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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 11:44:56 AM   
toservez


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

As on a recent episode of the great show Psych

"First you treat a woman like a person, then a princess, then a Greek Goddess, then a person again"


That is a nice thought.

I am like most I always responded to people who took the time to read my profile and communicate that they had in more then one sentence.

The one’s who got my positive replies almost always not just read my profile but could communicate what they took from my profile in their own words and how that fit them. Almost all of these were nothing more then two to three short paragraph messages and not mini novels by the way.

Asking questions about my profile also was an excellent way to get me intrigued as well.

Please note the difference between just grabbing anything out of a profile and asking any question then taking the time to ask an intriguing question and some big part of her profile.

For example “I see you like sailing, where do you go sailing? Please check out my profile and if any interest get back to me.” I would just read you scanned my interest and went through the motions of writing something personal.

On the other hand, “I noticed an overall theme to your profile about you needing a Master comfortable in his own skin. Why have you found this to be so important to you?” That would be far more interesting and intriguing to me.


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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 12:25:39 PM   
amayos


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ORIGINAL: sublunar

i prefer not to be approached, unless just to make friends, in which case i agree with all of the above posts.
i feel that i prefer to approach a Dom that i find intriguing and then i ask if we may chat, to learn new things. maybe its just me, but a Dom that approaches me and asks me to serve him puts me off. i have a service to offer and when i offer, it is left up the Dom to consider me or not. i am not keen on the thought of Doms searching. i like the thought they they are confidently assured someone will offer themselves. maybe i am just a hopeless romantic, or screwed up in the head lol



I completely agree. This is not hopeless romanticizing—it's sound reasoning. It amazes me how many "dominant" men (and "submissive" women) overlook this.

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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 12:30:49 PM   
StayOfExecution


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Status: offline 		I like to be approached in a down-to-earth natural kind of manner, where the dominant is just being himself.

I automatically delete form letters without even reading them.  And anyone who signs their emails as "Master so-and-so", also gets eighty-sixed immediately.

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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 12:37:50 PM   
Mercnbeth


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How do you wish to be approached?


Sincerely

It doesn't matter what you what, or which one of us. Ideally you have a clear message, of more than a couple of words, honestly portraying yourself and that's it. We've met over 100 people so far as a result of CM. We've corresponded and continue to correspond with many more who we hope someday to meet. 

Sometimes its obvious that more attention is spent on looking at the pictures versus reading the profile. For instance, any request to submit to beth tends to indicate a lack of reading and/or comprehension skill, but that poses no problem. We're still batting 1.000 responding to messages received; even if its only to say; "Please read our profile and get back to us afterward."

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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 12:50:32 PM   
Aileen1968


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Status: offline 		Don't believe what everyone is saying...we all want cock shots in the first email. 

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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 1:22:23 PM   
Jeffff


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

Don't believe what everyone is saying...we all want cock shots in the first email. 


You have mail.......

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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 1:29:50 PM   
BlackPhx


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Status: offline 		Whether a person is contacting Master and I regarding the potential to join our household, to be owned by me ( I switch), to be a potential partner in a Dance 2 Dominants and me, or just because they saw something in the profile that grabbed them, be a person first. We are all more than just body parts looking to hook up. We want to know you and hopefully it is vice versa. Even if you just liked something we had to say in a post or hated it, we are willing to talk about it and many other things. Don't just pop a "On your Knees", or " Do you fuck submissive men up the ass?"  in an email and expect anything more than to be ignored or get a one word reply back.

poenkitten (who tries to respond to every email)

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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 3:24:44 PM   
laurell3


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Status: offline 		Everyone varies but I would suggest that "on your knees bitch" and cock pictures probably won't get you too far with quite a few.

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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 4:40:28 PM   
MasterBlueTiger


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Status: offline 		Thanks again for all the suggestions. Question though. About the signature people have referred to, would that be the same as your profile name or are we talking about something else. I really just through "Master" on mine as a spur of the monent thing to add flavor(all the other kids were doing it), but it sounds like people don't go for that. Any suggestions?

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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 4:50:00 PM   
laurell3


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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 5:23:07 PM   
SubbieOnWheels


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Status: offline 		First - don't be rude, crude, and socially unacceptable. "Hey, u hot!" or "Hello, sexy?" won't get a response from me. My screen name may be a bit awkward for someone to use, so I accept a message with no greeting, but "slave" or "bitch" or "slut" won't get any gold stars from me.

Second - show that you're a person, in addition to being a Dominant. If you're looking to build a relationship of the kind my profile says I want, you need to be a person I want to meet. And how am I gonna know that I want to meet you unles you show me that person?

Finally - some Doms use a "vanilla name" as their signature, some use "Master" with a first name, some use their screen name or a variant of it. Use the name you'd like another Dominant to call you - until the submissive has submitted to you, they are your equals. (That appears to be a hard concept for some Dominants to get their brains around, and commanding, demanding, or ordering-type messages from those Doms end up in Ignore-ville.)

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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 5:24:50 PM   
christine1


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Status: offline 		i like it when it is obvious that the person contacting me has bothered to read my profile...the nicer and more respectful they are to me, the nicer i'll be in my reply to them.  but i have to say some of my most favorite approaches were the "hubba hubba!", and the one where he said he wanted to pi** on my nipples...sometimes you just have to laugh!

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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 6:20:18 PM   
SassySarijane


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Status: offline 		Whether I'm looking or not, I prefer to be approached as a person. I'm equal unless and until I choose to submit to someone. Someone approaching as a potential new friend, or interested in my groups, or wants to get into local open groups is going to get more than some HNG just looking for a piece however he can get it. My profile is clear as to why I'm here and those who's approach shows they've read it are very much appreciated. The one's who don't or are looking for what they can get, don't get anything beyond possibly bye bye before message deleted.

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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 6:30:59 PM   
greenearth21


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Status: offline 		Be nice, I dont care much for spelling, but have nicely written email.  mention somethign that you think we have in common (but dont get crazy by seeing it as the reason we should talk or be together) and everything should fall in place.   Oh and patience.  All too often i'm unable to respond immediately and someone gets their panties in a bunch...dont like that.

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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 7:04:56 PM   
stella41b


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Status: offline 		In short as yourself, as a person, as a human being. Approach me as you would a member of your family, a friend.

Reading my profile is highly recommended, but so too is understanding what is written there. Whatever is written there is to be taken literally. Otherwise it wouldn't be written there.

I'm always open to friendship with people, irrespective of who they are. A few people have been smart and come to me with a problem or something they needed to share. People do get lonely and need to reach out to someone.

Indeed, I'm also friends with a lot of relatives and friends of a number of important African leaders and heads of state. Many of these are very rich, come from Nigeria, and want to give me money.  

However while we're on the subject of approaching me I'd just like to point a few things out. I am not a physician, I only have a First Aid certificate, and unfortunately this doesn't quite cover me for surgical procedures such as castration.

For those who send me photos of their penises, I regret to announce I'm not able to perform miracles either.

The 2008 quota for applications from toilet slaves has now been reached, I'm not into it, but if I do however change my mind I do have a list of very willing people.

I dnt v mch lk it wen u write 2 me in txtspk

Just for the record


< Message edited by stella41b -- 2/19/2008 10:37:45 PM >

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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/19/2008 7:20:27 PM   
TabithaJordan


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Status: offline 		One liners suck! When your approached and they show a genuine intrest & sincerity, that catches my attention

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RE: How do you wish to be approached? - 2/21/2008 1:03:09 AM   
HerLord


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Status: offline 		TOOOOOOOOOOOO much truth in this.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

If I have to tell you, then we wouldn't be compatable anyway.
 
the.dark.

 But to add to this thread (and reference one I started,) I detest it when someone approaches My Love with the whole what are you looking for in a _________. Whatever word they need to fill in here... These profiles are set up to easily communicate what we are looking for. Why in the hell would you ask me or My Love to tell you what is already in our profiles? If you have taken the time to read them... you would already know the answer to most of these silly questions.
 
Again I must default with what NOT to do. The "Get on your knees." thing... bad plan. The generic "form letter"... less good plan. How do WE know you even wrote the form letter the first time? The "read your profile" and then asking questions that are answered in it... worse plan, for it shows that not only are you illiterate, but dishonest also. The requesting pictures of nudity... FANTASTIC plan! This is what every one here is here for... To be your personal source of free porn.
 
That about sums up alot of what I spend my time on here cyphering through the endless "I love your eyes" comments (note, there are NO eyes in either of our profile pics...) the out right rude and the disgusting "You will lick the shit off my shoes before..." crap.
 
Want to be invited to see us.
 Be HONEST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Be Funny, be smart, be sexy, be patient,  but mostly, be YOU! If we like you... we'll see...
 

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