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bethylovescuddle -> my right to babytalk (2/7/2008 3:12:06 PM)

I'm talking adult in this incase baby talk offends anyone. Apparently it does and the last thing I want is to cause offence. However, when talking adult like this I often don't feel like it is my real self. Sadly there are people in fetish cultures who act very vanilla in that they say "none of that in our street" .... "clear off, you're not welcome". I feel sure you are all aware of these attitudes and i had hoped not to find them in Collarme but only introducing myself in little speech seems to bring them out in others. Huh? And I repeat again, huh? Should this thread be deleted it will just tell me that like the muggles we are very quick to judge others, and very slow to allow freedom of speech or expression. We all have the right to be what we are so long as it is not offensive, abusive or critical of others or how they choose to live there lives. Please think on this.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: my right to babytalk (2/7/2008 3:14:23 PM)

If you want to engage in an adult forum, you need to use adult speak.

Feel free to start a "baby talk thread" and speak however you choose.  Or start a yahoogroup for it.  Or munches.  Or have baby birthday parties (which can be oodles of fun)

I'm not limiting freedom of expression, I'm simply choosing that I don't want to converse with children when I come to these forums.  I'd do the same if someone said the f word twice in every sentence.  They can feel free to do it, but they will find themselves talking only to themselves.



domiguy -> RE: my right to babytalk (2/7/2008 3:16:39 PM)

Chick, do whatever knocks your socks and onesies off. Not at all my cup of tea.

I would give you a time out and take away yout Tickle-Me-Elmo till you got your shit together...But that's just me. I'm sure there are plenty of dudes who get off on this kind of shit....Well, maybe one or possibly two.



lillminx -> RE: my right to babytalk (2/7/2008 3:17:34 PM)

People are people no matter who they are or what group they belong to. Express yourself as you like, but keep in mind that people may be taken back by your 'baby talk.' It's no different if I started a conversation with someone by screaming. Some will take to it, others don't.
Be confident in who you are and remain appropriate. You'll be fine.



Nineveh -> RE: my right to babytalk (2/7/2008 3:18:06 PM)

I agree with Lucky Albatross.  I do not like babytalk, nothing wrong with it for those who are into it, but I don't want to deal with it when discussing things that are not related to it. For me the same applies to many of the Gorean speech patterns, they annoy me and I will not engage in conversation for very long with someone who uses them.  That doesn't mean I think those people should be banned, nor am I going to attack them for their choice in speech patterns, I am just not going to talk to them for any lengh of time.



ProlificNeeds -> RE: my right to babytalk (2/7/2008 3:20:05 PM)

A form of speaking shouldn't be a big issue. I'll confess I'm usually annoyed by affected forms of speech if used in the everyday situations, like 3rd person, and baby talk, but everyone has their right to their behaviors. I also have the right not to have to listen to it either if it's bothering me. I'd never tell anyone to clear off, but if I was annoyed by someone's form of speech I would excuse myself from their company.



orfunboi -> RE: my right to babytalk (2/7/2008 3:20:35 PM)

On Collarme, just like anywhere else on the web, you are going to meet judgemental people. They are everywhere and the best thing you can do is ignore them. Maybe go find yourself a good coloring book and a friend, and sit and color and watch a movie. I personally love anything Disney, but also am hooked on Harry Potter and Pirates. Oh and chocolate chips cookies fresh outta the oven help ya too. Sometimes i forget to bake em, but they taste good that way too.


Welcome to CM and have a fantabulous day :O)



TracyTaken -> RE: my right to babytalk (2/7/2008 3:21:50 PM)

I don't do babytalk in public.  I probably baby talk to him as much or more than he does to me.  It's bedroom stuff, private stuff, him & me stuff.

Of course, you have the right to "talk" anyway you please.  I strongly suggest doing it only with someone who understands.



orfunboi -> RE: my right to babytalk (2/7/2008 3:25:16 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: kc692

Didn't the muggles use adult speak?


I think she was refering to the fact that Harry's muggle family was so judgemental of everyone else.



bethylovescuddle -> RE: my right to babytalk (2/7/2008 3:25:51 PM)

but mebbe if someone objects to it they should just not reply instead of saying "this isn't the norm" get lost stuff. I find most adult chat full of pisstakers and wankers which is probably a bigger problem. My point is no one should be criticised for how they talk and who they are.



stef -> RE: my right to babytalk (2/7/2008 3:26:21 PM)

Write however you like, but don't be surprised if you're ignored.  If someone goes out of their way to intentionally make themselves more difficult to understand, whether it's using baby talk, S/slash S/speak or pig latin, I'm just going to ignore them.  I'm willing to wager that I'm not the only one.

~stef



domiguy -> RE: my right to babytalk (2/7/2008 3:29:05 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: bethylovescuddle

but mebbe if someone objects to it they should just not reply instead of saying "this isn't the norm" get lost stuff. I find most adult chat full of pisstakers and wankers which is probably a bigger problem. My point is no one should be criticised for how they talk and who they are.


Pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeez! How you speak is one of the fundamental criteria that people will utilize to form a conclusion about another. It is naive or worse to think to the contrary.



subtee -> RE: my right to babytalk (2/7/2008 3:31:38 PM)

I don't know why it would offend or bother anyone who is secure with themselves, and I don't know why you've been told to go elsewhere. Curious.

It's obviously what you would like to do and I'm positive you're not alone. This is a kink site and this would be the place, to my mind, for your to find other, like-minded individuals.

Folks that don't care to engage with other folks that enjoy this need only read the headline and not engage, it seems to me.



batshalom -> RE: my right to babytalk (2/7/2008 3:37:38 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: bethylovescuddle

but mebbe if someone objects to it they should just not reply instead of saying "this isn't the norm" get lost stuff. I find most adult chat full of pisstakers and wankers which is probably a bigger problem. My point is no one should be criticised for how they talk and who they are.


When in Rome, and all that, eh?

There are social norms that we follow or choose to not follow. While I can appreciate your wish to be special in this case and to avoid ridicule and / or irritation from others based on the way you choose to communicate, it simply isn't how the world works.

Take this a step further. Suppose your kink was flatulence. Would you expect people to accept your public passing gas - an obvious fall from the social norm - just because it was your kink? It's more extreme of course, but it's still relative.



darchChylde -> RE: my right to babytalk (2/7/2008 3:37:45 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: bethylovescuddle

I find most adult chat full of pisstakers and wankers which is probably a bigger problem. My point is no one should be criticised for how they talk and who they are.


Is it just me, or are these two conflicting sentences?  i believe that the main issue of using baby-talk or any other kind of irregular affected speach pattern in a "normal" thread is that you are inflicting your kink upon others without their consent.  Such a thing is actually one of the greater offenses in the community.



LaTigresse -> RE: my right to babytalk (2/7/2008 3:38:00 PM)

beth you can talk any old way you want to. Those of us that would rather chew aluminum foil than read/listen to it will just ignore you, (well there are some that will give you 10different kinds of hell but that is the nature of the net) I refuse to enable baby talk in minors of any age and I sure as hell will not have a conversation with an adult doing it.

That being said, if it's your thing.........go for it. Just don't expect a warm fuzzy from everyone, or to have your words acknowledged if you are trying to have a conversation.



orfunboi -> RE: my right to babytalk (2/7/2008 3:43:38 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: darchChylde

quote:

ORIGINAL: bethylovescuddle

I find most adult chat full of pisstakers and wankers which is probably a bigger problem. My point is no one should be criticised for how they talk and who they are.


Is it just me, or are these two conflicting sentences?  i believe that the main issue of using baby-talk or any other kind of irregular affected speach pattern in a "normal" thread is that you are inflicting your kink upon others without their consent.  Such a thing is actually one of the greater offenses in the community.



How is she doing this? She has posted in 3 threads so far. Her introduction, this thread and she made a comment on a ongoing thread ( and responded like an adult)

How is this inflicting her kink on anyone? Did someone force you to read this thread or her introduction? Not sure what you mean....



Peridot -> RE: my right to babytalk (2/7/2008 3:44:23 PM)

I saw plus sized onesies for sale on craigslist.  
Just sayin'




batshalom -> RE: my right to babytalk (2/7/2008 3:49:09 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: orfunboi

How is this inflicting her kink on anyone? Did someone force you to read this thread or her introduction? Not sure what you mean....


He means speaking in babytalk in general, exposing others to one's personal kink. It would hold true for a lot of things, like exposing oneself in public or subjecting "innocent bystanders" to your kink for roman showers. He didn't mean right now specifically.



darchChylde -> RE: my right to babytalk (2/7/2008 3:57:18 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: orfunboi

quote:

ORIGINAL: darchChylde

quote:

ORIGINAL: bethylovescuddle

I find most adult chat full of pisstakers and wankers which is probably a bigger problem. My point is no one should be criticised for how they talk and who they are.


Is it just me, or are these two conflicting sentences?  i believe that the main issue of using baby-talk or any other kind of irregular affected speach pattern in a "normal" thread is that you are inflicting your kink upon others without their consent.  Such a thing is actually one of the greater offenses in the community.



How is she doing this? She has posted in 3 threads so far. Her introduction, this thread and she made a comment on a ongoing thread ( and responded like an adult)

How is this inflicting her kink on anyone? Did someone force you to read this thread or her introduction? Not sure what you mean....


i personally did not read her introduction, or any of her other posts but those in this thread.  i did not accuse her of anything, but spoke with the general "you" in referring to the act of using affected speech in an adult forum; which you would have understood if you had read my statement in context instead of latching on to one sentence fragment and running with it.

If you're not sure what i mean, read my previous post again; as a whole.  If you are still confused, so be it.

Edited to add:

quote:

ORIGINAL: batshalom
He means speaking in babytalk in general, exposing others to one's personal kink. It would hold true for a lot of things, like exposing oneself in public or subjecting "innocent bystanders" to your kink for roman showers. He didn't mean right now specifically.


batshalom, i caught this after i finished posting my own response; thanks for beating me to the punch.  i probably would have gotten it out before you if i didn't waste so much time typing nastiness that i later deleted before posting.




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