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ORIGINAL: Lashra

My questions are this: When you were younger did you day dream about the perfect wedding? or like me did you daydream about a career and a home? Also do you think we push the idea of marriage and children a bit to much on our children, girls in particular?

~Lashra

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slaveboyforyou, I noticed that a lot of your reasons and examples for not liking the Clintons are based on your own political philosophy as were your statements about professors.

A person with a different philosophy would have a different take on all the examples you used.

If you like doing your own research can you give me some examples that aren't politically biased?

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I think a lot of your examples are really just a play out of your fears and political philosophy. That's ok when one is voting but when one is arguing or attempting to make a case for or against a person/topic shouldn't the evidence used be more objective?

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For example, the issues of her "being against the 2nd Amendment" -- what exactly is your evidence for that? Has she voted to write a constitutional amendment to get rid of that -- that is the only way to change the constitution with another amendment.

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Or her vote for the war? How is she different than many others in the Senate? How was Clinton's presidential policies toward the middle east that different or similar to those before and after?

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Racism? If one is judged by whose one's political allies are, shouldn't we condemn all political figures then especially if you open the door to any political philosophy? What about past behavior of family members, should that be considered? Is anyone then truly clean enough for your vote?

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As for socialized medicine and you being told what to do.... are you really that wealthy now that no one tells you what to do? 

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ORIGINAL: aidan

What I do think a lot about are kids. One of my favorite thought experiments is thinking about a son or daughter, raising them, teaching them, loving them. I've always wanted to be the father that I never got. But in those daydreams, there's rarely, if ever, a maternal figure. It's always me and the kid. I guess that comes from being the product of a single parent.

I wouldn't want to subject my children to that, though. I grew up without my dad, and I'll be goddamned if my future offspring go without a mother.

I was scared to death of having UM's, for fear of putting them through a divorce.  That's in a large part why my first wasn't born until I was 39.  The problem is though, there really are worse things than a divorce, which I never realized until I saw the fear in my kids eyes as they ran away one night when their mom came home and started unloading her rage over other things at me.  That's when I knew it was time to leave; as much for my own sake as for theirs! 

Things happen over time that one never can predict.  The woman I married, had children with, ultimately becoming my Mistress and I her sub, eventually evolved into another woman and who is not the same woman I eventually divorced.  Who that woman is, I have no idea; perhaps some alternate reality timeline that happened to come true.  It certainly wasn't the reality I was expecting or working towards.  My point being, you have absolutely no control over what the mother of your children will eventually become.  She may try to "out" you as mine did during our divorce to the court psych in an attempt to limit your access to your children.  Fortunuately for me, what she tried didn't work, but it nearly did!  I had to fight very hard to keep what I could of the time I originally negotiated to have with my kids when I was finally able to get free of her and move into my own place.

At the rate things are going, before long, neither of my UM's will have much desire to continue to live with or see their mother any longer than they have to.  She's doing a fine job of alienating them all on her own.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHathor
So next time, its going to be the perfect collaring!

LOL!  Good one Lady Hathor!  For some, a collar has much more meaning than a wedding band!

Question now is, what would would your perfect collaring ceremony look like for you?

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ORIGINAL: pixelslave

 
I was scared to death of having UM's, for fear of putting them through a divorce. 

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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

I almost got married once before, and that was because the woman I was in love with and serving was having troubles staying in the US after her student visa expired. Then she won the immigration lottery, and she didn't make an issue of it again.

So, no, I've never really given all that much thought to marriage. To me, a marriage tends to be a relationship that seems to need a sense of equality and complete give and take between both partners. I have a hard time with that because I like putting most of the responsibilities of a relationship's needs on me and doing everything for her. Yeah, I know that some femdom relationships have succeeded in marriage, but I've never really seen anything like that on the horizon for me, so I've kind of just stopped looking for it. For some reason, I have this strange feeling that if I ever get married, it will be to a Mistress's female slave (as that almost happened once to me in the past).

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ORIGINAL: Lashra
My questions are this: When you were younger did you day dream about the perfect wedding?

I sometimes thought about what a wedding would be like, but the idea never stayed interesting for very long. 

or like me did you daydream about a career and a home?

I daydreamed about travel and education and creating new stories.

Also do you think we push the idea of marriage and children a bit to much on our children, girls in particular?

~Lashra

Well, the institution of marriage is a very high cultural idea. However, the communication skills, responsibility levels and financial investment are often forgotten in the fantasy planning stage of a relationship.