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Mercnbeth -> RE: Types of submissives (2/19/2008 9:06:55 AM)
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Although each individual is unique, after a few years of observation, this slave has come to the conclusion that "levels" or "types" of submissives or submission are just different versions of the same theme. None is more or less better than the other, and there is no "heirarchy", in this slave's mind.
Some versions witnessed, either here at CM, or other places where D/s folk gather:
Getting some Yin to my Yang
they have either a major Dominant role elsewhere in their life, or a whole bunch of Dominant roles in their life, and embracing submission of some controlled type eases the pressures, balances their psyche, and/or provides joy to their existance.
Romance-based
as soon as there is romance in play, they submit to the object of their affection. it is very closely related to the "Inspired" type, in that the "romance" is the inspiration and driving force behind their willingness to submit. take away the romance and the submission is revoked as well.
Inspired
similar to the "Romance-based", they are inspired to submit by a particular person. it could be that person's intelligence, sense of humor, comportment, physical attributes, etc. but it is distinguished from the Romantic type in that no romance is necessary to achieve the same submissive inclination.
Sexually-Oriented, or Sensation-based
submissive behind closed bedroom or Dungeon doors is their primary motivation. they might agree to submit to a few areas outside the bedroom, but the sexual aspect is the primary motivator.
Personality
for some, submission is a knee-jerk, possibly conditioned or natural, automatic reaction. it is how they respond to the world around them and is only specifically pointed at one person when they are involved in a relationship with them.
Apprenticeship not exactly sure if they want to claim a specific label or orientation, they enter into the s side of the slash as a part of their onging process...they "earn their wings", so to speak, and move on to being a Dominant partner, with the idea that they have a better understanding of D/s, because they have experienced submission first-hand.
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