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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/10/2008 9:54:12 PM   
awmslave


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the catch is how many would do this outside of a marriage?


Are you suggesting marriage is 24/7 slavery?

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/10/2008 10:08:18 PM   
CelticPrince


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Status: offline </image/blank.gif> IN reading these boards, it seems that most of those involved in '24/7' relationships say that the d/s dynamic is THERE all the time, even if the day goes by without any overt sign of it... that the dynamic is more about what is within them.


Greedy,

and I say most lie about it.

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/11/2008 7:24:00 AM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		Could be, CP..but how are we to know, not being privvy to what is truly happening within those relationships? :)

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/11/2008 7:27:13 AM   
sweetnurseBBW


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Status: offline 		Being 24/7 doesn't mean you spend all day chained and on your knees. The dynamic is always there but bills have to be paid, jobs, um's, etc. The fantasy of what alot have is not what the reality is.

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/11/2008 8:47:25 AM   
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I am wondering how many of you slaves would actually like to live the D/s lifestyle 24/7 not just scening,but actually being available all day long.the catch is how many would do this outside of a marriage? 


it has been incredibly fulfilling, outside of marriage, and in it.

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/11/2008 11:49:16 AM   
TheEvilBstardsMo


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Status: offline 		I was Master's 24/7 slave prior to our getting married and am now so in marriage.  Everyone's life is set up differently.  For me, it is not a 24/7 scene, being confined in a cage, or running around the house nude.  The power structure, however, is always present; the house is run according to Master's structure.  You would be surprised at how quickly the rules and structure blend into your life, and in time, one does not even consciously realize that they are obeying rules and following guidelines.  His expectations are that I will work and put in an honest full day.  When at home, my service entails cleaning the house, washing the clothes, grocery shopping, cooking dinners, etc.  As someone also mentioned previously, being sure that Master's water glass is filled, serving tea, getting up to get him something - even when you just feel like plunking down and not moving.  I make sure that anything that can be done to make his life easier is done.  When I first found BDSM, it was my hope to find a situation where I could provide 24/7 service; it didn't matter whether I was married or not.  My life turned to this direction; it is all that I had hoped it would be and still growing.

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/11/2008 3:43:29 PM   
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ORIGINAL: TracyTaken

A day in a cage sounds nice - take a really long nap and rest up.



OOOO..no phones, no getting up to let the cat in/out 15 times a day, the dogs in/out 6 times a day, no laundry, cooling, dishes, vacuuming, mail, bathroom cleaning,  running errands..sigh...VACATION CAGE!!!!!

Seriously though Master did not have to marry me (even though he ordered me not to say No), I would have happily lived in "sin" with him for the rest of my life. We are 24/7 even when he is traveling for work, every thing I do is focused on keeping his home comfortable and safe, making his life easier and trying to make him proud of me. He is the focus of my life.

So yes I would have lived a 24/7 lifestyle with or without the ring, but yanno what? It aint all floggings and kneeling pretty at the door until he gets home. There's an awful lot of other things that go into it besides sexual slavery. Now he would LOVE to have someone else here a Submissive to both of us who would handle the majority of the house stuff freeing me up to work on my web development business and leaving more energy for the sexual service, but finding another woman to fit us both isn't gonna be easy, I suspect.

poenkitten (who wonders if they can just put bars on the bathroom and move the computer in there so she can work and stay locked up)

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/11/2008 3:47:50 PM   
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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

Could be, CP..but how are we to know, not being privvy to what is truly happening within those relationships? :)


Uh Greedy, you are not that far from us, we are near NASA..you could always come and observe for a week!!

poenkitten

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/11/2008 3:58:01 PM   
BlackPhx


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ORIGINAL: awmslave

Are you suggesting marriage is 24/7 slavery?



Today? With the Metro-male today doing far more at home, cleaning, changing diapers, cooking, probably not so much. Though here in teh southlands there are still an awful lot of men with the ideal of go to work, come home, drink beer, watch tv, mow lawn, all else (house work, kids) is wimmens work. But if you step back a mere 100 years women didn't even have the right to vote, and prior to that had no right to own property, get a higher education, have a bank account etc. Many died in childbirth, having child after child after child until they were worn out. For a good portion of  history a woman did not even have the right to choose her own husband, she could be given in marriage to whatever man her father felt was the right one and would meet his bride price.  If he was poor, she faced toiling in the fields all day (or shops) and then coming home to do wash, cook, clean, care for the kids etc.

Sounds like slavery to me...progress has been rapid in the past couple of centuries, but take a look at some other countries, especially 3rd world, or even the Islamic countries, women with rights within marriage are a rare avis compared to the rest.

poenkitten

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/11/2008 4:11:39 PM   
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ORIGINAL: selena123

I am wondering how many of you slaves would actually like to live the D/s lifestyle 24/7 not just scening,but actually being available all day long.the catch is how many would do this outside of a marriage? 


First of all, I identify as a submissive not a slave.  Sir and I lived together for almost 3 years before we married in December 2006. 

Because of His health, I am His full time carer.  So yes I am available all day every day to see to His needs.  If He is in hospital I visit twice a day and help the nurses care for Him while I am there.  I keep track of our finances, pay our bills, shop, cook...all the normal things.  I also give His medication, set up/strip down a haemodialysis machine, keep an eye on Him while He's dialysing here at home, take blood pressure....some not so normal things. 

Right now things are quite stressful.  He needs another operation and we have to go to the hospital for dialysis at the moment, so play has gone out the window for a while.  When things settle down and get somewhat back to normal, then it will pick back up again.  We have been through these cycles before  

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/11/2008 4:25:37 PM   
GreedyTop


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ORIGINAL: BlackPhx

quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

Could be, CP..but how are we to know, not being privvy to what is truly happening within those relationships? :)


Uh Greedy, you are not that far from us, we are near NASA..you could always come and observe for a week!!

poenkitten


oooh.... I'm jealous! I wanna be able to watch the launches!!  (I was in Cocoa last year to watch the MRO launch... WAY COOL!)


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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/11/2008 4:37:36 PM   
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ORIGINAL: GreedTop

oooh.... I'm jealous! I wanna be able to watch the launches!!  (I was in Cocoa last year to watch the MRO launch... WAY COOL!)


I'm jealous of YOU! I would LOVE to see that.


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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/11/2008 4:46:41 PM   
jeffman1234


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Status: offline 		"24/7" lets just call it moving in. The Variables, no one can tell you, Just get to know the person very well and do it on a trial basis so you do not become stuck in a situation you don't want.

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/11/2008 4:55:17 PM   
breatheasone


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ORIGINAL: jeffman1234

"24/7" lets just call it moving in. The Variables, no one can tell you, Just get to know the person very well and do it on a trial basis so you do not become stuck in a situation you don't want.

LOL...yikes...This is the polar opposite of what I taught my kids LOL They are grown now.


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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/11/2008 4:58:05 PM   
GreedyTop


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ORIGINAL: breatheasone

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ORIGINAL: GreedTop

oooh.... I'm jealous! I wanna be able to watch the launches!!  (I was in Cocoa last year to watch the MRO launch... WAY COOL!)


I'm jealous of YOU! I would LOVE to see that.



breathes..it was AWESOME!! they launched it on a Titan-V rocket... like the good ol' days, when the rumble was HUGE...slow lift off, and you could watch it for AGES!!


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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/11/2008 6:14:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		My girl and I are 24/7. she lives with her husband...but I am first. He knows and understand this (they've been married for years and have a rather platonic relationship now and have always had an open relationship). Our relationship is spirit and service based, not romance, sex or SM based.

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/12/2008 2:11:53 AM   
eyesopened


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Status: offline 		Not sure what marriage has to do with it but i will be moving in with Master this summer.  We are already 24/7 even though we are hundreds of miles apart.  When we are together i am not naked every moment of every day.  They frown on that at I-HOP.  my service to Him is not just about kink, bondage, sex, and pain.  Its about being observant.  Its about putting Him in front and above me, mentally.  He can restrain me with a look and binds me with a smile.  When we are together there are times with the leash goes from collar to hand, but in reality the ends of the leash are fastened heart to heart.

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/12/2008 2:33:04 AM   
girlygurl


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ORIGINAL: eyesopened

Not sure what marriage has to do with it but i will be moving in with Master this summer.  We are already 24/7 even though we are hundreds of miles apart.  When we are together i am not naked every moment of every day.  They frown on that at I-HOP.  my service to Him is not just about kink, bondage, sex, and pain.  Its about being observant.  Its about putting Him in front and above me, mentally.  He can restrain me with a look and binds me with a smile.  When we are together there are times with the leash goes from collar to hand, but in reality the ends of the leash are fastened heart to heart.


Wow!  Thanks for sharing eyes.... you have a way with words missy

I agree with you in that service isn't just about kink and play... it's the complete package, in and out of the "scene" if you will.  I don't have to be by His side to know that I answer to Him, or that He comes first... *sigh, we need a smiley face with some goofy hearts

He and I may not live together, but He's with me everywhere I am.  I carry Him in my heart.
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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/12/2008 3:14:40 PM   
LindaLashes


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Status: offline 		After being in almost a two year D/s relationship with a step up to complete 24/7 that ended in a tragedy last year, I can´t but wonder about some things. For the last weeks I have felt a sort of dislike towards my submissive side in connection with D/s, both past relationship and possible future ones.

Soon after the breakup I craved for something of the same, D/s, as I was afraid of being by myself, unowned and uncollared. But things have changed, I have changed and gotten stronger. I hade been told that I had to work out my personal demons before being strong enough to give up power to that special someone, and I have been doing just that.

But now as I get stronger, I find myself completely uninterested in 24/7, I´m too stubborn and steadfast to give up more and more aspects of my life, loosing control of it. Instead I have have found my niché in sessions with people who have given me something lacking in my BDSM for those two years, intimacy and erotism.

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RE: 24/7 lifestyle - 2/12/2008 8:14:57 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Linda, it's good that you recognize where you are now, and that you're acting out of strength and not fear. But just as two years ago you couldn't have imagined not needing it, there's equal odds that in two more years (or more, or less) you may need it again. Just stay honest with where you are, and keep acting out of strength.

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