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subsamantha79 -> How to address your Dom/me (2/4/2008 12:02:40 PM)

I am reasearching the differant ways that a Dom/mes want to be addressed. i.e. Master, Mistress. Please leave your comments but please be serious[;)]. thank you



servantheart -> RE: How to address your Dom/me (2/4/2008 12:09:01 PM)

My Master prefers to be addressed as Sir.
 



sambamanslilgirl -> RE: How to address your Dom/me (2/4/2008 12:10:12 PM)

if they own you, whatever name they instruct you to address them

if they don't own you, real/screen/nickname






greyangelus -> RE: How to address your Dom/me (2/4/2008 12:12:27 PM)

Lots of different things and is dependant on the individual.  Their first name until you get to know each other better.  Some don't really have a preference for any of the common ones.  Some come up thats unique to themselves.  Some like being addressed with a title until you get to know them.   All of them prefer to be respected.

If your looking for a list, theres a huge amount of resourcses on the net that will have one.

Also note, if they start demanding you call them by a title without you asking about it at first, this is generally considered to be a Bad Sign.

Go through your mail in a day or two, You'll see what I mean.



Gleegal67 -> RE: How to address your Dom/me (2/4/2008 12:12:29 PM)

 
Preference of how they want be addressed is usually given to you by your Dominant.

Although, the standards are Sir/Ma'am, Master/Mistress, Daddy/Mommy, God/Goddess, Raggedy Andy/Raggedy Ann...there are just so many darn many! ;)

~Always the gleeful one~



greyangelus -> RE: How to address your Dom/me (2/4/2008 12:14:03 PM)

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ORIGINAL: greyangelus

Lots of different things and is dependant on the individual.  Their first name until you get to know each other better.  Some don't really have a preference for any of the common ones.  Some come up thats unique to themselves.  Some like being addressed with a title until you get to know them.   All of them prefer to be respected if they're being respectful towards you.

If your looking for a list, theres a huge amount of resourcses on the net that will have one.

Also note, if they start demanding you call them by a title without you asking about it at first, this is generally considered to be a Bad Sign.

Go through your mail in a day or two, You'll see what I mean.



TracyTaken -> RE: How to address your Dom/me (2/4/2008 12:34:14 PM)

Let’s see.  His name always works, but I’m more likely to call him honey.     I’ll call him “sir” if he’s being very bossy.    I call him daddy on Tuesday and Thursday mornings because he drives me to school, and I can’t resist.    We have a particular game wherein I address him as “Commando Man” in the respectful tone of one addressing a superhero who is holding a paddle.    If he is being spaced-out and not hearing me, I call him Major Tom (as in:  Ground Control to Major Tom).     If he has fashioned a repair with the clever use of unlikely material, I call him MacGyver (that one may be his favorite).   He has a few times called me slave (“baby” is more likely).  I don’t call him Master – it feels weird.




DesFIP -> RE: How to address your Dom/me (2/4/2008 12:45:18 PM)

Honey usually. He doesn't like dear. And sweetheart sometimes although that doesn't come natural to me. We have teens so high protocol doesn't work here.



CreativeDominant -> RE: How to address your Dom/me (2/4/2008 12:49:59 PM)

I've been addressed as Sir, my Sir, and Master. I have also had one who used "my" with my name after it.

Never had anyone refer to me as Lord though I have heard the occasional "Oh God" or "Ohhhhhhhhhh Lord". [;)]



greyangelus -> RE: How to address your Dom/me (2/4/2008 12:52:23 PM)

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Never had anyone refer to me as Lord though I have heard the occasional "Oh God" or "Ohhhhhhhhhh Lord".


Hey, its the Atheist prayer ( when's the only time an Atheist prays? right before they have orgasm )



mhawk -> RE: How to address your Dom/me (2/4/2008 12:53:11 PM)

my Owner preffers me to reffer to Him as my Lord and His wofe/My Mistress prefferes me to reffer to Her as either my Lady or Mistress



kyraofMists -> RE: How to address your Dom/me (2/4/2008 12:54:01 PM)

From Alandra and I, he wants to be addressed as 'my Lord'.

From others, he prefers to be addressed by his first name.  If a someone wants to address him in another manner because he has their respect, he prefers they use 'sir' and be consistent in its use.  However, this is a decision they must make.

Knight's Kyra



batshalom -> RE: How to address your Dom/me (2/4/2008 1:32:40 PM)

I've had Doms who preferred Sir. I've had Doms who preferred their first names. Aba typically liked to be addressed as Aba (Daddy, in Hebrew) except when it was time for impact play, and then he preferred Adoni (Master). I had a Master who wanted to be called Master, but would also tolerate M and King depending on who was around, although he would never allow me to call him by his first name.



MasterFireMaam -> RE: How to address your Dom/me (2/4/2008 1:58:59 PM)

This refers to my own. When being spoken to, Ma'am. When being spoken of, Master Fire. Others not mine call me what they choose.

Master Fire



xxblushesxx -> RE: How to address your Dom/me (2/4/2008 2:14:51 PM)

I call mine "HoneyMaster" or sometimes "MeatballMaster" (because He is a skilled Italian cook.)

~Christina

I've called Him a few other things, but I'd rather not go into that right now...[:-]



greyangelus -> RE: How to address your Dom/me (2/4/2008 2:16:53 PM)

Pizza the Hut?



MistressVnus -> RE: How to address your Dom/me (2/4/2008 2:39:53 PM)

I'm going to spew what was taught to me as "Old Guard" protocol.

The singular term "Master" or "Mistress" without a surname or name after it is a sign of Ownership.
ie.....Mistress   vs.   Mistress Venus
If you are addressing a Dominant who does not own you, however, you want to show respect..then you either address them as Ma'am or Sir  OR you can address them by their title and surname as in the example I gave before....Mistress Venus.
However, even in the Old Guard, each has their preferences, and upon an introduction or meeting, it would be wise to just ask..."How would you like me to address you Ma'am, Sir...."  And, the only time my ears would perk is if someone would tell you to address them as "Mistress" or "Master" exclusively, without a surname.  This means they are "your" Owner.

That being said,  the rules have relaxed.  Especially with the Pro-Dom/Domme boom.  A paying client wants to feel that ownership, even if only for an hour.  I, personally, excuse these people from regular lifestyle protocols.

And, because of this, in addition to the protocols being so forgotten and/or individualized, I do tolerate many to call me "Mistress", in and of itself, during an interview or petition.  But only of their own volition.  HOWEVER, that said, I NEVER request that from someone I don't "own." And, if asked what I prefer, I will tell you Mistress Venus, or MsV for short.  Especially when typing. (I hate Ma'am...makes me feel old and reminds me of my step-mother).
I would NEVER expect or demand someone call me "Mistress" unless I own them.  And, even then, I haven't found the need to demand it, but I do expect it.



AquaticSub -> RE: How to address your Dom/me (2/4/2008 2:50:40 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: subsamantha79

I am reasearching the differant ways that a Dom/mes want to be addressed. i.e. Master, Mistress. Please leave your comments but please be serious[;)]. thank you


Leave a comment, I can do. Be serious? Well I don't know about that.

On most occasions, Valyraen prefers his name. I also call him Sir, Owner, Honey Bunches of Oats, Monkey Twat and Master. Just about any term of endearment that pops into mind that either makes us smile, fits the situation or amuses us.



wisteriaV -> RE: How to address your Dom/me (2/4/2008 2:54:30 PM)

I call Master, Master, Sir, Sire, T.C. or his given name when I am really upset..thats the only time I am allowed to use his given name. I call other Doms/Tops Sir and others by their nick or real name. I never call another female maam unless its my mom or someone older than myself. All females are called by their first name or online nick.



DiurnalVampire -> RE: How to address your Dom/me (2/4/2008 3:02:53 PM)

Depending on the day and possibly the company, Fox calls me Maam, Mommy, DV (yes, he has actually used it), Love and by my given name. When speaking to others about me, he tends to refer to me as his Owner.
Angel has called me Goddess, Maam and Mommy as well as my given name.
From those who are not mine, I will tolerate Mistress once or twice though I will correct it. I am ok with Maam, or Madam and I answer to DV or Ms.Vampire... and various vesions thereof. Very few learn my real name unless they have gotten to know me well.  Once they have learned it, I expect them to use it.

DV




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