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RE: Are Dommes supposed to have feelings? - 2/8/2008 2:29:05 PM

MsCfromMelbourne

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ORIGINAL: Chaze

Dnomyar, "I have subs that I meet for sceening and after we go our own way. I see them as friends not lovers."
Madam I totally agree, I have female friends, I have female lovers and females I play with, none are one in the same and most certainly I have no emotional attachments with anyone of them. Neither do I offer more then moments, hours or a few days of my time.
More then that would bore the hell out of me.

LOL

Dnomyar is a man, not a "Madam".

Why would a man purport to answer a question posed to dommes (not doms)? Don't know

One things for sure though, you two (Dnomya and Chaze) should hook up! Looks like you were made for eachother

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RE: Are Dommes supposed to have feelings? - 2/8/2008 2:31:44 PM

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ORIGINAL: MsCfromMelbourne
One things for sure though, you two (Dnomya and Chaze) should hook up! Looks like you were made for eachother

At least for a few days, hehe.

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RE: Are Dommes supposed to have feelings? - 2/8/2008 2:47:09 PM

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I love my malesub with all of my heart, for me a relationship as deep as the one we have has to have feelings involved. That is what makes it so deep. Now I realize my relationship would not work for everyone some people don't want to mix love in their D/s relationship but for me it works. I do make the rules and he follows them, sometimes they have to bend because real life does happen.

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RE: Are Dommes supposed to have feelings? - 2/8/2008 3:10:02 PM

darchChylde

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ORIGINAL: MsCfromMelbourne
Why would a man purport to answer a question posed to dommes (not doms)? Don't know

Well, in my opinion; this is a public forum. As far as i'm concerned, i have every right to respond in any thread so long as my response is appropriate and respectful; no matter if i have a penis or not.

But, personally; the reason i answer questions posed to female dominants is because i believe that different perspectives;, even a male submissive's are important to get a full understanding of an issue. After all, where would the dominants be if there were no submissives?

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RE: Are Dommes supposed to have feelings? - 2/8/2008 3:21:13 PM

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I appreciate your responses, regardless of role, orientaion or gender. I would post these questions on other forums, but it is against the rules. So please, any and all input is greatfully recieved.
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RE: Are Dommes supposed to have feelings? - 2/8/2008 3:25:51 PM

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I drug out my Domme 101 book and the general consensus is that they are only allowed to have feelings on Mondays and Wednesdays between the hours of 12:01 AM and 12:05 PM. During that time they are also allowed to wear their pink fluffy bunny slippers.

All other times they must conduct themselves as cold hearted bitches. Dressed in the prerequisite uniform of black leather and 6"heels of course.

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RE: Are Dommes supposed to have feelings? - 2/8/2008 4:10:46 PM

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ORIGINAL: chivalrousknight

I never play casual so for me creating a deep bond between me and my Mistress is the conditio sine qua non a relationship is based on. I like to get to know the Woman before I get to know the Mistress inside Her and I definely need to create a structure based on trust, respect and honesty. From my point of view a D/s relationship is not different from a vanilla one. The D/s side of it has the power to make it stronger and the sentimental that develops from it is deeper. In my eyes a Mistress with feelings for Her slave doesn’t lose any of Her mystical power. I would rather say the opposite. Is there anything better than resting your head on Her chest and feeling Her heart beating faster because of you are ?

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RE: Are Dommes supposed to have feelings? - 2/8/2008 6:03:49 PM

DominaJayde

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I drug out my Domme 101 book and the general consensus is that they are only allowed to have feelings on Mondays and Wednesdays between the hours of 12:01 AM and 12:05 PM. During that time they are also allowed to wear their pink fluffy bunny slippers.

All other times they must conduct themselves as cold hearted bitches. Dressed in the prerequisite uniform of black leather and 6"heels of course.

I have pikachu slippers, does that disqualify me from the REAL domme society now?

Also listen for the thud as I fall over after I put my 6 inch heels on, just send over a spare boy to help me up, thanks

*grin*

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RE: Are Dommes supposed to have feelings? - 2/8/2008 6:49:50 PM

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I don't know if dommes are supposed to have feelings. I just know that all the good ones do.

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RE: Are Dommes supposed to have feelings? - 2/8/2008 6:53:48 PM

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They better have,I am married to the most beautiful,sweetest one in the world but when the rubber meets the road look out,shes a wildcat...BH

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RE: Are Dommes supposed to have feelings? - 2/8/2008 6:59:30 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsCfromMelbourne

quote:

ORIGINAL: Chaze

Dnomyar, "I have subs that I meet for sceening and after we go our own way. I see them as friends not lovers."
Madam I totally agree, I have female friends, I have female lovers and females I play with, none are one in the same and most certainly I have no emotional attachments with anyone of them. Neither do I offer more then moments, hours or a few days of my time.
More then that would bore the hell out of me.

LOL

Dnomyar is a man, not a "Madam".

Why would a man purport to answer a question posed to dommes (not Dom's)? Don't know

One things for sure though, you two (Dnomya and Chaze) should hook up! Looks like you were made for eachother

Reels in the girl,like DC said this a public thread and the question was of interest to me because I am married to a Mistress./domme and yes there is a difference...BOUNTY

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RE: Are Dommes supposed to have feelings? - 2/8/2008 7:35:26 PM

MistressOfGa

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quote:

LOL

Dnomyar is a man, not a "Madam".

Why would a man purport to answer a question posed to dommes (not Dom's)?

Why would a dominant male answer this thread? The door may say Mistress but it doesn't ever stop anyone from commenting on the threads inside. Don't you ever go over to the Master's forum and answer or post threads?

As to the OP: I couldn't imagine not having feelings for my puppy. I don't think I would keep him or anyone long, if I didn't feel for them. However, in a scene with a sub/slave, the only thing I need to care about, is if the sub/slave is safe. I do not have to care about what kind of week he/she has had or if they had a good time singing karaoke the night before. I do care about whether they are enjoying the scene as much as I am :)

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RE: Are Dommes supposed to have feelings? - 2/9/2008 3:48:36 AM

MsCfromMelbourne

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Eeeeeerm....actually no. I don"t think I have ever gone over to Ask a Master and given an opinion about matters asked of the Masters (and/or Doms if there is a difference). I am not a Master.

I have certainly posed a question or two over there and read their perspective with great interest.

I did notice when I asked a question what Masters thought, a lot of submissives and Mistresses/ Dommes jumped in to explain what Masters think or should think to be Twue Doms. It took a while to get a first hand answer from a Master what they actually do think.

But as DC says, these are public boards obviously. Anyone can freely post anything anywhere.

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RE: Are Dommes supposed to have feelings? - 2/9/2008 11:24:41 AM

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I have feelings for anyone I am in a relationship with, but the feelings are different.

With my long term submissive partner there are shared emotions of romantic love, affection, respect, loyalty, and a general concern for everyday stresses, illnesses, and frustrations.

With the secondary partner that I seek, I expect to share affection, respect, and loyalty (and a lot of fun, but that isn't an emotion). Additionally, I am a possessive person and would expect to feel that emotion with anyone I am in a commited relationship with.

Although a secondary relationship does not necessarily include exclusivity (for myself or my partner), I would still expect to have some degree of control over my partner's choices as far as additional partners/playmates is concerned. If these expectations did not match, I would feel jealousy.

I've found that emotional expectations are just as important to discuss as kinks, s/m limits, and any other relationship parameter. I've found several potentials that match me well, but we didn't match on the emotional expectations.

I would definitely suggest making emotional expectations an important part of your negotiations.

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RE: Are Dommes supposed to have feelings? - 2/9/2008 11:49:29 AM

aidan

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Submitting to somebody who had no feelings or affection for me?

Yeah, objectification is a fun game, but not something I like to think is applied to me by somebody who I share that kind of intimacy with.

I wouldn't subject myself to a Domme who didn't have feelings.

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RE: Are Dommes supposed to have feelings? - 2/9/2008 1:58:15 PM

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Oddly enough, it depends on the situation, if i met someone at a club and there was a chance to arrange a play date, then i might not worry about it, providing it was a one off basis.

Generally though what Aidan said above.

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RE: Are Dommes supposed to have feelings? - 2/9/2008 3:43:11 PM

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ORIGINAL: Politesub53

Oddly enough, it depends on the situation, if i met someone at a club and there was a chance to arrange a play date, then i might not worry about it, providing it was a one off basis.

Generally though what Aidan said above.

I absolutely agree with this, Politesub. For a casual playmate I do not need, nor necessarily want, to have *feelings* for a submissive (other than respect and concern for safety). As Aidan observes, objectification can be fun.

However, when I am in a commited relationship mutual feelings are an important part of pleasure that I give and receive.

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RE: Are Dommes supposed to have feelings? - 2/9/2008 4:03:18 PM

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You can have any expectations you want, you just have to express them with the other person to see if their expectations are compatible.

Let's say you are married and have twelve subs, all of whom you expect to put you first even though you see each of them only once or twice a month. There probably are some subs who would be fine with this, they aren't looking for relationships at the present time, they're in school, or travel heavily etc.

But it's equally likely that if you expressed this to a potential that he would say this doesn't work for him, that he needs much more time. In that case neither of you are wrong, you just aren't compatible.

And if he's in an open relationship with a non domme who doesn't mind him being out twice a month to wash your kitchen floor and play Monopoly (or whatever) with you, that could work equally well. You wouldn't be his primary, he wouldn't be yours but you could still have a good relationship.

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