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Count the Cost - 2/6/2008 9:23:44 PM   
breatheasone


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Status: offline 		Is the high, worth the low?

You finally did it....you met "The one" there is ZERO doubt in your mind and heart. Everything about this person...EVEN THEIR FLAWS, are a perfect fit with you. You are going to lose this person(meaning they are going to die)....this person will not be in your life for long....probably less then 10 years.(ok I can hear the youngans saying "OMG 10 years is a LONG fuckin time" but trust me its NOT) Do you go for it? Knowing the loss will be life altering and DEVASTATING, and thats not coming close to how bad its REALLY going to feel. Knowing the hurt thats coming....do you take the joy?


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RE: Count the Cost - 2/6/2008 9:26:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yes.  Tis better to have loved and lsot than never to have loved at all.  PLus, if I don't go for it now it is like I lost them before it even began.

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RE: Count the Cost - 2/6/2008 9:27:02 PM   
Kalista07


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Status: offline 		My experience? In a freaking heartbeat....i hate trite sayings but the one about better to have love and lost than never to have loved at all comes to mind...That and when i even begin to count up all the wonderful, positive, self affirming things i've done, learned or gained from or through Him the cost doesn't really come into the equasion....i don't know if this makes any sense or not..Sorry.

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RE: Count the Cost - 2/6/2008 9:28:30 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Being someone who has always seem to be attracted to much older people, this is a question I seriously have to consider quite often.

Actually I'm more worried about me because my family tends to die pretty early while his lives a long time.  I'm not worried about dying, I'm worried about being so selfish as to die so much sooner than him.

For me, no, death alone would not stop me enjoying what relationship there is to enjoy.

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RE: Count the Cost - 2/6/2008 9:29:53 PM   
SailingBum


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Status: offline 		Nope not me not in this lifetime.  I have enuff ups and downs in life without this one.  My girl would tho her attitude is 10 years of pure bliss is worth the downside.

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RE: Count the Cost - 2/6/2008 9:30:40 PM   
conquer4love


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Status: offline 		In a heartbeat. Have found my love I can say that its well worth the loss in the long run.

Besides, pain is what makes the joy feel so go, death is what makes life worth living.


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RE: Count the Cost - 2/6/2008 9:31:52 PM   
TracyTaken


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Status: offline 		When my mother died, I was lost in grief for a while.  A friend said that grief is the price we pay for having loved so much.  I was okay with that - I would not have loved her less to spare myself the pain.

For whatever it's worth.

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RE: Count the Cost - 2/6/2008 9:33:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		BTW.....no fair answering this question if you are an emotional masochist LOL 

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RE: Count the Cost - 2/6/2008 9:33:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		110% hell yes. love like there is no tommorrow. Love is the most precious thing, take it when you can, hold on tight.

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RE: Count the Cost - 2/6/2008 9:35:06 PM   
catize


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Status: offline 		Will leaving now hurt any less?   Or will it compound the hurt 10 years from now when you realize you could have had more time with them?
Anyone of us could die tomorrow; there is no guarantee that any of us will be alive 10 years from now. 
Live for today and let the future unfold one moment at a time.

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RE: Count the Cost - 2/6/2008 9:35:32 PM   
denika


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RE: Count the Cost - 2/6/2008 9:41:46 PM   
akisha


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Status: offline 		Just because your protential partner might only live 10 years doesn't mean you wont be hit by a bus in 3 months.

Ofcourse you take the risk, There are no guarrantees in life you jump at every chance of happiness offered to you and cherish every minute of it.

None of us know if we have 50 years left of 15 minutes. What makes the difference is how we choose to live in that time.

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RE: Count the Cost - 2/6/2008 9:41:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yep, in a heartbeat,
10 years of pure anadulterated love riding on the edge of the night
Knowing the days blow by so soon for most but for me each would be as a eternity
I would shower her walks with roses and bring her screaming until the windows rattled and broke.
I would live in the moment and each day would be its own universe, timeless and forever.
And in the end the love would not die, it would just change form.

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RE: Count the Cost - 2/6/2008 9:42:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		"take from me the capacity for pain, and you rob me of the possibility for joy"

I think that sums it up.

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RE: Count the Cost - 2/6/2008 9:45:53 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana

Yep, in a heartbeat,
10 years of pure anadulterated love riding on the edge of the night
Knowing the days blow by so soon for most but for me each would be as a eternity
I would shower her walks with roses and bring her screaming until the windows rattled and broke.
I would live in the moment and each day would be its own universe, timeless and forever.
And in the end the love would not die, it would just change form.


WOW.....


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RE: Count the Cost - 2/6/2008 9:49:01 PM   
Phin


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Status: offline 		A song that I think fits this well. cmail me on the other side and I will send you the mp3 if you want it. It is a beautiful song.

Bravado By Rush

If we burn our wings
Flying too close to the sun
If the moment of glory
Is over before its begun
If the dream is won --
Though everything is lost
We will pay the price,
But we will not count the cost

When the dust has cleared
And victory denied
A summit too lofty
River a little too wide
If we keep our pride --
Though paradise is lost
We will pay the price,
But we will not count the cost

And if the music stops
Theres only the sound of the rain
All the hope and glory
All the sacrifice in vain
[and] if love remains
Though everything is lost
We will pay the price,
But we will not count the cost

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RE: Count the Cost - 2/6/2008 9:51:06 PM   
breatheasone


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Status: offline 		Phin...thats just beautiful...I would love to have that MP3.

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RE: Count the Cost - 2/6/2008 9:56:20 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: breatheasone

Is the high, worth the low?

You finally did it....you met "The one" there is ZERO doubt in your mind and heart. Everything about this person...EVEN THEIR FLAWS, are a perfect fit with you. You are going to lose this person(meaning they are going to die)....this person will not be in your life for long....probably less then 10 years.(ok I can hear the youngans saying "OMG 10 years is a LONG fuckin time" but trust me its NOT) Do you go for it? Knowing the loss will be life altering and DEVASTATING, and thats not coming close to how bad its REALLY going to feel. Knowing the hurt thats coming....do you take the joy?



Yes, actually I do.  Let Me explain.

When I first met My sub, it was explained to Me that he was only here temporarily for school.  In other words, less than a year from the time I met him.  For a little while, that put Me off.  How could I think of establishing a relationship with someone that I knew would have a finite ending of his time with Me?  Didn't I realize how difficult the ending would be?  Why would I set Myself up for that?

On the other hand, this sub was such a good fit for Me.  We just connected immediately.  From the very beginning, his place was just naturally at My feet.

As time went on, I knew I had to make a decision on the matter.  It took a lot of personal reflection, what I could do, what I couldn't do.

Out of the blue one day, I was looking at some cut flowers that I had in a vase.  That's when it hit Me.  The situation before Me was very much like that vase of fresh cut flowers.  Yes, I knew that one day they would wither and die.  Still, that didn't detract from the beauty the flowers had.  They didn't smell less sweet.  The petals less soft. 

It was then that I realized I wanted to take what I had for today, even knowing what would come tomorrow.  It is how I came to name My boy clip, because I knew he and the situation, were just like those freshly clipped flowers.  Beautiful today, even if it won't be forever.

I hope this helps you in your question.




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RE: Count the Cost - 2/6/2008 9:58:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yes. Just as the healthy should prepare for an unexpected death, those who are ill could live far longer than expected. 10 years and a slim chance of more would be worth it.

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RE: Count the Cost - 2/6/2008 9:59:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		Here is my answer... it is in my fave. movie. City of Angels. The frame is at 5:20 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DKY326hT310 

If you knew this was going to happen, would you have done it?

I would rather have had one breath of her hair, one kiss from her mouth, one touch of her hand, than eternity without it. One.

Love is so rare, so fleeting. To find it and not allow it to come in must be the biggest crime against not only yourself but also God. In my opinion any ways...  We are all dying from the second we are concived. Sharing the here and now is all we have.

Gwyn

For those of you who have not seen these movies yet.. go rent them! City of Angels, and The Fountian.

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