OmegaG
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ORIGINAL: OmegaG I don't ask many questions, especially in the beginning. I prefer that conversation flow naturally rather then being directed for one, but the biggest reason is that I like to see when a person divulges information not just what they divulge, IMO as much can be gleaned with the when as the what. Besides, too many people who ask questions aren't really listening, they are setting the ground work to segue back to themselves or they will ask questions and not give reciprocole(sp) information back. If the conversation is flowing and information is being shared, don't sweat the how. I agree with this, but I think asking some questions is an important part of conversational flow. I like things to flow too, but I have a natural instinct to ask a couple of questions, just because I like to show that I am interested in the other person and am not just rambling on about myself. It doesn't have to be a question and answer session, but they're a part of good conversation, in my opinion. I consider myself a little shy sometimes, but I make an effort to converse well, and if the other person does too then it takes the shyness away. Well-- I think of questions as out of the blue things, I ask qualifiers. For instance I won't ask someone what their favorite food is (which is a hard question for me anyway since I don't have one) but if he mentions he is a vegitarian I will ask more about that.
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