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MistressOfGa -> RE: A Little Broken--A Very Touchy Question (2/2/2008 8:01:53 PM)
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ORIGINAL: MeliciousProse
When a Dom and slave establish a relationship, they draw up goals, create rules, chart out expectations and things of that nature. This makes sense to this girl.
When a Dom has outside responsibilities, it is, in this girl's opinion, the slave's responsibility to have a great deal of patience. The relationship of that kind of strain would not work out if she did not.
When a Dom is not necessesarily financially able to afford expensive gear and things of that nature, it is the slave's responsibility to understand and have even more patience. We are human, we have things we must deal with. All this girl understands.
And when a Dom, who has children, work, and financial difficulties takes on a slave, it is still His responsibility to give her at least a minimal amount of attention if He is to retain her respect and loyalty.
It's been seventy-two hours since this girl has spoken to her Dom from the moment He said she was smothering Him.
The Facts:
- Their physical time spent together is maybe once a week. she hasn't seen Him in almost two.
- Their time on the phone, the only time when physical means of seeing one another is not an option, has been a total of fifteen minutes.
- The confusing fact: Two weeks before, He gave her a set of His car keys and was having a set of His house keys made for her.
Now, while this girl completely understands His situation at home, she has made it as clear as possible, that all that she expects of Him, all that she requests of Him, begs of Him, is that He make the effort to speak with her once a night. girl has spoken to many slaves and even a few Doms about this. They all agree that this is NOT a lot to ask for.
What would possess a Dom to make these great gestures of a commitment and then claim she's smothering Him? What advice do You have for girl?
-Sighs.- This girl is at a loss.
MeliciousProse,
Do you have any way of contacting him other than email? His phone number perhaps? Is there a possibility that he has been sick, or injured? I agree with LA on this, you should sit down with him and ask him what his definition of "smothering" is. I don't think it is unreasonable for you to be upset that he hasn't contacted you in 3 days. But try to put things in perspective. It's not like it has been 2 weeks.
Hugs to you, I feel your sadness.
MoGa
ETA: When I started writing this reply there was only one other response (LA's). Now additional information has been posted. I still say contact him and ask for a sit down meeting.
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