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24/7 lifestyle - 2/10/2008 12:08:44 PM

selena123

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I am wondering how many of you slaves would actually like to live the D/s lifestyle 24/7 not just scening,but actually being available all day long.the catch is how many would do this outside of a marriage?

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/10/2008 12:13:12 PM

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IN reading these boards, it seems that most of those involved in '24/7' relationships say that the d/s dynamic is THERE all the time, even if the day goes by without any overt sign of it... that the dynamic is more about what is within them.

Of course, I could be wrong :)

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/10/2008 12:21:46 PM

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GreedyTop is very right. Living '24/7' isn't living a scene 24/7. Sure maybe those who have no stress from work, family, and so on might have the leisure of living the fantasy more frequently. From those I've known however, life is a partner in your 24/7 relationship, whether you like it or not, and it usually demands more time than your floggers, whips and kneeling pad does.

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/10/2008 12:23:58 PM

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I wouldn't rule out the possibility, but can't say that I definitely want it, either. It seems pretty difficult to manage, particularly if it's not a live-in situation.

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/10/2008 12:36:03 PM

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depends what your idea of 24/7 is like ... there are many 24/7 relationships i see through this forum that i would do *almost* anything to escape ... because they seem to be one never ending scene ... which would get in the way of me living a life as well as serving as a slave

my idea of 24/7 ... I desire very much indeed ... the 24/7 that many live .. or imagine ... no thankyou very much

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/10/2008 12:56:04 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: selena123

I am wondering how many of you slaves would actually like to live the D/s lifestyle 24/7 not just scening,but actually being available all day long.the catch is how many would do this outside of a marriage?

I already do it now with Mistress. at the moment, I serve Her the best I can from 800 miles away. She is flying down at the end of March and we will meet for the first time then. Then I get to show Her how well I can serve Her.

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/10/2008 1:03:09 PM

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Living this 24/7 absolutely does not equate to the fantasy life so many give it. In our relationship it means serving without expectation of being immediate "rewarded" with a good flogging or spending one's days nude locked in a basement until the Master/Mistress wishes to play with them.

My 24/7 reality requires clothing most of the time, keeping Her schedule, cooking, cleaning, doing the dishes, laundry, accounting, secretary, sounding board for ideas/frustrations/concerns, having a brain to help figure out solutions (sometimes without being asked! gads!),.... I guess one could absolutely see it as what a "spouse" would do.

The difference being, it all revolves around making HER life easier, not necessarily my own. It means getting up and refilling Her drink even if I'm dead tired and want nothing more then to watch the last 5 minutes of CSI uninterupted. It means hauling my tired butt up the stairs and making Her cookies at 1am if She wants them, without complaint (really hard some nights). It means knowing when it's appropriate to voice my opinion and when not to. It's anticipating Her wants/needs and taking care of it without hesitation and most often without a direct request from Her.

I do not live with Her however this does not diminish my responsibilites to Her in any way. It requires me to do a daily juggling act that most circus clowns would envy. Balance two households/families without leaving either feeling neglected. It requires open communication, trust and the ability to work together as a team; and has taken years to fine tune.

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/10/2008 1:04:07 PM

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As others have stated it is very much a dynamic. I will live the dynamic eventually with Aerith 24/7 when I find her however due to life's situations in general we probably would not have the play aspect 24/7 unless on our island. As for living it outside of marriage? Well when I find Aerith we won't be married immediately however I would still live the dynamic.

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/10/2008 1:09:59 PM

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Seleana, based upon the beleife your question is genuine, not just another internet domme head game I am going to respond in what I hope will be a positive and informative manner. Your question, “how many of you slaves would actually like to live the D/s lifestyle 24/7 not just scening.” There is no shortage of males both desirous of and anxious to dedicate themselves to a 24/7 environment predicated upon formality and high protocol. However, the number dwindles drastic when you incorporate a number of variables having nothing at all to do with dominance and deferment.
Historically and traditionally the longevity of a 24/7 contract or agreement is astounding and if you are serious about gathering in-depth information feel free to contact me on the other side. But please recognize I am not soliciting and have no desire to enter into dialogue beyond the exchange of information.

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/10/2008 2:10:25 PM

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if my Guardian and i had it our way we would already be in a "24/7" lifestyle relationship. as it is with us living states away when i do come down to visit him for the few days we have, we live like that. for me i couldn't be in any other type of relationship. when i get involved with a man, vanilla before, lifestyle now, i am in it for life. i enjoy serving my Guardian no matter if i am in his apartment waiting for him to come home from the store, or i'm several states away in my own home talking to him on the phone telling him about my day and asking about his.

i don't live for the play in the bedroom, i play for the life outside of it.

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/10/2008 2:14:51 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: selena123

I am wondering how many of you slaves would actually like to live the D/s lifestyle 24/7 not just scening,but actually being available all day long.the catch is how many would do this outside of a marriage?

There are plenty of slaves and subs who not just want it, but do it. Of course, it does depend on what your defination of 24/7 is - I don't spend all day, every day locked in a cage.

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/10/2008 2:59:14 PM

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I've always felt strongly about a dedicated relationship. So for me, its that or nothing. Hopefully it develops into a potential marriage.

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/10/2008 3:19:11 PM

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Hope you have an amazing time...too bad She couldn't come for Mardi Gras, but "laissez les bon temps roullez"...just the same.

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/10/2008 3:20:43 PM

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quote:

There are plenty of slaves and subs who not just want it, but do it. Of course, it does depend on what your defination of 24/7 is - I don't spend all day, every day locked in a cage.

A day in a cage sounds nice - take a really long nap and rest up.

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/10/2008 3:36:33 PM

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I do it and marriage is not an option now and most likely will not ever be an option.

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/10/2008 4:35:20 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: selena123

I am wondering how many of you slaves would actually like to live the D/s lifestyle 24/7 not just scening,but actually being available all day long.the catch is how many would do this outside of a marriage?

I suppose my answer would depend on what you mean by "being available all day long"?
I'm his 24/7, but that doesn't mean I can drop and spread 'em any minute. Neither of us want a life that doesn't involve any other parts, for longer than a nice vacation. Being his includes um's, and jobs, and family, and friends, and all the other bits of life. It's a good life, and one I'm glad to have.
But if you mean being available to fulfill the wants he does have 24/7, I'm good with that.

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/10/2008 4:40:37 PM

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i'm doing it outside of marriage (there is no chance of it ever happening with Him) than anything in the world and He knows it We aren't for each other in that sense.

To me when i gave myself to Him to serve, He got my heart too.....all of me and He knows it.....sure He can be romantic if He wants to be but, it's not very often so when He is...it makes that moment all the more special...

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/10/2008 4:47:46 PM

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and just an FYI

my day isn't spent in bondage, in a cage, or with Him following me around with a riding crop....

i get up, drink my coffee, go take a shower, drive an hour and a half in Atl traffic to go to work, get to work work out for a half an hour, sit down with my travel mug and 1/2 bagel and cream cheese to sort through a ton of paper work, and see what i can get done before the phone starts ringing, at 1p.m. i get my half and hour lunch which is usually spent eating, and then running out to my car to drive accross the street so i can have some time spent in peace, go back into work, work until 5:30+ and then drive the hour and a half back to my house, eat dinner, maybe turn on the pc and chat with Sir, or talk to Him on the phone, watch American Idol, House, or Law and Order while crashing as it's been a long ass day, go to sleep holding the little penguin stuffed animal he bought me for christmas, do the whole thing over the next day and wait until the next time i can be with Him.

Of course there are things in the middle of it that complicate it, things that i either need to do or things He has me do to make His life easier....that's why it's the middle of Feb and i still havn't started my taxes yet....

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/10/2008 5:19:08 PM

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Him telling me to get burgers because he feels like grilling doesn't seem very d/s. But it is because he's taking the decision about dinner out of my hands. So is me picking a movie to rent because he tells me to choose it. Not to mention tomorrow's assignment; buy a baby swing because his oldest just had her second and this is one piece of equipment nobody else has gotten for her. (Of course he didn't tell me not to go wild so I'm also getting some toys for the big brother so he doesn't feel left out plus anything else that appeals. I've never been a grandma before and I like it!)

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/10/2008 5:57:26 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: selena123

I am wondering how many of you slaves would actually like to live the D/s lifestyle 24/7 not just scening,but actually being available all day long.the catch is how many would do this outside of a marriage?

I do and have done so for several years. The lifestyle for us is not about scening - it is about mastery, enslavement and surrender. The BDSM aspects are simply icing on the cake. We neither depend on them or need them in order to be true to who we are with relation to each other. As for outside of a marriage, my owner chose to make me his wife and so everything I do is pretty much within my marriage, however, our wedding/marriage/vows are and were not typical. I work from home, therefore I am available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week for him (extreme situations excluded, i.e. in the hospital etc.). I wouldn't want to live my life any other way. Well wishes, Cavs' ally

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