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RE: Daddy's and Daddy's Girls - 2/10/2008 2:55:56 PM   
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Okay  I am having a not so  great day  but I am going to try to  reply to  this BTW I am also Daddy & Carina

Yes at times a 'lil girl" can be treated as just that  a child.... in the manner he speaks to her to  the manner he treats her. Some dont see it as any more than fetish attire and spanking. But for many  of us it is about the discipline/structure/nuturing Sometimes we push to  feel the stronger parts.... sometimes we just screw up a bit. And it may be required. As I have said I  believe my need for it is because it is something I missed as a child / But then again  I  got beated as a child to oand I  think I  find the BDSM aspects of this as a way to  control the past. Who knows ... I am actually pretty  well rounded . I  just know that  with Daddy I find a comfort level and he pushes me in the right places to  go  further than I  believe I can. One of those push places is my writing I have written for ten years ... I am now in the place I am ready to put it out and try to sell it ... I would have never gone there without him. Okay I  so  got off the subject but YES  it can ean at times a *lil girl* maybe talked to  as tho she was a child at times in the relationship she truly is


Thank you, Sasy, and I hope your day gets better .
 
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RE: Daddy's and Daddy's Girls - 2/10/2008 2:57:24 PM   
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i get the feeling that it is a bit more rare, and generally looked down upon by those that enjoy the Daddy/little girl dynamic.  From what i have read of other's views, they tend to see the typical D/lg dynamic as one of nurturing, safety, growth, etc.   Just a generalization, i know that each D/lg relationship has it's own personal way of interpreting the dynamic. 

me, i'm just a sick bitch that gets off on things that are taboo. 


 LOL wenchie..... hmm.

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RE: Daddy's and Daddy's Girls - 2/10/2008 2:57:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		In my relationship.............  in that  aspect of it no more than a good spanking
In the other aspects yet is does

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RE: Daddy's and Daddy's Girls - 2/10/2008 3:17:53 PM   
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I dunno if that helps at all but thats my two cents.

~*Jaded*~


It does help some, Jaded, thank you.

Would you (or anyone) say then, that the "Daddy" is basically a gentle dominant? Does sadism/masochism ever come into play in these kind of dynamics?


For me when the Daddy/babygirl roles are in full force there is not much S/M, however if you have seen my avatar, it rings true. Deepdown I am quite the painslut, having said that there is always a time and place for everything, a snotty condescending tone or a smart remark would earn a grab and over the knee so quickly you never realized you left your feet until you hit about swat three. The question is, does a spanking for "misbehavior" become S/M? I do not think so as much as I think it is an outside attitude adjuster to help the reciever regain perspective of the situation.

I suppose you could say for me anyhow when I am in a D/s relationship with a Daddy we change the hat before the S/M begins. I do not go into a hard scene with my Daddy, I do that with my Master/Dom/Owner pick your idiom....... Because my Daddy may spank me but I do not think my Daddy could flog me to ten shades of red, cane me to see the pretty stripes in my flesh, drip hot wax on me to watch me squirm and hear me cry, because a Daddy does not seem to desire to hurt the babygirl they nurture..... I suppose they are personas. I cannot speak for all only myself but this is what seems to be with me....

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RE: Daddy's and Daddy's Girls - 2/10/2008 3:30:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		thanks for providing insight...i pretty much figured the "daughter" thing would make it pretty un-sexy...

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RE: Daddy's and Daddy's Girls - 2/10/2008 3:50:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		lol  please tell me i am not the only one that gets off on the D/lg dynamic being about pain, force, sex,  humiliation and objectification?  i know my way of practicing the dynamic is thought of negatively by some, but if i truly were alone i would never have found men that enjoy it.  Thinking about it though, i was the one that had to admit those things first, few men have been willing to be as direct about perverting the dynamic in that particular way.

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RE: Daddy's and Daddy's Girls - 2/10/2008 3:59:47 PM   
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lol  please tell me i am not the only one that gets off on the D/lg dynamic being about pain, force, sex,  humiliation and objectification?  i know my way of practicing the dynamic is thought of negatively by some, but if i truly were alone i would never have found men that enjoy it.  Thinking about it though, i was the one that had to admit those things first, few men have been willing to be as direct about perverting the dynamic in that particular way.


There are others, but as you said, it's quite taboo, and I imagine most that are into it would be hesitant to say so.
 
Edited to add: even taboo-er than the gentle D/lg thang.

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RE: Daddy's and Daddy's Girls - 2/10/2008 4:02:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		i never have been good at dancing around my particular kinks.  How in the world do people find what truly satisfies them if they are not willing to be honest?  

lol  then again, i reiterate that i am just a sick bitch that gets off on taboos.     i should get that tattooed on my ass

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RE: Daddy's and Daddy's Girls - 2/10/2008 4:05:28 PM   
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RE: Daddy's and Daddy's Girls - 2/10/2008 4:06:46 PM   
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copycat...unfortunately the tat artist spelled taboo with three "o's"


those kind of tattoo artists are known as SCRATCHERS.



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RE: Daddy's and Daddy's Girls - 2/10/2008 4:08:25 PM   
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i never have been good at dancing around my particular kinks.  How in the world do people find what truly satisfies them if they are not willing to be honest?  

lol  then again, i reiterate that i am just a sick bitch that gets off on taboos.     i should get that tatooed on my ass


It'd be better (IMO) to just have it written on your ass, leave the nice, creamy flesh unmarked.... by a tat, anyway.

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RE: Daddy's and Daddy's Girls - 2/10/2008 4:09:26 PM   
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RE: Daddy's and Daddy's Girls - 2/10/2008 4:09:40 PM   
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copycat...unfortunately the tat artist spelled taboo with three "o's"


LOL, not much worse than an illiterate tattoo artist.
 
Or an illiterate Level....... *adds a "t" to "tattoo"*

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RE: Daddy's and Daddy's Girls - 2/10/2008 4:10:33 PM   
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RE: Daddy's and Daddy's Girls - 2/10/2008 4:12:39 PM   
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lol  please tell me i am not the only one that gets off on the D/lg dynamic being about pain, force, sex,  humiliation and objectification?  i know my way of practicing the dynamic is thought of negatively by some, but if i truly were alone i would never have found men that enjoy it.  Thinking about it though, i was the one that had to admit those things first, few men have been willing to be as direct about perverting the dynamic in that particular way.
 You aren't. But as you said it is thought of negatively by some so it isn't something that I think most will casually admit to.Even in an anonymous setting like this there are socially taboo subjects like this that make a lot of folks uncomfortable.Personally I think it is interesting to talk about but so much of it brushes up against TOS that I'm hesitant to. And I know it squicks some people out, scares some people and even angers some people so I tend to keep quiet on subjects like this. I ran a really large chat room for a few years, one of those rooms where pretty much anything went as long as people were civil (surprising eh?). There were a ton of folks that firmly believed that even roleplay cyber sex with that flavor was deviant and disgusting. Cybersex! That has always amazed and kind of saddened me, I mean that was the point for me when I used to cyberplay. Doing things that were either physically or legally impossible to do otherwise. It still amazes me actually, that certain types of cyberplay are considered taboo even when between two consenting adults that never actually touch either other.So anyway, I've seen a lot of strong reaction to this concept so I'm never sure how much I can really say.

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RE: Daddy's and Daddy's Girls - 2/10/2008 4:16:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		i am used to having my kink viewed negatively, which does not truly bother me, other than i am quite willing to accept their kink and would only ask for the same consideration in return. 

Civility, in an online setting?  ~gasp~  

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RE: Daddy's and Daddy's Girls - 2/10/2008 4:17:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		For me it's faaaaaaaaaaaar far more than just being " a gentle dom" and to answer the previous question yes. Daddy talks to me like a child a lot. Not exclusively, and it  depend on the situation. but in short yes.

I don't know about all people doing D/lg dynamics, but ours involves masochisim, He's not a sadist though, it's not his goal to inflict pain on me and he don't live for it like most sadist seems to define. I like spankings, and when I hit a certain point in play I like it hard.

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Would you (or anyone) say then, that the "Daddy" is basically a gentle dominant? Does sadism/masochism ever come into play in these kind of dynamics?

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RE: Daddy's and Daddy's Girls - 2/10/2008 4:21:35 PM   
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lol  please tell me i am not the only one that gets off on the D/lg dynamic being about pain, force, sex,  humiliation and objectification?  i know my way of practicing the dynamic is thought of negatively by some, but if i truly were alone i would never have found men that enjoy it.  Thinking about it though, i was the one that had to admit those things first, few men have been willing to be as direct about perverting the dynamic in that particular way.
have had the roleplay and got off immensely ...just a part of hot sex, but not related to D/s or a M/s style relationship...i suppose that is where my questions come from...do you keep the same intensity as the dirty sex with a "Daddy" type?  And to what degree does the discipline and structure in that sort of relationship play over into everyday life?  Are there layers? Is it confusing  when you want Daddy/Top/Master...etc?

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RE: Daddy's and Daddy's Girls - 2/10/2008 4:31:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		i would say that the intensity level is still there, whether it be during sexual play or day to day interaction.  That does not mean there are not moments of cuddling, caring, stroking, etc, just that in an instant in can turn into something others could consider just plain wrong (ie the incestuous rape play, abuse, extreme degredation and objectification).  "Daddy" plays the exact same role as a Master would, other than the terminology, the structure and discipline are quite similar. As for layers, do not all relationships have many layers upon layers upon layers?   There is no confusion for me, i am not one to be micro managed or coddled, i do enjoy being pushed to continue growing and learning, so that aspect of D/lg is there as well as the incestuous role playing.  Really to  me i see it as a variation of any Master/slave relationship, only with that Daddy twist.  It is what works best for me, i know it isn't for everyone.  i have probably not explained it the best way i could, it is not an easy thing for me to explain. 

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RE: Daddy's and Daddy's Girls - 2/10/2008 4:32:47 PM   
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You aren't. But as you said it is thought of negatively by some so it isn't something that I think most will casually admit to.
Even in an anonymous setting like this there are socially taboo subjects like this that make a lot of folks uncomfortable.
Personally I think it is interesting to talk about but so much of it brushes up against TOS that I'm hesitant to. And I know it squicks some people out, scares some people and even angers some people so I tend to keep quiet on subjects like this.


Camille, I think a lot of it is that some are afraid that anyone playing in that territory is close to acting on it, and I think some object simply because they think that's what society wants to hear.

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For me it's faaaaaaaaaaaar far more than just being " a gentle dom" and to answer the previous question yes. Daddy talks to me like a child a lot. Not exclusively, and it  depend on the situation. but in short yes.

I don't know about all people doing D/lg dynamics, but ours involves masochisim, He's not a sadist though, it's not his goal to inflict pain on me and he don't live for it like most sadist seems to define. I like spankings, and when I hit a certain point in play I like it hard.



Thanks for your answer


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have had the roleplay and got off immensely ...just a part of hot sex, but not related to D/s or a M/s style relationship...i suppose that is where my questions come from...do you keep the same intensity as the dirty sex with a "Daddy" type?  And to what degree does the discipline and structure in that sort of relationship play over into everyday life?  Are there layers? Is it confusing  when you want Daddy/Top/Master...etc?


Exactly, the dynamic seems to incorporate all sorts of things... there better be some damn good communication going on, huh?

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