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RE: Set Honorifics? - 2/1/2008 6:41:40 AM   
CalifChick


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ORIGINAL: julietsierra

That works for me. I'm STILL trying to figure out how to SAY your name!!


You guys are too funny.  I was going to tell you to say "Raymond", but spin around fast counter-clockwise (since clockwise is considered "forward", you want to go backwards).

If I can't figure out a name, I always look for the backwards thing.  You wouldn't believe how many people think they are original by using something like Nevaeh, which is just "heaven" backwards.

Cali


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RE: Set Honorifics? - 2/1/2008 6:46:59 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Evility

What has always puzzled me is when a submissive refers to her dominant as "my Sir". I hate to be a grammarphobe but I cringe everytime I see that.  


i only use it on the boards since as far as i know (yeah i know i really need to ask Him about it) i'm pretty sure i'm not His only sub  so i feel odd labeling Him as "my dom". i do it, but it does feel wonky to me.

but to answer the OP's question, He likes Sir. i think He would laugh if i used lord, and He told me when we got together that i couldn't call Him master because i was someone else's partner primarily at the time. She asked Him what He wanted me to call Him when we disbanded and He still said Sir, so Sir it is.


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RE: Set Honorifics? - 2/1/2008 6:53:38 AM   
camille65


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Status: offline 		No set honorifics with us, he has me use his first name. If I am speaking of him to another person sometimes I will say 'R and I did such-and-such today' or occasionally 'My dom and I did such-and-such today' but I tend to use the latter more often in the written form. 
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ORIGINAL: Evility

What has always puzzled me is when a submissive refers to her dominant as "my Sir". I hate to be a grammarphobe but I cringe everytime I see that.  
 That's funny.. it drives me nuts when someone says 'Master and I did yadda'. That master is not my master, it is only their master. So I much much prefer it to reflect that. It happens in my doctors office as well. The nurse always states to me that 'Doctor will be with you in a few minutes', never Dr Smith or 'the' Doctor  will be with you.. just 'Doctor'.It grates on my brain. Dominant and I have decided on my choice of collar.........finally!My dominant and I have decided on my choice of collar.......finally! (okay to be honest I cannot decide and it is making me far more stressed out than it ought to  )

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RE: Set Honorifics? - 2/1/2008 7:00:46 AM   
Rover


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Status: offline 		Calling me John, Sir and Master are all appropriate at different times.  I don't think that I've ever had to ask anyone to call me by anything specifically, though I have indicated what circumstances I think are more or less appropriate for each of them (for example, don't call me John when I'm lecturing, and don't call me Master in front of my family).
 
On the other hand, there have been more than a few times when I've asked someone not to use a particular honorific with me.  I don't appreciate strangers calling me "Sir", and I don't appreciate anyone that's not mine calling me "Master".  And I don't give a rat's patoot what their habits/conventions are; theirs should not trump mine.  If we can't agree on John, I'll simply walk away.
 
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RE: Set Honorifics? - 2/1/2008 7:55:58 AM   
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Men dont get their panties in a knot. They get wedgies.


If only it were so easy to give wedgies to random people, I don't think it would ever get old.

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RE: Set Honorifics? - 2/1/2008 8:09:32 AM   
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RE: Set Honorifics? - 2/1/2008 8:14:15 AM   
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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

quote:

ORIGINAL: julietsierra

That works for me. I'm STILL trying to figure out how to SAY your name!!


You guys are too funny.  I was going to tell you to say "Raymond", but spin around fast counter-clockwise (since clockwise is considered "forward", you want to go backwards).

If I can't figure out a name, I always look for the backwards thing.  You wouldn't believe how many people think they are original by using something like Nevaeh, which is just "heaven" backwards.

Cali



See, now this forward/backward thing can get kind of confusing...

I try not be forward..so, I can see where counter-clockwise might be a good thing..

On the other hand, I also try not to live in the past, and going backward...well, that's a problem too...

So...how to be forward-thinking without forward acting...it's bound to make a person be a bit less than level headed...Then again, being level is the same either way...oh god...that means I'm stagnant.

Ray it is.

juliet

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RE: Set Honorifics? - 2/1/2008 8:44:33 AM   
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ORIGINAL: adoracat

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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

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ORIGINAL: adoracat
well fuck me running. 


This is Darcy

Well that's certainly put an interesting mental picture in my head


*giggling*   yeah....i've heard that a few times! 

kitten, laughing and blushing at the same time


people stop in the middle of whatever they are doing, including crossing streets, and look puzzled when i say my version, "well fuck me running backwards"....i think they are trying to figure out exactly how the physics would work....no one has ever gotten a light-bulb-a-ha moment though....


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RE: Set Honorifics? - 2/1/2008 8:53:12 AM   
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ORIGINAL: julietsierra

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Im called Hey You.


That works for me. I'm STILL trying to figure out how to SAY your name!!

juliet

watch it from an other side and it will be much eassier



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RE: Set Honorifics? - 2/1/2008 9:28:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		This is actually defined in my protocol. I prefer to be called Ma'am if spoken to and Master Fire if spoken of, unless the situation warrents a vanilla response, in which case Fire or my name will do.

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RE: Set Honorifics? - 2/1/2008 9:29:39 AM   
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Status: offline 		I tried Calichick backwards. No way Im going to try to say that backwards. I wadded up the paper and threw it away.

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RE: Set Honorifics? - 2/1/2008 9:40:13 AM   
CalifChick


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Status: offline 		Kcihcfilac.  Looks kinda like "Chik-fil-a"... a chain restaurant in some states.  I'll pass, thanks.

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RE: Set Honorifics? - 2/1/2008 10:07:40 AM   
adoracat


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ORIGINAL: chellekitty

quote:

ORIGINAL: adoracat

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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

quote:

ORIGINAL: adoracat
well fuck me running. 


This is Darcy

Well that's certainly put an interesting mental picture in my head


*giggling*   yeah....i've heard that a few times! 

kitten, laughing and blushing at the same time


people stop in the middle of whatever they are doing, including crossing streets, and look puzzled when i say my version, "well fuck me running backwards"....i think they are trying to figure out exactly how the physics would work....no one has ever gotten a light-bulb-a-ha moment though....



*thnks about this*  well who is gonna be running backwards?  cause if its you, i would think it would be obvious....he stands and braces for the collision!

kitten

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RE: Set Honorifics? - 2/1/2008 10:13:48 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		Cali. You took your name from a resturant chain? Good thing that you didnt take it from one of their signs. Open 24 Hours.

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RE: Set Honorifics? - 2/1/2008 11:46:21 AM   
Archer


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Status: offline 		I'm another one with a set protocol.
Master is the term my slave Elegant uses with me.
Daddy is the term my boi Lane uses with me.
Elegant may use Sir in informal situations, as may Lane.
I do not allow anyone to call me just "Master" who I do not own, without correcting them.

My protocol goes further though with the idea that:
Sir/ Ma'am is the defalut pronoun used for Dominants, unless and until they offer up another prefered option.
Master ______ etc are used for specific people who I have told the family to use it with.
A person can move both up and down from these honorifics based on their behaviour.
Slaves or submissives may promote the honorific use when they feel it is warranted.
Slaves or submissives must bring it to my attention when they feel someone deserves to be moved downward.

So We meet John Q at an event Joh is refered to as Sir unless he asks for something different.
Time passes and John displays behaviour that is exemplary of a Master, The slave can start calling him Master Q.
More time passes and a personality shift happens and Master Q becomes rather an ass. Elegant comes to me and relates the behavior and asks if she still should call him Master Q. She presents a good case and I decide either John is called simply Sir or maybe even simply John after that date.

It works much simpler than it reads.


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RE: Set Honorifics? - 2/1/2008 12:16:19 PM   
Rover


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Status: offline 		As I recall, Elegant called me something entirely different.
 
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RE: Set Honorifics? - 2/1/2008 12:34:10 PM   
daddyncherry


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Status: offline 		With my Master it is always Daddy when i speak to him....his real name when i refer to him to others who know us or who are work related etc and my Daddy or Daddy when refering to him to someone else in the lifestyle who understands what i mean.

Only on a couple of occasions has he had me call him Master and it felt odd, like i was calling him the wrong name and very rarely have i ever had to use Sir and when i have it was as in a "yes Sir/no Sir" way and not calling him Sir instead of Daddy.

As for other Dominants, he expects me to refer to them by their name, if i know it and without an honorific as it is meaningless to him. the same applies for other subs calling him Sir who don't know him well...in his term, it is superfluous.i have even refered to certain people by their screen name with the honorific and he says, "Just say Bob, or Joe or whatever..not Lord/King/Emporer/Sir Bob."


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RE: Set Honorifics? - 2/1/2008 12:41:55 PM   
SirJohnMandevill


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ORIGINAL: kittyinpink

I'm curious how many Doms have set Honorifics (Sir, Master, Ma'am, etc) that they tell their sub to use, and how many just let their sub develop an Honorific for them.


One of my very few protocols is that my submissive call me "Sir" during our play sessions. (I'm no "Master")

Les (Purveyor of Fine, Handcrafted Kink)

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RE: Set Honorifics? - 2/1/2008 1:16:49 PM   
OmegaG


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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

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ORIGINAL: julietsierra

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Im called Hey You.


That works for me. I'm STILL trying to figure out how to SAY your name!!

juliet

Start with the last letter and go left.



Well, fuck a duck, what a brain fart.  Thank you.

< Message edited by OmegaG -- 2/1/2008 1:22:43 PM >

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RE: Set Honorifics? - 2/1/2008 4:11:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		If we are being formal, then formal honorifics are employed.  Otherwise, nothing set in stone.

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