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RE: How to address your Dom/me - 2/4/2008 3:06:52 PM   
AtlantaMistress


Posts: 276
Joined: 6/14/2007
Status: offline 		Whatever they want to be called, or at least always with respect! My personal boy still calls me Mistress or Miss Sandy sometimes, but when we are intimate, even baby or honey are just fine with me 

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RE: How to address your Dom/me - 2/4/2008 3:55:32 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


Posts: 19224
Joined: 10/25/2005
Status: offline 		I know one who loves to be called "Mastermuffin" :) Evanesce?

There's a range, my name, Miss Liz, maam, "yo!" etc

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RE: How to address your Dom/me - 2/4/2008 4:34:18 PM   
undinerising


Posts: 36
Joined: 11/16/2007
Status: offline 		My sub (were I to have one)- I'd probably accept 'Ma'am' or maybe 'Mistress' if s/he could say it without it sounding ridiculous.

Subs who aren't mine (that would be all of them, presently)- Undine will do. I don't do titles much either so I try not to ask it of anyone else.

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RE: How to address your Dom/me - 2/4/2008 4:42:57 PM   
Tantriqu


Posts: 2026
Joined: 12/29/2006
Status: offline 		Ahhh, yes. 
'Mistress' when we're alone.   Would never tolerate Ma'am. 
'M' in public. 
My names or 'Master' when they're blissed out.

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RE: How to address your Dom/me - 2/4/2008 4:48:53 PM   
MaamJay


Posts: 2101
Joined: 9/2/2005
Status: offline 		Master prefers to be called Master, He doesn't like Sir. He's quite happy for other sub types to call Him by His given name or if they don't feel comfortable with that, to call Him Master A--- . I only call Him by His given name when I talk about Him to vanillas, or when W/we are in vanilla company, though more usually I will get around it by calling Him Love, Hon etc. The only pet name I shouldn't use for Him is "pet" LOL as that's considered subby and is His pet name for me. He calls me pet more often than He calls me violet, even though that's His chosen name for me. Of course, I have called Him God at certain times, for which His response is a wicked grin and "you rang?" or "yes My child?" I do tease at times and call Him "Dadda" when W/we are being silly ... usually at the supermarket LOL! Shopping brings out the worst in U/us! Given that I am 15 years older than Him ...

I like to be called Ma'am by subs who are "interviewing", until they get close enough to be undergoing some basic training, at which time I will allow them to call Me Mistress. I am also quite partial to My Lady but haven't had one lean that way yet. One sub called Me Mistress Mommy and I liked that. I baulk a bit at Goddess LOL! The only one I don't like is "Miss" ... as an ex schoolteacher ... no! I've had that shouted at Me too many times. Other subs who are friends can call Me Jay, Ma'am Jay, whichever works for them. I'm not overly happy with other subs or Dom/mes calling me violet, unless they are seeing me in a particularly subby mode (at a play party with Master that might be OK). I tend to relate to other people through My Domme persona so Jay is more appropriate. My given name is now pretty much reserved for My academic work world and My mother, so I don't tend to use that with bdsm folks. I am pissed off that yahoo seems to have used a form of it as a precursor to My email addy, so some use that and I really don't like it so I correct that sharpish!

Basically, it amounts to whatever suits the couple in question ... I would agree that rushing into calling someone Master or Mistress is probably not a good idea, names are powerful. Where in doubt, Sir or Ma'am is probably a safeish default and they will correct you if they don't like it!

Maam Jay aka violet[A] (I gave up on the apostrophe in Ma'am as it won't work for some email addys and IDs!)

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RE: How to address your Dom/me - 2/4/2008 6:04:02 PM   
SunNMoon


Posts: 1058
Joined: 3/18/2007
Status: offline 		I don't like to be called ma'am (since it makes me feel old). Also I use it at work all the time and I just don't like it. 

I don't mind being called Mistress, I think it's cute. Also I love being called different pet names. I sometimes responsed to my name but not normally. It's very common. "Hey you" works much better.

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RE: How to address your Dom/me - 2/4/2008 6:07:38 PM   
rubberpet


Posts: 1743
Joined: 4/6/2006
From: The Land of Voodoo
Status: offline 		She prefers Mistress, but that's reserved only for me.  I also call Her baby, babygirl, babydoll, sweetie, and a few others that I prefer not to mention.  Let your minds wander on that one.....

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RE: How to address your Dom/me - 2/4/2008 6:32:02 PM   
meticulousgirl


Posts: 969
Joined: 2/20/2007
Status: offline 		Whatever the Dominant Prefers

~meticulous~

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RE: How to address your Dom/me - 2/4/2008 6:37:55 PM   
SirJohnMandevill


Posts: 546
Joined: 11/10/2005
Status: offline 		I require my submissive to call me "Sir" during a play session or in a lifestyle gathering (club, munch, whatever). Otherwise, my name works just fine!
 
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RE: How to address your Dom/me - 2/4/2008 6:40:11 PM   
atursvcMaam


Posts: 1195
Joined: 5/10/2004
Status: offline 		i use Ma'am or Sir as a general rule, unless i have been given instructions otherwise.  if i am adressing or writing to a group of Dominants it is Mes Dames et Mes Patrons.  i am not French, but recoil at Ma'ams, and as long as i have changed languages, i try to stay consistent.  And Mes Patrons is more accurate than Mes Sieurs. 

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RE: How to address your Dom/me - 2/4/2008 7:52:15 PM   
LadyPact


Posts: 32566
Status: offline 		Due to the circumstances of the current dynamic, m'Lady has just always seemed to fit.  When I first met My current sub, he called Me Ma'am, but he also called everyone else he respected in the lifestyle the same thing, so that didn't work.  The night I collared him, I told him he would now be permitted to call Me Mistress.  (See Venus' post above to understand that.)  Oddly enough, I told him to go back to m'Lady, because it had become special to Me in it's unique use with him.  It's just become so natural that I don't want it changed.  In his eyes, I am exactly that.  His m'Lady.

For others, all I ask is that if they feel a courtesy or a respect towards Me, Ma'am is fine.  "Mistress A--" is good if they respect Me as a Domme.  Lady Pact is what I'm normally called.  Goddess is too pretencious for My style.

To go along with something else Venus said, My sub doesn't call Me by My given name.  To Me, that's usually a sign that something is very wrong, and needs to be immediately addressed.


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RE: How to address your Dom/me - 2/4/2008 11:14:53 PM   
onthenosetone


Posts: 118
Joined: 7/22/2006
Status: offline 		I address mine as Ma'am at all times when we're alone, in public by her name if anything....

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RE: How to address your Dom/me - 2/4/2008 11:32:35 PM   
katie978


Posts: 352
Joined: 7/21/2007
Status: offline 		   I usually go with his name, or with Master if we're playing or I'm feeling particularly sub. Occasionally when I'm thinking or talking to myself I'll switch to mon Maitre or tack on a Japanese honorific, though both seem too silly to utter in the presence of someone else.

  I've been trying to think of a nickname to call him...the typical nicknames a girlfriend would choose don't really seem to fit, since I, for one, always pick nicknames for boys to be particularly embarassing. And embarrassing the dom types doesn't seem to really fit.

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RE: How to address your Dom/me - 2/5/2008 1:48:42 AM   
childoftheshadow


Posts: 458
Joined: 8/2/2006
From: London UK
Status: offline 		Oh, let's see, what do I call him

Honey
Sweetie
Sweetheart
Monkey
Monkey Man
Monkey Moo Moos
Any other variation of Monkey I think at any given moment
In email I've been known to address him as Sir Monkey Von Bottom Smacker

When speaking to other people about him I'll use his proper name, but I've not actually used his proper name when speaking to him in probably 7 years.

It works for us

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RE: How to address your Dom/me - 2/5/2008 3:12:22 AM   
Justme696


Posts: 3236
Joined: 1/7/2008
From: Royal kingdom of the Netherlands
Status: offline 		I demand Master, or Meester in dutch, when we are together and in public with other people around just my name.
I dislike "hé can you.." kind of remarks...I punish for it.

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RE: How to address your Dom/me - 2/5/2008 3:19:21 AM   
liketophoto


Posts: 763
Joined: 6/17/2007
Status: offline 		I call Her My Lady in my dreams, not sure She hears me.

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RE: How to address your Dom/me - 2/5/2008 3:20:31 AM   
MidMichCowboy


Posts: 665
Joined: 3/23/2007
Status: offline 		I've been call my name with all types of adjectives depending on the circumstancees.
If we are intimate I've been call, my darling Michael (that's nice)
If I'm pushing limits I've been called ... you bastard, Michael  (can be nice) or you f**ker, Michael
I've been called Master and Sir ... ok, but usually only after we get to know each other
I've been called Papa  (my kids call me Papa and it was part of a former radio name)
I don't get too hung up on what I'm called, as long as I'm called. 

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RE: How to address your Dom/me - 2/5/2008 4:40:55 AM   
HalloweenWhite


Posts: 1028
Joined: 6/20/2005
Status: offline 		I like "Sir". If I were to own a submissive, I'd be happy with either "Sir" or "Master".

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RE: How to address your Dom/me - 2/5/2008 4:48:33 AM   
MissLily


Posts: 146
Joined: 8/19/2007
Status: offline 		Hmmm... I ask to be addressed as either Miss or Miss Lily.

I simply hate being called Mistress or worst Goddess! I don't know, it just sounds too theatrical for Me, and I'm not into that.

Miss Lily

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RE: How to address your Dom/me - 2/5/2008 5:53:20 AM   
adoracat


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ORIGINAL: greyangelus

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Never had anyone refer to me as Lord though I have heard the occasional "Oh God" or "Ohhhhhhhhhh Lord".


Hey, its the Atheist prayer ( when's the only time an Atheist prays? right before they have orgasm )


and hearing OH GOD in the dark does NOT make you a deity...

kitten, who has to say that to Daddy on a regular basis *giggling*

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