BlackPhx
Posts: 3432
Joined: 11/8/2006
Status: offline
|
Humm. I have read through most of the posts and thought really hard about my personal experieriences and the results.
First things first an online relationship is "real" as any other relationship. Granted the communications are not face to face and lose a lot of the nuances of body language which can speak volumes on a physical level. But you are still dealing with real live people and you get a chance to get to know them without being prejudged by appearances.
Second from my experiences I have had stunning stunning successes in online dating and abysmal failures. You can seduce a woman with words alone. I noted a dispairing number of people discounting online relationships as impossible or not worth the effort as it is filled with fakers and flakes. Unfortunately there are genuine and real people out there too and while it may take time to weed out the fakers and flakes you can and will find rewarding relationships if you are willing to put the work into it.
I even consider one of my first success where others would think it was a failure. I had one sub a very special woman who I had come visit me. Now she lied to me about her appearance and was a bit more of a slave then I was expecting by bout 200 pounds extra. But, I can understand the lie....sometime truth can kill a relationship before you can get a chance to show the beauty you have within. I could have been angry about the deception and I could have rejected her for it. She even had multiple cyber partners during the courtship which she tried to hide from me. But, I did not do either. I remembered the words she wrote me and they had passion and desire within that were real even if they were shared with others and she deserved a chance. She spent a week with me I kept her in a hotel where I kept her in chains 24/7 even when we went out to eat. I loved her and I beat her and she served me with pain and adoration. She wrote me poetry and I returned her affections with care and attention. She was special and I loved her with all my heart but at the time I was not independent and she had medical problems beyond my means to take care of. I was not two faced, I was "real" through the entire encounter. I wanted a long term relationship but was not prepared finacially to excise these desires with her as a sole income provider. Despite the lies she told, despite the cybering she was not a faker or a flake, she was a vulnerable human being starved for attention, afraid of rejection, and scared of losing any opportunity presented that gave her hope of being loved and cherished. I think if I took the attitude most do those cherished memories of her would never have happened and that magical week would never have happened.
People do lie and they do cheat. Some do because they have no care for others feelings and needs and others do it to protect thier hopes, dreams, and desires from the harsh reality of the cruel judgement of others. And sometime they do both because of fear. But when we reject them because we selfishly hold them to higher standards then we hold ourselves then we have to ask if we deserve any chance to happiness and concern for our feelings as well. Before you dump someone look at you own actions measure your own cruelty and selfishness and ask if you really care about them more then youself and should you expect more from them then we do ourselves.
Some say relationships are based on trust, respect, and honesty. This is a BIG LIE. All relationships are based in a selfish desire to have needs fulfilled that we can not fulfill ourselves. In good relationships both parties have thier needs mutually fulfilled by each other actions and each person takes due care to make sure his partner is satisfied and happy and selflessly dedicates them selves to this endevour. When this happens trust and respect follows as they have been earned.
If you have any chance at happiness you must risk your emotions, you must get attached and involved and you must be willing to work and put others above your self no matter what your title (Dominant/Master/Submissive/Slave/Switch/etc) otherwise you will not even have a chance at a rewarding or fulfilling relationship.
No human deserves or is entitled to happiness, No human deserves or is entitled to respect, No human deserves or is entitled to trust. We must work for these things, we must earn these things and they will not and can not be given.
The only things we can hope to expect or be entitled to is courtesy and a chance to earn respect, trust and happiness but always bear in mind you have to earn it as much as they. And too often doms, subs, masters and slave do not even offer courtesy and more importantly the chance we should be able to expect or hope for.
Honestly Reflective and Master of poenkitten
BlackPhx
"I am not kissing your ass, I am dominating it with forceful blows of my lips."
|
RE: Master who lies and cheats - 
Profile
New Messages
No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages
Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages
Locked w/o New Messages
Post New Thread