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MistressOfGa -> RE: A life in contradiction? (2/12/2008 10:00:12 PM)
quote: I know I've dated online-to-real 9 women in 9 months, and could have met more Slut.[sm=banana.gif]

MistressOfGa -> RE: A life in contradiction? (2/12/2008 10:05:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subtee quote: ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa quote: "I don't have to know the facts, I'm just being nice." I meet people every single day at school or elsewhere (not online) and I know nothing about them, I dont know the facts as to what they are like or who they are. Yet, I am nice to them. It is just the way I am. I'm strange that way, I will ask them if they would like to join me for a cup of coffee at school, or I will give up my seat at the doctors office if my sister told me that someone was standing. (Since I can't see) Since when did being nice to someone require you to know the facts about them? To be informed of who and what they are? Good grief, if that werre the criteria, no one would be nice to anyone. We live in an almost hate filled world as it is, let's not criticize the few who actually are nice, without an ulterior motive. I am a bit insulted by your attitude regarding this. I hope you were not referring to me when you mentioned "a few of the women too". <shakes head> And if we are to be honest here, I see jealousy more than I see men tripping over their dicks. Maybe you should examine why you feel so strongly about this. MoGa I'm sorry to have insulted you. I wasn't referring to you at all. I'll think about your posit that jealously is my deal. subtee, no worries :) The best part about me, is when I get upset, I get over it fast <s> I meant what I said on the other side. If you need anything just let me know. MoGa

RedMagic1 -> RE: A life in contradiction? (2/12/2008 10:06:30 PM)
Welcome to CollarMe, uap. Things aren't always this dramatic. There really are some nice people here though. Be willing to use the Block button. I just Blocked my very first emailer on the other side -- a "Master" who didn't like my posts. (I thought at first he thought I'd written Michael's post -- I wonder what kind of love note he sent to Sacramento....) He was talking irrationally and used belittling language. Unfortunately a lot of men try this with women. It is not "the norm" and unless you like it, there is no reason for you to put up with it. Fire and Michael gave you excellent advice. Enjoy yourself.

subtee -> RE: A life in contradiction? (2/12/2008 10:06:35 PM)
As I said, at least twice, I have nothing against you and I wish you well. My comments were not directed at you. The quotes that you took from me were not directed at you. Again, I do wish you well. As has been suggested, you should block me: the icon on the very left under my pic is "hide."

Owner4SexSlave -> RE: A life in contradiction? (2/12/2008 10:44:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: XiaoTheOwl quote: ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave Basically, you're not a good match for some insecure Master, that lacks self control. Then he wouldn't really be a 'Master'.... Just an opinionated obsevation. I was just giving her the heads up about Masters that wear the label/title. There are some guys that Are Great at being Masters of nothing more then kink, you know. Just because some calls themselve Master Lord or the BDSM universe proves nothing. Oh Hell, my name is ZOD ruler of the Universe, bow and tremble before your all powerful Master. If you refuse to Obey, you will be punished harshly, with paper cuts to your body (including your tounge) soaking in salty lemon juice while being forced to watch Endless Re-Runs of "The Love Boat" and live on a diet of tasteless Rice Cakes and Diet RC cola. While locked away in a purple room, that's been totally decorated and maxed out in a "Barney Loves you" theme. How do you like me now? LOL... Oh wait, I'll constantly threaten to pimp your ass out to Gilbert Gottfried on a daily basis. hahahahaa... tell me I'm not one evil moo foo here.

kitttty -> RE: A life in contradiction? (2/12/2008 10:59:29 PM)
quote: Welcome to CollarMe, uap. Things aren't always this dramatic. LIES. I'm serious. This board is like a bunch of teenage girls on PMS. The amount of angst over nothing is a force to behold.

kitttty -> RE: A life in contradiction? (2/12/2008 11:02:43 PM)
quote: i know i am a slave and that i am happiest while serving. i know i want to find a Master that i may serve and please. but i am also afraid of this. there is still some part of me, screaming in my head somewhere that it is not right, that it is not an acceptable way to live ones life Like others have said, you can have the marriage and white picket fence deal while being a slave. Anyways, what about you? I mean, if you really want to float from Dom to Dom every few years, then go ahead but where is your life heading? Do you have ambitions or skills and goals and dreams outside of being a slave?

GreedyTop -> RE: A life in contradiction? (2/12/2008 11:15:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave quote: ORIGINAL: XiaoTheOwl quote: ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave Basically, you're not a good match for some insecure Master, that lacks self control. Then he wouldn't really be a 'Master'.... Just an opinionated obsevation. I was just giving her the heads up about Masters that wear the label/title. There are some guys that Are Great at being Masters of nothing more then kink, you know. Just because some calls themselve Master Lord or the BDSM universe proves nothing. Oh Hell, my name is ZOD ruler of the Universe, bow and tremble before your all powerful Master. If you refuse to Obey, you will be punished harshly, with paper cuts to your body (including your tounge) soaking in salty lemon juice while being forced to watch Endless Re-Runs of "The Love Boat" and live on a diet of tasteless Rice Cakes and Diet RC cola. While locked away in a purple room, that's been totally decorated and maxed out in a "Barney Loves you" theme. How do you like me now? LOL... Oh wait, I'll constantly threaten to pimp your ass out to Gilbert Gottfried on a daily basis. hahahahaa... tell me I'm not one evil moo foo here. I think I just puddled.....

XiaoTheOwl -> RE: A life in contradiction? (2/12/2008 11:27:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave quote: ORIGINAL: XiaoTheOwl quote: ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave Basically, you're not a good match for some insecure Master, that lacks self control. Then he wouldn't really be a 'Master'.... Just an opinionated obsevation. I was just giving her the heads up about Masters that wear the label/title. There are some guys that Are Great at being Masters of nothing more then kink, you know. Just because some calls themselve Master Lord or the BDSM universe proves nothing. Exactly, The title 'master' is just that, a word... I believe that a true/twue Master will be proven by actions, demeanor, and personality, on just about a daily basis (within reason). Like the Dom who's unable/unwilling, to pick up his own socks off the floor... He can't master himself enough, to want to be clean, and set the example... How's he going to be a good 'Master' teacher, etc?... Mastering kink... IMO kink is a small part of the over all D/s dynamic. I would say, that just because a Top has achieved some kinky skills doesn't exactly pin 'Master' on his merit badge... Oh Hell, my name is ZOD ruler of the Universe, bow and tremble before your all powerful Master. If you refuse to Obey, you will be punished harshly, with paper cuts to your body (including your tounge) soaking in salty lemon juice while being forced to watch Endless Re-Runs of "The Love Boat" and live on a diet of tasteless Rice Cakes and Diet RC cola. While locked away in a purple room, that's been totally decorated and maxed out in a "Barney Loves you" theme. How do you like me now? LOL... Oh wait, I'll constantly threaten to pimp your ass out to Gilbert Gottfried on a daily basis. hahahahaa... tell me I'm not one evil moo foo here. This made me laugh... Thanks for that. Just to clarify, the opinionated observation I made, was actually posted for the OP...lol Thanks for your input, including the Lord Zod comedy...

adoracat -> RE: A life in contradiction? (2/13/2008 12:37:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 I keep on telling these guys who complain about getting no dates that profiles are almost completely irrelevant. Half the time, people don't know who they are, and the other half the time, they're afraid to share themselves. Interaction is the only thing that matters. She signed up two frikkin weeks ago. Her photos look like amateur snaps. She's got the playlist of an educated 24-year-old. So she got insta-ecollared for a few days. So what? If people were less willing to think "fake" and more willing to think "new & confused so I should welcome this person" they'd be less likely to be alone. Have whatever level of respect you want for me. I'm not going to stop being nice to newbies just because I might get accused of tripping over my dick. raises hand my profile says exactly what it said when i first signed up, with the exception of now being owned by Daddy. its VERY sparse. i had a picture, i got a lot of responses, and its easier to have a conversation than to desccribe myself. anyone can write a couple of canned paragraphs. once you actually interact with another person, though, you find out a lot more about who they are. kitten.

travelgman -> RE: A life in contradiction? (2/13/2008 6:41:12 AM)
A thought on the orginal topic of the thread. You may love your family with all your heart but that doesn't mean they are the people you are going to enjoy spending your life with. You may go from seeing them on a regular basis to only seeing them at family functions. And if you are used to having them around all the time. That may be hard to let go of. Your mom may give you a hard time. But she is your mom and obivously a big presence in your life. It isnt easy to give up the comfort of what you know. For the future your trying to acheive. Cutting the cord. Call it what you want. But you have to face the prospect that your choices may take you away from the people who have been your safety net this far in your life. Welcome to your future. Make the most of it and enjoy it.

BoundDown -> RE: A life in contradiction? (2/13/2008 8:04:15 AM)
I'm sorry but um why can you not have all those things and still submit to your "slave tendencies"? Like many of us you need to overcome your social conditioning. Your mother raised you to be strong and follow your own path, can you not see that by submitting to another you are doing just that?

laurell3 -> RE: A life in contradiction? (2/13/2008 4:01:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kana Purrin, Almost everyone wrestles with this at some point or another, often for years. It's the battle between being who we are and being what society expects us to be. (and sometimes the society that is pushing is the BDSM crowd and the conflicted person turns out to be just a bit kinky). When you throw in familial expectations and the standard fears of "What will they think of me if they find out?" of course there is considerable soul searching that goes on. I suspect that almost nobodies family raised them to be a slave, or to be a man who enjoys beating women (but only if they like it, the good kind of pain.). To not have a fear would be irrational. To be able to acknowledge that you do have a fear and then confront it is the beginning of being able to conquer it. It takes a lot of courage to decide to live a life outside of the norm, to fly in the face of accepted conventions and to know that many will judge you for what you have chosen, or worse, judge you for who you are. Part of the acceptance comes with age, as I have grow older I have found that I am neither harnessed nor harassed by the opinions of others. Frankly I just don't care what most people think.But a lot of that came from coming to terms with who I am inside myself and being comfortable with that. I hope that that helps in some small way. Those years of conflict were painful ones. OP I'm not sure what's going on with the responses, but this was good advice given by Kana. You are kind of all over the place, but many of us were starting out. I think you're still trying to be what others want or NOT what your mother wants maybe. Be you and realize that you can still be you and be submissive if that is what you chose to be.

nwcutie102 -> RE: A life in contradiction? (2/13/2008 6:58:51 PM)
i was very conflicted when first becoming aware of my true leanings this past year. denial, discovery, knowledge. i feel better knowing what i need to feel happy and fulfilled.

Danner -> RE: A life in contradiction? (2/13/2008 7:32:58 PM)
being a Vanilla poster, that means I haven't read very many posts yet. But I did read this one and all of the replies. If first impressions, mean anything at all, I like the original poster. she appeared sincere, even if independent has no a's in it, and I wish her luck in finding the balance between the conscripts of a puritanical society and the freedom that our culture offers to the individual soul. As many before have posted, it is a balance many of us deal with every day- our children, our jobs, and our community. Experience is a good teacher, and perhaps more of that in your life will provide you with the balance you are seeking. I know this does not provide you with a quick answer that will solve your dilemma, but there are seldom easy answers. Endure, grow, and learn from your experiences. That is what I would suggest you do. Every post here has something to offer to you, something for you to consider. And don't worry so much about your mother. I raised my son straight as an arrow and he is now in love with a fetish model. I could object, but what a contradiction that would be! Chuckles As for one of the replies- I would love to trip over my dick, just once. Snort ------------------------------------------------------ A thinker sees his own actions as experiments and questions--as attempts to find out something. Success and failure are for him answers above all. - Nietzche

GreedyTop -> RE: A life in contradiction? (2/13/2008 7:37:13 PM)
~FR~ Danner... the cone will go away after a certain number of posts that you post, not that you read:) better get busy!! LOL

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