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ORIGINAL: batshalom

I was talking with a girlfriend today, a submissive I've known for a few years, who told me something that really made me think.

Her Dom, with whom she has a long-term RT relationship, someone she's known for about six years, had a little secret. He let this secret slip the other day and she was left not knowing how to feel. As she and I were talking about it, I found that I wouldn’t know how to feel about either it if I were in her place.

A little background info. They live a little over an hour away from each other, are both busy professionals with not a whole lot of spare time to get together (although they do see each other at least every other week, if not more often) and they have a lot of phone time, some of which is, of course, intimate.

They’d been intimate on the phone earlier in the week. Last night he called her near bedtime, which is unusual – they’re both pretty duddy like that, early-to-bed sorts (I am too, so maybe it’s an old person thing – we’re all in our mid-40’s), and he said he’d replayed the sounds of her moaning and begging and he was feeling extremely amorous because of it.

He records her when they are having phone sex. She didn’t know it until yesterday.

This is a D/s relationship, not an M/s, not that it makes that much difference.

She’s not particularly bothered by this although she finds it interesting. She thinks it’s kind of endearing, that he enjoys her that much; but she also finds it a little curious that she’s just now finding out about it.

For the record, he said he keeps the ones that are the most arousing to him so that he can replay them when he’s stressed, missing her, or wants to study what makes her tick / respond well. So … it’s pretty much wank material, although it is endearing (it would be to me, anyway) that he studies her, even after all this time. He keeps about six hours’ worth of recordings, so it’s not like he has a library full, and changes them out as he finds new ones he’s especially fond of.

She said she asked him if he videos their play and he said that the only time he does is with her knowledge (they watch them together, study each other, and learn from them, sometimes using the videos as props for subsequent play).

What are your thoughts? Would it bother you (keeping in mind that this is a trusted, close, loving, and by all accounts healthy D/s dynamic that’s been going on for a little over five years) or would you not think too much of it? Would it make you look at your D-type in a different light? Would you think it was kinda funny? Would it make you react differently with him on the phone?

(I do have her permission to post this topic as long as she and he remain anonymous.)

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ORIGINAL: TysGalilah

But if I answer the question and base it on the level of trust I have in him..and in knowing how safe those tapes would be in his possession and his personal intention for wanting my voice and desire anytime he wants to hear it>>>>>it would be hot.

Considering all the sites out there with free view and access to unknown women moaning and cumming on camera> and he would want/prefer MINE ?   : )  thats fine with me!

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

I think I would be a little self-conscious at subsequent phone play.