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I know I've dated online-to-real 9 women in 9 months, and could have met more

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ORIGINAL: subtee

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ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

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"I don't have to know the facts, I'm just being nice."

I meet people every single day at school or elsewhere (not online) and I know nothing about them, I dont know the facts as to what they are like or who they are. Yet, I am nice to them. It is just the way I am. I'm strange that way, I will ask them if they would like to join me for a cup of coffee at school, or I will give up my seat at the doctors office if my sister told me that someone was standing. (Since I can't see)

Since when did being nice to someone require you to know the facts about them? To be informed of who and what they are? Good grief, if that werre the criteria, no one would be nice to anyone. We live in an almost hate filled world as it is, let's not criticize the few who actually are nice, without an ulterior motive. I am a bit insulted by your attitude regarding this. I hope you were not referring to me when you mentioned "a few of the women too". <shakes head> And if we are to be honest here, I see jealousy more than I see men tripping over their dicks. Maybe you should examine why you feel so strongly about this.

MoGa

I'm sorry to have insulted you. I wasn't referring to you at all. I'll think about your posit that jealously is my deal.

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ORIGINAL: XiaoTheOwl

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ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave

Basically, you're not a good match for some insecure Master, that lacks self control.

Then he wouldn't really be a 'Master'....

Just an opinionated obsevation.

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Welcome to CollarMe, uap.  Things aren't always this dramatic. 

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i know i am a slave and that i am happiest while serving. i know i want to find a Master that i may serve and please. but i am also afraid of this. there is still some part of me, screaming in my head somewhere that it is not right, that it is not an acceptable way to live ones life

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ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave

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ORIGINAL: XiaoTheOwl

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ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave

Basically, you're not a good match for some insecure Master, that lacks self control.

Then he wouldn't really be a 'Master'....

Just an opinionated obsevation.

I was just giving her the heads up about Masters that wear the label/title.  There are some guys that Are Great at being Masters of nothing more then kink, you know.  Just because some calls themselve Master Lord or the BDSM universe proves nothing.   

Oh Hell, my name is ZOD ruler of the Universe, bow and tremble before your all powerful Master.   If you refuse to Obey, you will be punished harshly, with paper cuts to your body (including your tounge) soaking in salty lemon juice while being forced to watch Endless Re-Runs of "The Love Boat" and live on a diet of tasteless Rice Cakes and Diet RC cola.  While locked away in a purple room, that's been totally decorated and maxed out in a "Barney Loves you" theme.   How do you like me now? LOL...  Oh wait, I'll constantly threaten to pimp your ass out to Gilbert Gottfried on a daily basis.  hahahahaa... tell me I'm not one evil moo foo here. 

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ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave

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ORIGINAL: XiaoTheOwl

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ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave

Basically, you're not a good match for some insecure Master, that lacks self control.

Then he wouldn't really be a 'Master'....

Just an opinionated obsevation.

I was just giving her the heads up about Masters that wear the label/title.  There are some guys that Are Great at being Masters of nothing more then kink, you know.  Just because some calls themselve Master Lord or the BDSM universe proves nothing.   

Exactly, The title 'master' is just that, a word...
I believe that a true/twue Master will be proven by actions, demeanor, and personality, on *just* about a daily basis (within reason).
Like the Dom who's unable/unwilling, to pick up his own socks off the floor...
He can't master himself enough, to want to be clean, and set the example...
How's he going to be a good 'Master' teacher, etc?...
 
Mastering kink... IMO kink is a small part of the over all D/s dynamic.
I would say, that just because a Top has achieved some kinky skills doesn't exactly pin 'Master' on his merit badge...


Oh Hell, my name is ZOD ruler of the Universe, bow and tremble before your all powerful Master.   If you refuse to Obey, you will be punished harshly, with paper cuts to your body (including your tounge) soaking in salty lemon juice while being forced to watch Endless Re-Runs of "The Love Boat" and live on a diet of tasteless Rice Cakes and Diet RC cola.  While locked away in a purple room, that's been totally decorated and maxed out in a "Barney Loves you" theme.   How do you like me now? LOL...  Oh wait, I'll constantly threaten to pimp your ass out to Gilbert Gottfried on a daily basis.  hahahahaa... tell me I'm not one evil moo foo here. 

This made me laugh... Thanks for that.

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

I keep on telling these guys who complain about getting no dates that profiles are almost completely irrelevant.  Half the time, people don't know who they are, and the other half the time, they're afraid to share themselves.  Interaction is the only thing that matters.  She signed up two frikkin weeks ago.  Her photos look like amateur snaps.  She's got the playlist of an educated 24-year-old.  So she got insta-ecollared for a few days.  So what?  If people were less willing to think "fake" and more willing to think "new & confused so I should welcome this person" they'd be less likely to be alone.  Have whatever level of respect you want for me.  I'm not going to stop being nice to newbies just because I might get accused of tripping over my dick.

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ORIGINAL: Kana

Purrin,
Almost everyone wrestles with this at some point or another, often for years.
It's the battle between being who we are and being what society expects us to be.
(and sometimes the society that is pushing is the BDSM crowd and the conflicted person turns out to be just a bit kinky).
When you throw in familial expectations and the standard fears of "What will they think of me if they find out?" of course there is considerable soul searching that goes on.
I suspect that almost nobodies family raised them to be a slave, or to be a man who enjoys beating women (but only if they like it, the good kind of pain.).
To not have a fear would be irrational. To be able to acknowledge that you do have a fear and then confront it is the beginning of being able to conquer it.
It takes a lot of courage to decide to live a life outside of the norm, to fly in the face of accepted conventions and to know that many will judge you for what you have chosen, or worse, judge you for who you are.
Part of the acceptance comes with age, as I have grow older I have found that I am neither harnessed nor harassed by the opinions of others. Frankly I just don't care what most people think.But a lot of that came from coming to terms with who I am inside myself and being comfortable with that.
I hope that that helps in some small way. Those years of conflict were painful ones.