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MistressVnus -> RE: Anal Play? (2/16/2008 4:47:20 PM)



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Formerly Prinsexx


Oh!!  Congratulations (formerly), prinsexx!!

The Mandingo I refer to is your second definition of example.

The Mandinka people of West Africa

They were well respected and appreciated for their extremely muscular tone and superb physical build among fellow Africans.  And, as much as I hate to say this, but truth be told, they were also prized among slave traders in the deep south for breeding purposes.
They were the "gladiators" of African descent, you might say.
And, I could almost bet, or at least like to think, this strap-on (dildo) could only have been replicated from such a piece of art due to it's size and thick, muscular tone.



[q]Fuck me madaam this boys been round the block more than once: [/q]
Talk to me baby.  Your Paul made a good choice.  I've always had a penchant for "blockbusters," myself.  *chuckle*  Please give Paul my regards.



Paulsgirl -> RE: Anal Play? (2/16/2008 4:59:18 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MistressVnus



quote:

Formerly Prinsexx


Oh!!  Congratulations (formerly), prinsexx!!

The Mandingo I refer to is your second definition of example.

The Mandinka people of West Africa

They were well respected and appreciated for their extremely muscular tone and superb physical build among fellow Africans.  And, as much as I hate to say this, but truth be told, they were also prized among slave traders in the deep south for breeding purposes.
They were the "gladiators" of African descent, you might say.
And, I could almost bet, or at least like to think, this strap-on (dildo) could only have been replicated from such a piece of art due to it's size and thick, muscular tone.



[q]Fuck me madaam this boys been round the block more than once: [/q]
Talk to me baby.  Your Paul made a good choice.  I've always had a penchant for "blockbusters," myself.  *chuckle*  Please give Paul my regards.


I love using that strap on.......it really feels like it's going somewhere good.....oh boy she loved it and the Masters loved to watch...thank the Lor for slavery-as-we-know-it and i will respectfully send Him your regards xxxx



MzStripes -> RE: Anal Play? (2/16/2008 5:28:16 PM)

Mistress Vnus - I  fully agree with you...the Dom that comes for the tuneup and leaves the ass slut.... yummy! If a Domme wishes to "tap that ass" any number of objects can be utilized. Of course, my choice would be my strapon for driving the point home. Hmmmm, now where did that boy run off too...



Sundowner -> RE: Anal Play? (2/16/2008 5:55:13 PM)

Your post suggests this isn't your favourite idea. And your profile says you can't take much pain.

But your profile also says you live for vibrators [;)]

So if you want to expand your horizons [stop groaning - the pun was accidental] then I think you can get there if you give it time with a little help from your vibrator friend - not stuffing it up your bum, just to stimulate yourself. Try the vibrator at surface level while your fingers give you an orgasm.  It'll take time, but you can educate yourself to enjoy what at first seems unpleasantly painful. 



Kana -> RE: Anal Play? (2/16/2008 6:12:55 PM)

Errrrr, that would be how I do it with my submissives
not the other way around

Grins



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ORIGINAL: shysub0951

i do thank you all for your input and such. For me it's a mind thing, yea i've had smaller butt plugs in before and yes i've had some limited anal play with my Dom. But it's that uncomfortable feeling that i can't quite get my mind to work and just take it. And thank you Kana in sharing how you and your Master started it. It's not something i feel squemish *sp?* about, just the mind thing.



MistressVnus -> RE: Anal Play? (2/16/2008 7:09:20 PM)

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It'll take time, but you can educate yourself to enjoy what at first seems unpleasantly painful.




OR...someone else might help to edify you.[:D]



Noah -> RE: Anal Play? (2/16/2008 8:06:14 PM)

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ORIGINAL: sweetwenchie

Anal play is a sexual activity, has nothing really to do with D/s.  There are plenty of 'nilla wafers that love tappin' the ass too.


I'm curious after seeing two posters suggest that sexual activity and D/s are mutually exclusive categories.

Has sexual activity nothing to do with D/s? Then how about, say, Cooking? Eating? Playing? Travelling? Dressing? Undressing? Doing Laundry? Gardening?  Which ones have anything (really) to do with D/s, as you see it?

To me each of them does if it is undertaken by the s at the behest of the D. I think D/s is a matter of the will. One submits her will to another (your pronouns may vary). But matters of the will are often, perhaps usually, manifested in behavior. That's where the "having to do with" comes in.

If getting laundry done can be conceived as submissive, is it such a stretch to conceive of getting your rump done as submissive?

I hope the OP has and maintains healthy psychological boundaries, and develops a rich understanding of how limits can work. I also hope she'll keep in mind that some people only "submit" to that which they would choose for themselves anyway. For others, submission sometimes entails going beyond what one wants or prefers by doing something only because it is the will of the D. The sky doesn't fall on either kind of submissive.

OP, he is surely aware on some level of your present feelings about this activity. If the day comes when you decide to submit in this as well, it might be a traumatic disaster but then again it might be something richly meaningful for both of you





lronitulstahp -> RE: Anal Play? (2/16/2008 8:22:03 PM)

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

I can't imagine there NOT being anal in my relationships.. but I was already loving it long before I became active in bdsm...
What she said...



CalifChick -> RE: Anal Play? (2/16/2008 8:48:54 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Noah

I'm curious after seeing two posters suggest that sexual activity and D/s are mutually exclusive categories.


I think I was one of those.  I wasn't suggesting they were mutually exclusive, more like not necessarily inclusive. 

Is getting his coffee and putting cream and sugar in it the way he likes D/s?  It can be, but it's also been part of every relationship I've ever had, vanilla or non-vanilla. The fact that it is something I do for him does not make it D/s, just as it does not make it NOT D/s. Same with your laundry example. The laundry needed to be done long before I ever met him, so I don't suddenly classify doing it as a D/s thing just because now I have a Dom.

I had anal sex for the first time as a teenager. Wasn't part of a D/s dynamic at all. It was something I wanted to do and he wanted to do and we did it. 

So I don't see the act itself as having to do with D/s.  It can be a part of a D/s relationship, but no more than every other sexual act that mankind can think of.

Cali
(that was probably clear as mud)



Leatherist -> RE: Anal Play? (2/16/2008 8:51:50 PM)

It's another hole to use-tighter than most.

Why would it have anything to do about control?



shysub0951 -> RE: Anal Play? (2/16/2008 9:04:13 PM)

Sundowner: the thing with the vibes is that i've had them very littly *is that even a word?*  in my backside. Front side, totally up for it.
Kana: i do apologize then, though i still like your method [:D]



Noah -> RE: Anal Play? (2/16/2008 10:14:07 PM)

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

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ORIGINAL: Noah

I'm curious after seeing two posters suggest that sexual activity and D/s are mutually exclusive categories.


I think I was one of those.  I wasn't suggesting they were mutually exclusive, more like not necessarily inclusive.


Mhmmm.

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Is getting his coffee and putting cream and sugar in it the way he likes D/s?  It can be, but it's also been part of every relationship I've ever had, vanilla or non-vanilla. The fact that it is something I do for him does not make it D/s, just as it does not make it NOT D/s. Same with your laundry example. The laundry needed to be done long before I ever met him, so I don't suddenly classify doing it as a D/s thing just because now I have a Dom.

I had anal sex for the first time as a teenager. Wasn't part of a D/s dynamic at all. It was something I wanted to do and he wanted to do and we did it. 


It seems clear that her background differs from yours. Her backside too, if we consider wear and tear, eh?

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So I don't see the act itself as having to do with D/s.  It can be a part of a D/s relationship, but no more than every other sexual act that mankind can think of.


I think your point is made and that in the end <ahem> we don't disagree.

When you said earlier: "I think I'm missing the connection between ANY sexual activity and D/s." you apparently meant that as elliptical for "any necessary connection".  Given that the topic seemed to enquire about whether anal sex was structural to a D/s relationship I can see where you were comng from.

I don't want to sidetrack things, but if the serious discussion is done I'd like to share my vision of some people around a Monopoly board,  compulsively re-aligning little red hotels; restacking play money and demanding that the tossed dice land just so.

I mean anal play is anal play, right?



nephandi -> RE: Anal Play? (2/17/2008 3:33:31 AM)

Hi

Short answer. No it is not necessary to do anal sex to have a D/s relationship.

i wish you well



malloves69 -> RE: Anal Play? (2/17/2008 4:41:38 AM)

my mistress taps my ass on a weekly basis [:)] first with her strapons ..love the bam as it slides in [:)] and then her fist [:)] most weeks we do it twice a week ..cant believe how addicting it is ecspecially with me being a male on the recieving end [:)]  she has trained my ass well ..love her determination and her attitude and playfullness when she takes me ...whats amazing afterwards i think is how relaxed i am ...and yes beforehand enemas are a must [:)] love the power exchange it really is amazing [:)] oh yes we do other things as well but ass play has to be the best [:)] and to think it all started with her playing with me with just her fingers ..being fisted is truly amazing [:)] have fun and enjoy ..mal



Justme696 -> RE: Anal Play? (2/17/2008 5:19:37 AM)

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ORIGINAL: malloves69

my mistress taps my ass on a weekly basis [:)] first with her strapons ..love the bam as it slides in [:)] and then her fist [:)] most weeks we do it twice a week ..cant believe how addicting it is ecspecially with me being a male on the recieving end [:)]  she has trained my ass well ..love her determination and her attitude and playfullness when she takes me ...whats amazing afterwards i think is how relaxed i am ...and yes beforehand enemas are a must [:)] love the power exchange it really is amazing [:)] oh yes we do other things as well but ass play has to be the best [:)] and to think it all started with her playing with me with just her fingers ..being fisted is truly amazing [:)] have fun and enjoy ..mal


I guess your fetish is anal and [:)]  :P




CCFandhis -> RE: Anal Play? (2/17/2008 5:48:37 AM)

Remember it is what you both agree too.
I was afraid of anal for years.. with the right master it has become a craving.. *L*



eyesopened -> RE: Anal Play? (2/17/2008 6:32:39 AM)

Of course you can have a D/s relationship without anal play of any type.  There are Dominants who find it yukky.  Some who want it but only after an enema with lysol (just kidding!! never put lysol or any other household cleaner up your ass!) and boiling your behind for 20 minutes.  There are even some folks to think if they don't tap your ass they can't ever learn the Dominants secret handshake.  Then there are some who enjoy the activity for whatever their individual reasons are.  For me, it's the taboo coupled with the mindset that i withhold nothing from my Master.  my first anal experience was within a D/s context but during a period of vanilla relationships i found the vanilla guys like it or don't like it about equally as those who engage in D/s relationships.  Most anything that is popularized in pornography will be considered a "ooooh I gotta try that!" for some people because as we all know, pornography is real-life documentary film and never just movies complete with special effects.




Justme696 -> RE: Anal Play? (2/17/2008 9:46:49 AM)

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Most anything that is popularized in pornography will be considered a "ooooh I gotta try that!" for some people because as we all know, pornography is real-life documentary film and never just movies complete with special effects.


that is also a reason many people know about BDSM



CalifChick -> RE: Anal Play? (2/17/2008 9:51:52 AM)

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ORIGINAL: CCFandhis

Remember it is what you both agree too.


When did an agreement enter the discussion?  Who agreed to what?

Cali



malloves69 -> RE: Anal Play? (2/17/2008 10:09:07 AM)

always thought the lady was always in control ..thats the only agreement i consented too if thats what you want to call it [:)] yes my fetish is anal and not enough people smile today so i just thought i would lend a few [:)] to all the grumpy people of the world ...and yes my mistress is coming on monday ..another reason to [:)] have fun and enjoy ..mal



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