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charlotte12 -> RE: Nice Punishment Idea (2/8/2008 8:45:43 AM)
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ORIGINAL: OmegaG
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ORIGINAL: Faeorie
Kudos to the mothers! Kids these days (especially here in America) are horribly spoiled, and the way they treat their elders is appalling. My mom's a teacher for 2nd grade, and she has students calling her a whore, a bitch, asshole... you name it they've said it to her face. She also had a kid bring a crackpipe to school one day. And the parents are horrible to deal with. They almost always side with their kids as if everybody else is lying, and their 'precious' young one would never lie to them. My mother doesn't even work in a inner-city school or anyhting like that. It's in the suburbs part of Louisville, KY so I'd hate to see what kind of crap some of the bigger city schools have to deal with. People just treat kids too softly these days. If I'd been rude to a teacher, oh Hell my ass would burn for a week, I'd probably be grounded for a while, and I'd have to write a letter of apology. I bet that kid will be respectful of his elders after this. very effective form of punishment I think. The kid probably thought being rude to his teacher was "cool," and I'm sure he doesn't think that now.
Then again I'm not too fond of kids these days, spoiled lil snots they are. Back in my day you heard stories of kids being punished with the belt (or any other object close at hand) and I'm only 20... I'm sure some of you older folks have even worse horror stories to tell of your parents punishing you...and we all turned out fine... generally.
And I could tell you stories relayed to me by my mother of the children in her classes in the 60s acting no better then they do today and the parents turning a blind eye.
My parents were not proponents of public humiliation and punishment. To act up in a store meant we would leave imediately, either with one parent while the other continued to shop or the shopping trip was over if there was only one parent. Had they humiliated me in public I believe that I would have learned that bad behaviour is acceptable, so long as one was an adult.
Hehe, exactly Omega. I am pretty firmly against punishment like that for children (ironic because I believe it's essential for a slave...or I just want it as a slave [;)]. But that's a whole other topic about adult relationships...) I used to get into arguments with my roommate about this all the time. She would point out that when she was "beat" for something bad she did she never did it again. She said it was the only way to teach kids not to do things. I tend to see lots of people say "but I never did it again." Personally I agree with LA that a focus should be more on why the kid is acting out than the specific incident. There are a million and one "bad" things a child can do in just one day. Are you going to punish them for each incident until they've done all of them and now know every bad thing they shouldn't do or are the parents going to start taking time to teach their children the reasons why the things they're doing are bad, and modeling good behavior themselves? I was never hit or punished as a child. Not because my parents were soft on me but because I didn't do "bad" things. My parents spent time talking to me about things, taught me how to be fair with others and to remember that other people deserve as much respect as I do. I'm not trying to say I'm so wonderful or my parents didn't make mistakes but I personally think that fear of being humiliated does not make someone a kind person. It makes them a scared person who can't wait till they get the chance to humiliate someone else.
Just my 2 cents...or 2 dollars. I feel pretty strongly about this topic. [:)]
charlotte
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