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InkedMaster -> RE: When did You realize You were a Master? (2/10/2008 7:40:26 PM)

When my slave had begged naked on her knees infront of me for my Ownership. Until then I just considered myself an experienced Top that didn't engage in casual play.



NewMaster86 -> RE: When did You realize You were a Master? (2/10/2008 7:40:59 PM)

I would say about the time I was 15 or 16.  A few friends of mine constantly told me that I had a 'commanding presence' about me as well as an 'authoritative voice'. I didn't think anything about it until an older teacher of mine slipped and called me sir instead of my first name.

Was all downhill from there [:)].



DarkDaddyZ -> RE: When did You realize You were a Master? (2/10/2008 7:42:00 PM)

I haven't.[:)]



antipode -> RE: When did You realize You were a Master? (2/11/2008 5:38:48 AM)

Sometime during my third marriage I realized I am a real controller, and that is why vanilla did not work for me. I'd already been active in BDSM for many years, but that was the first time I really understood why. Not coincidentally, this was around the same time I first got to lead my own development teams, learning to cope with having to be a boss man.

I don't know that I agree with you on the "born dom" thing, though. I think the majority of "born doms" are actually "born bullies".



ThundersCry -> RE: When did You realize You were a Master? (2/11/2008 5:11:26 PM)

Thanks...InkedMaster.



Huntertn -> RE: When did You realize You were a Master? (2/11/2008 8:10:11 PM)

the first time a girl told me she was going to do this...and I told her she was Wrong to do that..and that I bust her ass if she even tried..so she did..and I did..and afterwards she asked me what took me so dam long to figure it out..lol
sure there was more to it..



RavenMuse -> RE: When did You realize You were a Master? (2/12/2008 8:34:15 AM)

When did I realise... My first girl, the one who introduced Me to D/s when I was in My teens, gave Me the terminology and context... but yes, I had always been wired this way, I just had new words to describe it and a context in which everything finaly made sense.



Searcher38 -> RE: When did You realize You were a Master? (2/12/2008 8:45:50 AM)

At the risk of sounding a bit pompous, I'll say it was the day that I bound and gagged two women just using my superior thought power.  



Rorec -> RE: When did You realize You were a Master? (2/12/2008 9:50:46 AM)

I wasn't born a master, I was made one by my first slave prior to enslavement.



Justme696 -> RE: When did You realize You were a Master? (2/12/2008 9:56:10 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Searcher38

At the risk of sounding a bit pompous, I'll say it was the day that I bound and gagged two women just using my superior thought power.  



sounds Ulrich Geller



labrat18610 -> RE: When did You realize You were a Master? (2/12/2008 3:36:55 PM)

There's something about a dominant male. I'm not sure what it is, but there seems to be a "trust" factor. This is how I met my first Master. I was at a gay bar. This short, scrawny guy with glasses walked in. Within a few minutes, people were lined up to buy him drinks. I was watching him from aross the room. Then I got the guts to get closer to him. He looked at me and threw me his car keys. He said, "It's the blue caddy in the back lot. Bring around to the frontdoor."  I said, "Okay", but it was more of a "Yes, Sir". While, I didn't think of it at the time, I could have stolen his car.  I just wanted to please this guy.
All my Masters had this "trust" quality.
So, I was wondering when a dominant male first realizes that other people are eager to serve and please him. And what was his first act of dominance?



TheMinder -> RE: When did You realize You were a Master? (2/12/2008 6:41:30 PM)

When I was about 4 and innocently playing with the girl next door who was also about my age, something strange happened. I needed to pee and so did she. We were in my backyard at the time so I just dropped my pants and let rip. Can you imagine my surprise when she dropped her panties and squatted. Hmmm, methinks, there's something different here, why doesn't she just point her dick at the ground and draw pictures?

The point I'm trying to make is that I have always been who/what I am. I never consciously made a mental decision to be male just as I never made a decision to be Dom... I just was. That might be an over simplification, but it's a fact. When I finally discovered there was a name for what I am and that there are a bunch of lovely weird people out there, it didn't change anything except that it gave me some additional words to type into pre-google search engines.

I think many other people are in the same position as me. That if they look back on their lives pre-discovery they can see that their inherent actions/feelings followed a specific pattern... and that when the 'ba-ding' bell went off their lives suddenly made sense.

My 2c worth.



Lumus -> RE: When did You realize You were a Master? (2/12/2008 9:08:36 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: labrat18610

There's something about a dominant male. I'm not sure what it is, but there seems to be a "trust" factor. This is how I met my first Master. I was at a gay bar. This short, scrawny guy with glasses walked in. Within a few minutes, people were lined up to buy him drinks. I was watching him from aross the room. Then I got the guts to get closer to him. He looked at me and threw me his car keys. He said, "It's the blue caddy in the back lot. Bring around to the frontdoor."  I said, "Okay", but it was more of a "Yes, Sir". While, I didn't think of it at the time, I could have stolen his car.  I just wanted to please this guy.
All my Masters had this "trust" quality.
So, I was wondering when a dominant male first realizes that other people are eager to serve and please him. And what was his first act of dominance?



People have been both trusting and scared of me since I was eight years old.  It's not everyone, they're not terrifed and immediately fall on their faces in a grovelling position.  Nor do they suddenly spill the contents of their skeleton-hiding closet before me.  When I knew I could control, I was a little scared myself.  When I knew I could trust my own judgment...that would be when I could have taken the title of Master, but it wasn't offered to me until a few years later when I had my first D/s encounter.

I think both fear and trust can be encouraged, and done so properly, I can easily posit how this appears to others as a 'built-in factor'.  Just remember...trust is good to have, good to share...but it should be tempered with a bit of common sense.

Oh.  And if the trust factor isn't there, Dom or no, think before acting - it's a great way to avoid regret...




MadRabbit -> RE: When did You realize You were a Master? (2/12/2008 9:31:42 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Searcher38

At the risk of sounding a bit pompous, I'll say it was the day that I bound and gagged two women just using my superior thought power.  


Geez...and I usually have to use telekinesis and my magic rope



Aswad -> RE: When did You realize You were a Master? (2/12/2008 9:59:49 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: labrat18610

So I was wondering when  did a Master first feels His dominant abilities?


24 years ago.

quote:

And what was the first act that convinced You that You were a Master?


I'd use the word dominant, rather than master, but anyway: for me, it was when a play partner tried turning the tables and I put her down hard- instinctively- getting an instant response of submission and arousal from her that lasted the rest of the night. Other things came later. Up to that point, I'd just been topping (or, on a couple of occasions, bottoming briefly) and playing with it. That was the first time I asserted dominance beyond mere suspense of disbelief.

Health,
al-Aswad.



Aswad -> RE: When did You realize You were a Master? (2/12/2008 10:23:22 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Don't believe in that total dominant since birth and before stuff.


See my comment on earliest age.

Rearing has a definite impact on this, as does prevailing culture. S/M and kinks are far more acceptable up here than D/s and M/s are, and I've seen extremely few people engaging in power exchange outside scenes. It is a culture very much (excessively so) rooted in the socialist ideas that nobody has any authority or responsibility, except as conferred by the state, and also in the ideas of the Jante Law (see Wikipedia if you're curious). Everyone is equal in the sense of sameness. To express any sort of control over others or dominance in any area but sports, is like pissing on a church altar.

It took an event that sparked an instinctive response to reawaken that. And it's taken a lot of effort to identify and remove the various inhibitions against exercising that dominant streak. While young, I'd meet people's eyes all the time. Later, I'd avoid eye contact, until somebody explained the social protocol around it. Now, I meet people's eyes again, and people respond to it. I take charge when a situation arises and people respond to that. A ton of little things that weren't the case in the intervening space of time. I'm not going to pretend I'm some magic über-dom that sends people scurrying as I walk down the street, but there is a definite (though usually subtle) shift in interactions with both men and women.

I suspect similar things are probably the case for some other dominants, too.

Health,
al-Aswad.



Justme696 -> RE: When did You realize You were a Master? (2/13/2008 4:21:50 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: labrat18610

There's something about a dominant male. I'm not sure what it is, but there seems to be a "trust" factor. This is how I met my first Master. I was at a gay bar. This short, scrawny guy with glasses walked in. Within a few minutes, people were lined up to buy him drinks. I was watching him from aross the room. Then I got the guts to get closer to him. He looked at me and threw me his car keys. He said, "It's the blue caddy in the back lot. Bring around to the frontdoor."  I said, "Okay", but it was more of a "Yes, Sir". While, I didn't think of it at the time, I could have stolen his car.  I just wanted to please this guy.
All my Masters had this "trust" quality.
So, I was wondering when a dominant male first realizes that other people are eager to serve and please him. And what was his first act of dominance?


That is interesting indeed...But Dominance is also to accept that certain people don't like this behaviour. Does that make the others bad then? (would you have been disliked there..if you didn't obey the stranger?)



EvilBreit -> RE: When did You realize You were a Master? (2/13/2008 7:55:54 AM)

I was called a dom before having my name, my parents where in the lifestyle way before its expansion like we see these days
and first time I was called "Master" was when I was 15 by my first slave who was 26
and since then, my relationships were in the lifestyle with alittle nilla but I always been a dictator, with 100% control and expecting 100% obedience



RedMagic1 -> RE: When did You realize You were a Master? (2/13/2008 8:05:49 AM)

I'm more impressed by the guy who can move ropes with the power of his mind.



mnottertail -> RE: When did You realize You were a Master? (2/13/2008 8:07:06 AM)

I can move strings with my fingers.
DominusVobiscum



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