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ORIGINAL: AAkasha


Do you think that people who complain about their inability to find partners - yet, they limit their searching to basically this place (Collarme) - deserve to be single?  Those that don't make an effort to go to munches or parties, don't look in other avenues, don't use other services that may cost money?

I attend local munches and socials but still choose to go with CM, above the other sites.  Yes, there is a part of me that likes the "free" part...but a bigger part likes this site because it seems more suited to finding a relationship versus a one-night stand (like Alt, AFF, etc).

Collarme is a free site.  As such, it invites a lot of time wasters -- after all, you can make a profile for free and have all the fun you want and never intend to meet anyone.  If collarme was a pay site, would these people who are complaining pay, or just stop using this site?  Is there something to be said for the willingness to invest (perhaps in another of the personals site that has a pay option, or, through a more vanilla setting with some clever innuendo) money in the search? 

There are "time wasters" on every singles site...even the "vanilla" kind.  Some people are more suited to their computers than an actual partner.

People complain a lot about the search functions here, how there are too many fakes or pros, how people vanish, etc.  Yet, they forget to realize this is a free site - of course, with that, you get an element of waste.  So instead of paying with money, you are paying with time.  How valuable is your time?

My time is valuable regardless of how much money I choose to spend, or not spend, in this case.

Would you be willing to pay $50 a month for a personals service that guaranteed no pros were lurking? No tribute seekers? How about $100?  How about $10?  These are rhetorical questions, but the answers may be interesting.

*Life* offers no guarantees,so how is Collar Me supposed to?

Do you pay for a personals service (bondage.com, alt, whatever) and if so, are the results considerably better than here?  Do you waste less time there?

I used ONE other site that I paid for every year, for several years on end.  I achieved no better results there than here...in fact, I've had better luck here.

If you don't choose to search for partners via other means - parties, munches, etc., what's the reason?

This doesn't apply to me.  I personally can't fathom why someone would want to limit their search to "online dating."

Akasha

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If you don't choose to search for partners via other means - parties, munches, etc., what's the reason?

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ORIGINAL: Padriag
I've used some pay sites in the past (i.e. Alt.com, Bondage.com and few others) and I can't really say they were any better than CM.  Part of the problem is that often they charge only men, while allowing women free memberships.  So it doesn't really eliminate all the "time wasters".  Some also salt their female membership with "ringers."  Even on some more expensive services, there were still problems with either the service itself or with some of the members I was "matched" with.  But, I can say on the more expensive and more discreet services, the problem was significantly less.

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha


Do you think that people who complain about their inability to find partners - yet, they limit their searching to basically this place (Collarme) - deserve to be single?  Those that don't make an effort to go to munches or parties, don't look in other avenues, don't use other services that may cost money?

Collarme is a free site.  As such, it invites a lot of time wasters -- after all, you can make a profile for free and have all the fun you want and never intend to meet anyone.  If collarme was a pay site, would these people who are complaining pay, or just stop using this site?  Is there something to be said for the willingness to invest (perhaps in another of the personals site that has a pay option, or, through a more vanilla setting with some clever innuendo) money in the search? 

People complain a lot about the search functions here, how there are too many fakes or pros, how people vanish, etc.  Yet, they forget to realize this is a free site - of course, with that, you get an element of waste.  So instead of paying with money, you are paying with time.  How valuable is your time?

Would you be willing to pay $50 a month for a personals service that guaranteed no pros were lurking? No tribute seekers? How about $100?  How about $10?  These are rhetorical questions, but the answers may be interesting.

Do you pay for a personals service (bondage.com, alt, whatever) and if so, are the results considerably better than here?  Do you waste less time there?

If you don't choose to search for partners via other means - parties, munches, etc., what's the reason?

Akasha

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied
no response = no interest

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ORIGINAL: MissMorrigan

Padriag, I am appalled to read that some sites actually charge men for membership, but not women - that is something I hadn't heard of until now. I've heard of some BDSM-related clubs charging men MORE and I've always been of the opinion that I refuse to patron establishments that discriminate on gender.
The reason the sites do this is to make the site more balanced. There are so many more men than women out there...looking, so the sites offer free memberships to bring women onto the site.

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied
Have you ever responded that way to a D-type and then get tons of mail from him trying to convince you?  Best not to go down that pathetic road.  It's not rude to ignore unsolicited email.  Do you respond to every piece of junk mail you recieve?