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RE: Personally i prefer a mature dominant lady - 2/17/2008 8:48:07 AM   
MistressFaye1


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ORIGINAL: MsBearlee

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In this day and time 18-25 year olds are exposed to far more than I was at this age.  At 18 I didn't know my feelings and behaviors were dominant. Most of the Dommes I know that in my age group 40-50+ recall having certain feelings since they were young but because we did not grow up in a society where sexuality is so open, we questioned our feelings.  I for one thought there was something wrong with me to have the thoughts I did.  I didn't have many boyfriends because I wasn't the giggling, "write his name all over my notebook" type.  There was always a seriousness about me.  Nor did I take blind groping of private parts by them in the attempt to "neck" or "do it".  Now if I was the one doing the groping and exploring, it was cool.
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So, it’s taken me awhile to realize I am a strong and confident woman who enjoys being toppy with men…and that many people find that appealing.  To the point that my spending 3 years in a cabin in the woods…off grid, miles from anybody (sans telephone, etc), learning to put chains and a blade on my truck, plow myself out, haul water when I had to, insist bears stay OUT of the cabin, chop wood, use a chainsaw, pee outside when the pipes froze, change a tire in the dark…yadda yadda yadda…is somehow awesome ONLY because I’m a woman and was up there alone.
Embrace it baby! 
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LOL... you go!  Gotta love a woman that can do all of that!  This reminded me of a date I went on once.  Vanilla--- date that is.  We had a flat tire and the guy wanted to call roadside assistance to fix it.  We were dressed to go to dinner and a play so I thought he didn't want to change in so he wouldn't get dirty.  I suggested he take his jacket off and if by chance he got something on his shirt no on would notice it.  He then admitted he couldn't change a tire. 

I didn't think anything less of him for not being able to but when I said I would change it and he came back and said it would make him "look less a man" we had problems after that.  I even offered to talk his ass through it so it would "look" like he was.  He didn't go for that so we spent a hour waiting for the truck.  The guy changed it, we were late for the play, and that was his last chance to be with "yours truly".

Now... how immature was that since the post is about age and maturity level.

Faye

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RE: Personally i prefer a mature dominant lady - 2/17/2008 8:52:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		What on earth use is a man who cant change a tyre?

Its so easy, even I can do it! But one doesnt look to buy a dog, and learn to bark oneself......

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RE: Personally i prefer a mature dominant lady - 2/17/2008 9:01:12 AM   
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As how can a lady claiming to be a domme from the age of 18 to 25 what experience can they have of life.And what on earth do they know about the fetish scene.Can anyone please enlighten me thanks very much indeed. 


Actually, I myself began WIITWD at age nineteen, and by my mid-twenties probably knew about 80-85% of what I now know about D/s and BDSM.

In another recent thread, I commented that I set my Search criteria at a minimum age of 39.  This doesn't mean that I think a 25 year-old Domina wouldn't be as knowledgeable or enjoyable as a woman in her forties.  It is just a personal prejudice based in my squemishness about being in a meritorious relationship with someone younger than my UMs, who are both in their early thirties.

IMHO, a good Domina for me is never about her age, height, weight, dress size,  hair color, or even her D/s-BDSM experience level.  It is about her potential for being caring, her overall competence, and enough shared interests inside and outside of WIITWD to make the time we share mutually interesting, emotionally satisfying, and worth the time we shall be investing in each other.

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RE: Personally i prefer a mature dominant lady - 2/17/2008 9:07:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		I don't care one bit about a domme's age. I care about attractiveness and interpersonal chemistry (obviously subjective), and compatible interests/inclinations. I also don't care whether she's a complete newbie looking to explore and experiment, or a seasoned veteran with decades of experience. Either situation could turn out to be great.

Some people are very focused on exactly what they want vis-a-vis experience and/or age, and that's fine if their desires lead them in that direction. The things that excite me aren't necessarily attached to the age or experience level of the domme.

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RE: Personally i prefer a mature dominant lady - 2/17/2008 9:11:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		I dont think age may matters, its the experience that counts, surely if a woman wishes to express her need to have a man where he belongs , at her feet, the male should capitulate and grovel and beg her to use and abuse him.

I have been searching a long time for a dominant stern lady who is happy to have her way with me.

Yes I suppose the mature thing is something to do with perhaps commanding respect, but a true submissve to the female sex will obey her commands no matter what her age?

submike

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RE: Personally i prefer a mature dominant lady - 2/17/2008 9:12:14 AM   
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ORIGINAL: AFlyInYourWeb
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IMHO, a good [person]  is never about age, height, weight, dress size,  hair color, or even D/s-BDSM experience level.  It is about potential for being caring, overall competence, and enough shared interests inside and outside of WIITWD to make the time we share mutually interesting, emotionally satisfying, and worth the time we shall be investing in each other. 
 
                             
 
Please forget my little edits, but I just loved your post, afly, and wanted to show it could be for anybody, anytime!!!
MsB


< Message edited by MsBearlee -- 2/17/2008 9:17:21 AM >

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RE: Personally i prefer a mature dominant lady - 2/17/2008 10:06:02 AM   
AFlyInYourWeb


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ORIGINAL: MsBearlee

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ORIGINAL: AFlyInYourWeb
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IMHO, a good [person]  is never about age, height, weight, dress size,  hair color, or even D/s-BDSM experience level.  It is about potential for being caring, overall competence, and enough shared interests inside and outside of WIITWD to make the time we share mutually interesting, emotionally satisfying, and worth the time we shall be investing in each other. 
 
                             
 
Please forget my little edits, but I just loved your post, afly, and wanted to show it could be for anybody, anytime!!!
MsB



Actually, I like your edited version better. 

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RE: Personally i prefer a mature dominant lady - 2/17/2008 11:57:24 AM   
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ORIGINAL: wankerforuse

As how can a lady claiming to be a domme from the age of 18 to 25 what experience can they have of life.And what on earth do they know about the fetish scene.Can anyone please enlighten me thanks very much indeed. 


Hmmmm, interesting question.  The answer is simple.  Dominance knows no particular age.  I have been owned by a domme 17 years older than me and she was very knowledgeable in what she was doing.  Mistress, on the other hand, is almost seven years younger than me and while She has limited experience in real-time domination and the fetish scene, She has a major thirst for learning as much as She can.  She has something about Her that just compels and lures me to bow down to Her dominance.  While other dommes may have more experience and knowledge, Mistress is the only one who's capable of bringing out my submission.  It's like She's the only key able to unlock my lock of submission...other keys may fit, but only one can open it and She is the only one who can.

I have over 12 years of experience in the scene and while I've seen and done a lot in my lifetime, I'm still learning myself.  There are lots of things Mistress can learn from me, and even with Her limited experience, there is a lot I can learn from Her, too.  We are a team, partners in crime, and She's the ying to my yang (believe me, I can't wait till She yings my yang...lol).  We are going to learn from each other and grow with one another.

Dominance and submission is about a connection of some sorts...whether it be strictly physical, monetary, or mushy and romantic.  I have a connection with Mistress, and despite the age difference, I believe I not only found the domme of my dreams, but also my soulmate.  I was always partial to older dommes because of the perceived maturity, but Mistress renewed my faith that not all young dommes are airheads, bimbos, and money hungry hookers with whips.

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RE: Personally i prefer a mature dominant lady - 2/17/2008 12:07:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think it's foolish to say that age and experience are not part of a person's power.  We all know better.  You will never meet a young domme of 18 who is not going to be less powerful than the same woman will be at 35 or 50, barring some horrible accident.

That being said, there is no way to compare different women in this way.  Some girls of 19-22 are more experienced at various types of play, and they may even be more mature as people, than many women much older than they are.

I do think that a very young domme may have problems forming a solid relationship with an older submissive man, especially if he isn't happy with the Indulgent Daddy/Spoiled Baby dynamic.  But there's no reason to insult young dommes in general.  There are many younger sub males available, after all, and women are all individuals.  The fact that I am more powerful now than I was at 18 doesn't mean that I am more powerful now than everyone who is 18--much as I might love to tell myself that!   



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RE: Personally i prefer a mature dominant lady - 2/17/2008 1:15:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		How can the young inexperienced Dommes learn without experience? I love how pet is patient and willing to teach me what he knows. we've even discussed ideas of going to conventions to learn more techniques. I'm a quick learner and intend to learn all that my brain can suck up.

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RE: Personally i prefer a mature dominant lady - 2/17/2008 1:40:33 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		Being dominant  in my opinion, is not about age it's about personality and who you are. Being dominant isn't about some magic age. You can be a take charge dominant personality at any age.

And you can not judge life experince on age alone, You will never know all that someone may or may not have experinced by age alone. 

You'll never know  for example, weather  they raised a family by 19 or for example that maybe they went to war by 20, or that their entire platoon was murdered by an IED, right in front of them or anything else about them.

now enough of examples, how about some real facts. My brother is 27. He's been in the army since he was 18 maybe as early as 17.

Would you ever guess he's lost one child due to his gf miscarrying and has a 3 year old, by samegirlfriend, was dumped by her cause he's an army man and she wanted someone else,   and is now married to a wonderful  lady, and has been over sea's twice,  This time he was sent right after his wedding and with a badly broken elbow,and has almost been killed while oversea's saw some of his best buddies killed, while he was over there? no.  I bet You never would.


Now I know he's probably the exception more than the rule, but it's proof you can NEVER judge "life experince" by age alone.
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ORIGINAL: LadyHathor

I find it rare to believe that someone wiht so little experience in life ( 18-21) could be a Dominant,


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RE: Personally i prefer a mature dominant lady - 2/17/2008 6:13:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		Reality is that some people mature very much earlier then others do.. Its the way they have been brought up.. Some people have to front up with lifes issues from very young and others just breed in there cocoons (like myself) in a family environment that feel comfortable and stay for much longer then they have to... i really admire the people that either way do find and experience life and also getting to know themselves better from a very young age.. Sometimes it can be dangerous as they can be exposed to hardship at a time where other kids enjoy the family protection and all that they get from it.. Not everyone is as lucky as some of us. But sooner or later we all will get to live on our own merits.

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RE: Personally i prefer a mature dominant lady - 2/17/2008 7:03:00 PM   
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ORIGINAL: wankerforuse

As how can a lady claiming to be a domme from the age of 18 to 25 what experience can they have of life.And what on earth do they know about the fetish scene.Can anyone please enlighten me thanks very much indeed. 


You know, when I read posts like this one, my biggest challenge is to decide...putz, schmuck, or moron?



The OP's posting history definitely implies that one or all of those fits quite nicely. 

OP what do you care?  If they aren't in an age group you find appealing, move on.  The necessity to make a post and criticise those for something they cannot change such as age isn't really making you an appealing candidate.

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RE: Personally i prefer a mature dominant lady - 2/17/2008 7:47:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		I realized I was dominant at age 14 when I tried out for the boy's wrestling team. Last year, when watching the original 'Lady Heather' episode of CSI, my father who has little to no knowledge of the scene at all pointed to the TV and said, "I could see you doing that." So you're saying I should declare myself a submissive or stay away from the lifestyle until I'm deemed mature enough by your standards? Personally I don't seek out subs over 35 but that doesn't mean I think they are unqualified to submit to someone else.

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RE: Personally i prefer a mature dominant lady - 2/17/2008 9:42:38 PM   
slavekal


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RE: Personally i prefer a mature dominant lady - 2/17/2008 10:34:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		I came into the scene knowing very little. My pet introduced me into BDSM about a year ago. I didn't realize that I had a foot fetish til I met him (who has a huge one himself), I just thought that feet were attractive . He is my teacher and I always amaze him when we talk about ideas or I am asking him a question. I am so happy that I met him and having him introduce me into the scene. 

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RE: Personally i prefer a mature dominant lady - 2/17/2008 10:40:08 PM   
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Respectfully, and in my own very humble experience of meeting dommes:

In the 18-25 bracket I've found many more dommes that are more sadist-tops than dominants.  I know there are many exceptions, and the ones willing to post constructive posts on a forum of their interest are mainly those exceptions.  A human with a pussy and a crop does not make a domme.  It requires an understanding of submissives/submission and the responsibilities of dominance.

I would like to add that I am a male dominant in the 18-25 bracket.  I find many boys my age are not suitable, in my eyes, to have a submissive or slave.

On a large enough population there is a strong coorelation between age and wisdom.  Not in any singlular trial does an increase in age create an increase in wisdom.


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