
I've cheated in my relationships. I've since learned that I cheated usually when the relationship wasn't fulfilling enough. When I felt the desire to cheat since that time, I accepted that the relationship wasn't working and moved on.
I don't covet other people's SOs. I certainly can appreciate an attractive married woman, but no part of me would want to own someone who is happily involved with someone else; it'd be like seeing someone who looks great in a fine coat, and thinking "I'd look just as good in that coat." In reality, I probably wouldn't.
Now, someone who is clearly unhappy in their relationship, to me, is fair game. I don't owe her SO any loyalty or respect simply by virtue of his ability to breath. If he and I are friends, that's a different matter of course. It then means I wouldn't pursue her out of respect for him; something that he's earned. If they eventually did split for reasons unrelated to me, then I'd consider it again; but we're dealing with a whole buncha 'what ifs' at this point. Either way, the underlying point is that the woman isn't actually property, until she becomes my property.
The only sanctity within a relationships is that which the people within ascribe.
Stephan
Exactly. Why is it we always focus on the one that "took" the person and not the person that was obviously unhappy in the relationship, had the obligation to leave gracefully and didn't and how the hell do you "take" a human being? Unless it's your relative or friend doing this, I wouldn't be giving the aggression away so readily to the third party but maybe considering why the person is leaving me or how I ended up with someone that didn't have the ability to discuss problems or leave before they cheated.
By the way, the word is "karma" and yes, eventually and hopefully karma comes home to roost.
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