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How do you wish to be approached? - 2/18/2008 9:56:40 PM   
MasterBlueTiger


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Joined: 9/2/2007
Status: offline 		I have seen a few profiles that complain about the way some Dominants are approaching them, and with the way they describe their situation I cannot say that I balme them. To be fair, I imagine it is little more than the work of a small handful of miscreants. It does beg the question, however: How do you wish to be approached?
I look forward to your answers

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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/18/2008 10:01:06 PM   
Shawn1066


Posts: 987
Joined: 10/7/2007
Status: offline 		If somebody contacts me on this site I expect them to approach me with politeness and manners.  I tend to frown upon anything else but somebody's very best behavior.  I expect somebody contacting me to respect me and my Owner.  I always expect to be treated like an equal and a normal human being.

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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/18/2008 10:03:22 PM   
CharmedAnne


Posts: 73
Joined: 2/17/2008
Status: offline 		I prefer someone who takes time to read my profile and give a little hint that they did read it. You know, hey I like opera too, or I read that you hate yahoo so I wont bother giving mine! And I really like it when people take what they read and understand it. Its so annoying to state that I wont use messengers, then 8 out of 10 emails tell me to hit them up on aol.

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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/18/2008 10:09:03 PM   
sweetwenchie


Posts: 1993
Joined: 4/19/2006
From: Sacramento, California
Status: offline 		There are a few ways i enjoy being approached, either with humor and levity, comments on something in my profile or play list (get a lot of those actually), or a simple polite hello, how are you casual type of email.  There is no one way to approach me, other than be friendly. (Considering my profile states i am here looking for friends not a Master i think the whole be friendly thing should be self explanatory... though it appears it is not to some  )

The only emails i respond negatively to are the ones that are extremely crude, nasty, or so poorly written i cannot quite make out what they are saying. 

< Message edited by sweetwenchie -- 2/18/2008 10:51:19 PM >

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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/18/2008 10:58:43 PM   
probablyknowme


Posts: 1875
Joined: 9/19/2007
Status: offline 		I agree, my favorite Cmails are always the ones that let me know that someone has taken the time to read my profile. There's not a lot there...on purpose...but what I do put there, I put it there for a reason. If someone makes me smile with their intial approach, it is more likely that I am going to respond to them positively. If someone writes me pointing out a common interest, I am going to obviously have more to say to them. If someone writes me about something that they have read on the boards, I am going to be really impressed (and shocked cause it seems like a very small population from the other side comes here.) Basically any approach that makes it clear that the person is thinking with the big head is going to illicit a better response from me.

I hope this helps,
kat

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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 1:10:43 AM   
heartcream


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From: Psychoalphadiscobetabioaquadoloop
Status: offline 		I like to be approached by interesting people.

I personally cannot read form letters, all the words slip in front of me like a ship on goo. I also dont care for emails that say things like, "I like the look in your eyes." Um, no pictures of eyes in my profile.

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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 2:53:07 AM   
Focus50


Posts: 3962
Joined: 12/28/2004
From: Newcastle, Australia
Status: offline 		I once had an email from a young fem/sub whose opening line was: "Hello my new Master...."  Along with "Hey; you!", that'd be about as bad a start as there is - I hope.
 
I go to some length (in my profile) expressing that I'm generally an easy going, down to Earth individual in my everyday life - most mature adults have little difficulty corresponding in an amicably friendly manner with me.  I prefer to keep the D/s out of it initially; to see what else we have in common.
 
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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 2:57:48 AM   
PrizedPosession


Posts: 1209
Joined: 11/2/2007
Status: offline 		Polite and courteous is always nice. i have a lot in my profile because...well i'm a spaz and babble. But the most important part of me being owned is right there in bold and yet i've been offered a collar by too many who seem to be illiterate.
But i try to give the benefit of the doubt and respond to most if Daddy lets me.


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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 2:59:19 AM   
silvermuse


Posts: 259
Joined: 6/8/2007
Status: offline 		With honesty...

I've lost track of the amount of emails I've had where they've claimed they're read my profile and obviously haven't.

silvermuse

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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 3:33:12 AM   
colouredin


Posts: 4279
Joined: 2/2/2007
Status: offline 		Yeah something that makes me laugh is always good, an interesting observation or a comment on my profile/posts on here. I dont like people who ally themselves with me though, i dont know why, people who go on about the amount of fakes on the site yadda yadda and of course there are the "kneel bitch" messages. 

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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 4:07:39 AM   
hopelesslyInvo


Posts: 522
Joined: 2/10/2008
From: the future
Status: offline 		i would prefer to be approached in whatever manner best suits and is not misleading of them.  i read them all, i respond to most; the rude, the demanding, the inquisitive, obscure or polite.  the content is more important than the wording, the demeanor is inherent to the intent of their message. 

i don't want rude people acting polite, i don't want curious people to beat around the bush, and i certainly don't want idiots to turn off their caps-lock or people looking for less meaningful relations to use the word devotion.  i enjoy the honesty of people calling things what they are.  i can't be opposed to a proposition unless i know what it is.

what ever the message is, and however it is worded;  i do prefer them to have a profile offering some further insight to who they are, as well as some visual representation as to who i'm talking to.  it adds to the honesty.

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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 4:30:37 AM   
purepleasure


Posts: 6941
Joined: 4/9/2004
From: Lehigh Valley, PA
Status: offline 		Polite responses/greetings work best for me. I want to be approached in the same manner if in a public situation with vanilla people nearby.

If the person contacting me shows that they have read my entire profile, will win a response for sure.  The cookie cutter form letters pretty much get ignored.

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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 4:46:46 AM   
sublunar


Posts: 1
Joined: 12/2/2007
Status: offline 		i prefer not to be approached, unless just to make friends, in which case i agree with all of the above posts.
i feel that i prefer to approach a Dom that i find intreaguing and then i ask if we may chat, to learn new things. maybe its just me, but a Dom that approaches me and asks me to serve him puts me off. i have a service to offer and when i offer, it is left up the Dom to consider me or not. i am not keen on the thought of Doms searching. i like the thought they they are confidently asured someone will offer themselves. maybe i am just a hopless romantic, or screwed up in the head lol

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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 5:32:09 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


Posts: 10926
Joined: 2/5/2007
From: Chicago, IL
Status: offline 		let's discuss how i don't wish to be approached:

1 - don't send messages with snide comments/remarks about my weight, skin color, appearance, etc. etc.

2 - don't send messages that say "...on your knees now bitch and suck my cock ...call me Master as i'm fucking your black ass..." (actual message too)

3 - don't approach me with a message describing one of my hard limits as your favorite thing to do (it shows you didn't read my profile).

4 - no marriage proposals in the 1st message

5 - if my profile says "not looking", then don't ask "what are you looking for in a dominant"





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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 6:39:30 AM   
KyttynTheMynx


Posts: 4880
Joined: 5/10/2006
From: Moosecrotch, Va
Status: offline 		I like for a person to show that they have read a profile, which has been stated before.  None of that silly "on your knees" or whatever.  Just be casual and approach me kinda like you would on the streets.  Approaching me, or showing a lack of respect is just gonna cause me to throw down the verbal gauntlet, make the person feel 2 feet tall, and put them on block.

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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 9:04:44 AM   
Dnomyar


Posts: 7933
Joined: 6/27/2005
Status: offline 		Mmmm approach a wench in a friendly manner. I hardly think so. Fetch me an ale wench. See op thats how it is done.

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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 10:01:15 AM   
MasterBlueTiger


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Joined: 9/2/2007
Status: offline 		Thank you. This has been a great help.

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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 10:42:07 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


Posts: 19224
Joined: 10/25/2005
Status: offline 		As on a recent episode of the great show Psych

"First you treat a woman like a person, then a princess, then a Greek Goddess, then a person again"

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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 10:43:57 AM   
ownedandcollared


Posts: 217
Joined: 1/21/2006
Status: offline 		i personally prefer to be approached with manners and conversation...

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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 11:33:26 AM   
RCdc


Posts: 8674
Status: offline 		If I have to tell you, then we wouldn't be compatable anyway.
 
the.dark.

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