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RE: pain or bondage non-sexual...huh? - 9/13/2005 9:09:29 AM

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I have found that if you can think of it someone has probably tried it in this lifestyle. I also have found that each individual decides what is appropriate and what is not. This allows for a wide variety of what you want.

I personally Need the release after playing, and the 2 Dom's that share me do too. It is almost like a force that is within them. I am always glad to ablige.

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RE: pain or bondage non-sexual...huh? - 9/14/2005 10:48:34 PM

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the cutting and burning thing can be a kind of release, not sexual at all, a kind of stop valve for emotional pain - and i spose carthartic in some scenarios ??

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RE: pain or bondage non-sexual...huh? - 9/15/2005 3:24:15 AM

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I am a Masochist and i am far from wierd. Judging us is somewhat rediculous. Its like saying i "think people who are into poly are wierdos" . Its what pleases me and who i may serve at the time. I go into such deep head space im out. Its a feeling like no other.
Please do not judge what isn't for you. We are supposed to be tolerant of others.

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I don't understand masochists that's for sure.

I mean I understand the consept of endorphin rushes, I see it all the time, I know their feelings and loves and abilities.

But I still just get the feeling like I'm watching something completely alien when I see a masochist being beaten and moaning for more. Weirdos.

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I don't understand masochists that's for sure.

I mean I understand the consept of endorphin rushes, I see it all the time, I know their feelings and loves and abilities.

But I still just get the feeling like I'm watching something completely alien when I see a masochist being beaten and moaning for more. Weirdos.

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RE: pain or bondage non-sexual...huh? - 9/15/2005 6:10:06 AM

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ORIGINAL: sweetpettjenny
I am a Masochist and i am far from wierd. Judging us is somewhat rediculous. Its like saying i "think people who are into poly are wierdos" . Its what pleases me and who i may serve at the time. I go into such deep head space im out. Its a feeling like no other.
Please do not judge what isn't for you. We are supposed to be tolerant of others.

Hi Jenny,

Sorry if you misinterpreted. My statement was meant to be amusing and sarcastic only, to show just how weird *I* feel when involved in that. My boyfriend is a huge masochist and I feel the same when I beat him!

Also, we're not "supposed" to be anything. If you expect bdsmer's to be any more tolerant than anyone else, you will be sadly disappointed.

Oh, and poly people ARE really weird.

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RE: pain or bondage non-sexual...huh? - 9/15/2005 9:15:01 AM

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Hello There,
I'm pretty new to the lifestyle. My Master actually did not permit me to touch him from his waist to knees for the first three months we were together to show me that BDSM play while often mingled with sex is not about intercourse contact it's about the power exchange between the individuals involved in scenes. It's a type of interaction all of it's own. He wanted me to find the hot, sexy, sensual, stimulation of BDSM as seperated from sexual relations before he'd be willing to mingle the two things together.
It's also very common for people to play with multiple partners and be intercourse monogamous with someone they consider to be their mate.

Hope this helps,
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RE: pain or bondage non-sexual...huh? - 9/15/2005 12:08:26 PM

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My 2 cents...

What I do is sensual. It's related to sex but not bound by it or to it in any way. Whomever I play with is nude, as I like to have access to whatever area attracts my attention. For some, it's all about the pain either giving or receiving. For others it's about the rush from an activity or the whole shebang. Everbody has their own way of looking at WIIWD.
I'm a masochist as well as a sadist. When I get pain it's a strong sexual turn on for me, I can orgasm from it and the person doing it never has to actually touch me in a sexual way. And yet there are other times as well when I like pain just for the feel of it, and it's not sexual in any way. When I am giving it (pain) it's pretty much the same thing. I think it's all in the dynamics of the relationship. If sex with your SO mixed with BDSM works for you, then great! If not, then if that works for you great again!

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