GrizzlyBear
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ORIGINAL: enslavederotica
if your owner lies to you ( even if it is the smallest lie) is it your right to pull away from him and demand he explains himself?
Some lies are pretty small, and are part of the lube that keeps people interacting reasonably. Ever see that Jim Carrey movie where he couldn't tell a lie, and always said exactly what he was thinking? If it was the answer to "Do these pants make my butt look big?" or "Do I give the best blowjobs you've ever had?" or anything to do with your mother, then you are making something out of nothing. Men lie in these circumstances to survive; they always have and always will.
If it was something important that he knew was going to hurt you if it was found out, especially if it involved breaking a promise that was made? Then you better start digging for answers, and you should be prepared to not like what you find. People who are willing to lie to manipulate others and get their way will not stop at a little lie. Examples - he lied about being married, or about spending time with another woman, or about anything to do with addictive behavior like drinking or gambling. He lied about not having any STDs, he lied about his BDSM knowledge or experience. These are not acceptable. And they are unlikley to stop, even if he says they will.
Some people feel the need to lie about nearly everything. They make up entire fictitious lives, because they feel that the real one makes them inadequate. They usually get found out pretty fast, its too hard to keep all the lies straight. Not much you can do about someone like that, except assume that everything is a lie. They are not the real problem, once you know about them. It's the ones that only lie when it matters, the sociopaths, that are the problem. Some of them are very good at it too.
So which situation do you think you have?
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