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RE: Conversation is not a one way street - 2/5/2008 1:27:49 PM   
OmegaG


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I don't ask many questions, especially in the beginning.  I prefer that conversation flow naturally rather then being directed for one, but the biggest reason is that I like to see when a person divulges information not just what they divulge, IMO as much can be gleaned with the when as the what.

Besides, too many people who ask questions aren't really listening, they are setting the ground work to segue back to themselves or they will ask questions and not give reciprocole(sp) information back.

If the conversation is flowing and information is being shared, don't sweat the how.


I agree with this, but I think asking some questions is an important part of conversational flow. I like things to flow too, but I have a natural instinct to ask a couple of questions, just because I like to show that I am interested in the other person and am not just rambling on about myself. It doesn't have to be a question and answer session, but they're a part of good conversation, in my opinion. I consider myself a little shy sometimes, but I make an effort to converse well, and if the other person does too then it takes the shyness away.


Well-- I think of questions as out of the blue things, I ask qualifiers.  For instance I won't ask someone what their favorite food is (which is a hard question for me anyway since I don't have one) but if he mentions he is a vegitarian I will ask more about that.

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RE: Conversation is not a one way street - 2/5/2008 1:37:34 PM   
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Sometimes it is not a bad idea to spook someone early.  however, if You want someone to feel that You are interested try asking questions like "how are your feet feeling" and take an interest in the simple "How was your day?" questions. Don't accept "OK, Fine or Good" as an answer, delve into "Why" and follow up.  Did you get that problem fixed, is your boss still taking 4 hour lunches, etc.  if they don't get the example that questions and answers are important, try explaining it to them.  if they don't get it then, then spook them.

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RE: Conversation is not a one way street - 2/6/2008 8:30:56 AM   
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My experience is that if there aren't any questions at all, there's a fake the other end.

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RE: Conversation is not a one way street - 2/6/2008 8:34:56 AM   
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My experience is that if there aren't any questions at all, there's a fake the other end.


Or maybe the chemistry, or interest is not there? Maybe they are having a bad day, and are distracted. Does that make them fake?

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