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ORIGINAL: breatheasone

Its been said..."If you don't love yourself, you can't expect someone else to love you."
I think I disagree with this....I mean, I don't LOVE myself....heavy like maybe. Now I get the meaning of that saying....but I think more accurate might be...Its easier for someone to love you, if you love yourself.
Thoughts?...

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ORIGINAL: Kalista07

My experience might be vastly different from the most common experiences....But, fortuantely for me there were people in my life who were (and remain to some degree) willing to love me until i could learn to love myself...

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ORIGINAL: SirJohnMandevill


I don't know that I LOVE myself, but I find that my self-confidence about whom I am and where I'm going helps me as a Dominant when I'm with my submissive. Hard to be a Dom if you lack confidence.

Les (Purveyor of Fine, handcrafted Kink)

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

makes sense to me, breathes. 

Personally, while I think quite well of myself, and like myself immensely... having someone LOVE me helps me to see myself through their eyes..and come to love myself. Does that make sense?

It makes perfect sense to me

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ORIGINAL: azropedntied

This has always been a struggle for me , as i am no narcissistic type person let alone in love with myself .My dog s seem to dig me then again i feed them  too .My self esteem seems to have gained some ground in recent years  but i am who i am  .I do think if your projecting  a negitive view about yourself to others  they may see that and concur but thats  only speculative .
I always say i know i need  work  like an old car but i try and be the best me i can be .   

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ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl

having someone who loves you...opens up so many possibilities and a ton of GOOD emotions. 

if your alone...there is little chance that you will be happy.  humans need to have people around them.  it changes you soooooooooo much.  and once you lose someone you just go into depression.

im alone...have been alone all my life.  because i am different.  my so called friends left me when i came out.. and that totally changed my self esteem for the crapper.  very little positive in my life right now.  but im still living.  i can not say that i love myself...but i can say i dont hate myself.  i need a spark in my life.  it will give me energy and positive feelings.  if (thats a big if) it ever happens that someone loves me...my life will completely change for the better.

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ORIGINAL: SirJohnMandevill

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Hard to be a Dom if you lack confidence.

Les (Purveyor of Fine, handcrafted Kink)

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ORIGINAL: breatheasone

Its been said..."If you don't love yourself, you can't expect someone else to love you."
I think I disagree with this....I mean, I don't LOVE myself....heavy like maybe. Now I get the meaning of that saying....but I think more accurate might be...Its easier for someone to love you, if you love yourself.
Thoughts?...

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ORIGINAL: WingedSnake

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ORIGINAL: SirJohnMandevill

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Hard to be a Dom if you lack confidence.

Les (Purveyor of Fine, handcrafted Kink)

This should be true, but on the other hand, there is a fair number of people who will try to use (mostly without or only with temporary success) being a dominant to fill a confidence void.

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ORIGINAL: batshalom

Maybe you don't have to love yourself, but it is harder for someone to love you if you loathe yourself, for a variety of reasons.

As you can see, that phrase isn't as catchy or as memorable or as powerful as "In order for someone else to love you, you have to love yourself." It's really a matter of degree.

Yep...I agree...I don't think its not possible for someone to love you if you don't love yourself....just easier if you do

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ORIGINAL: MrSpectacular

To the OP - you are right it is easier for someone to love you if you love yourself. Love is a powerful word -  I would say respect yourself, but love is ok also.
The same is true for other things also. It is easier to share humor if it is part of you also etc, you tend to get decency from people if you yourself are decent.

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ORIGINAL: batshalom

Maybe you don't have to love yourself, but it is harder for someone to love you if you loathe yourself, for a variety of reasons.

As you can see, that phrase isn't as catchy or as memorable or as powerful as "In order for someone else to love you, you have to love yourself." It's really a matter of degree.

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ORIGINAL: breatheasone

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I honestly understand..... me for it was helpful to begin to focus on me...my life....and what I could do for me to make me better and happier. I know that sounds selfish, but its not.....NOT giving someone else the power to make you a happy person, but rather be in control of your own feelings and thoughts, is never a selfish thing to do....IMHO

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ORIGINAL: WingedSnake
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. Although i mostly find myself great, there are moments or days where i am not so content, and necessarily so to grow.
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