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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 10:36:33 AM   
sweetwenchie


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Status: offline 		At times missing it is an ache that can be almost too much to bear.  i try to keep it in check with play parties, but when it is a certain Someone you are craving interaction with, casual play parties end up only making the need worse.   Its a real bitch.

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 10:38:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		LA...you have a point. Of course it happens with all kinds of dynamics...I was just using my own because it kinda fit under the general BDSM subject line... I agree with MasterFireMaam about the frenzy....I can't imagine NOT feeling that toward Master.... I love the stage He and I are in now...I call it the.."Fuck like bunnies" stage LOL...... He and I will get together, a few hours go by, of Us just cuddling...and making love, then we remember, HEY! We have this neat "toy bag" We can use too LOL

sweetwenchie I your ache gets soothed soon! I know it sucks.


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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 10:46:00 AM   
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Status: offline 		Poly people use the term "NRE" or "New Relationship Energy"  It can be an interesting experience watching your partner go through that with someone else. 

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 10:53:00 AM   
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Status: offline 		LA...I am not sure about poly experience, and observing it, but I know that "NRE" FEELS wonderful....

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 11:05:21 AM   
sweetwenchie


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Status: offline 		thank you breathes     i cannot see the ache getting soothed anytime soon, but i can hope

wenchie

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 11:23:59 AM   
toservez


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ORIGINAL: velvetslave


Absolutely!!  It is like every inch of my body and mind are humming, needing the energy and connection that only comes from that type of interaction.  To know that, in those moments, you are His focus.  To be allowed to let His dominance and your sumbission envelop you completely. Yeah, I can very much relate to what you are talking about breatheasone.

velvetslave


I enjoyed how this was expressed and agree with pretty much everything written.

Those physical manifestations of the power exchange dynamic are just as much needed for me as anything else in our relationship. When my Master is away on business, usually for most of the week, I start craving his physical acts on me more and more each day he is gone.

It is like if he is totally not with me makes me crave more then when we are together and he has just not done anything in particular.


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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 2:43:13 PM   
laurell3


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Status: offline 		I think it's quite possible that is what subdrop is for me.  Sure, I crave intense play at times, I don't think it's much different than craving sex though and not unusual or unhealthy.

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 3:29:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		Jonesing...Oh, how I get all twitchy and a bit bitchy during my jonesing for a good beating or just some serious skin on skin sex! 

How sad is it when even your teenager son tells you..."Mom, will you please go get some adult-time in...you're driving me nuts!"

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 4:45:14 PM   
ThundersCry


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Status: offline 		Not the kind of *jonesing* <term> I have ever heard related to this subject.
 
Its a street name for *needing* another...*fix*, in my neck of the woods. THOUGH.. I suppose it can mean many other *things* as well. <soft laughter>
 
Flesh is flesh...it can be a monster at times if its not controlled...
 
Age has a way of taking care of...that!
 
Tsk Tsk =L=
 
Good post...

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 4:51:10 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Back when we were LDR it became very obvious after three weeks that I was in need of play. These days it isn't as clear cut. He'll reach over and tweak a nipple, give me a small spanking etc randomly. Enough that I can wait till there's time, but not really enough to fill my needs.

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 5:22:58 PM   
adoracat


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressVnus

quote:

I am mentally ill. The simple fact is, when the demons get to loud - well, being beaten, and beaten well, shuts them up. smoothes out my brain waves. Makes the world a calm, rational place in which I can live comfortably inside my own skin.


I think there are many instances where masochism (consentual) is quite a release for people with mental health issues.

Especially "cutters", anxiety disorders, bi-polars (in manic OR down-swing), ptsd.  I'm not saying this is a "cure".  I'm saying that proper treatment is necessary, however, many find this a nice "stabilizer" or "quick-release" valve, in addition to their other treatments.


*nods*  Daddy has forbidden me from injuring his property deliberately, and has told me my main job is to take care of his property.

when i'm extraordinarily stressed out, and he hasnt had time/financial means to come see me...its difficult.  i've had accidents that i'm not really sure that were accidents, even while i AM trying to obey my orders. 

kitten, who thinks that cutting and anxiety suck.

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 6:15:43 PM   
StayOfExecution


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ORIGINAL: breatheasone

So is this, or can this be a real phenomenon in the wonderful wide world of WIITWD? To be tied....beatin....spanked, slapped, hair pulled....To be told certain things, in a certain tone of voice. When he has that certain look in his eye... To experience your "D" types power in person....to FEEL his passion...his strength.... You actually feel your soul kneel to this man at times like these.....

So is it just me?....Or can a body REALLY miss this kind of interaction? Please bear in mind that this in no way negates how special I find the other ways I spend time with my own Master.....but if its been awhile....don't you miss it?....just a speck?


Hell yes.  I know *I* miss it.  I haven't had a good session in about two years.  Sure, I've gotten laid and ordered around ---"take off your clothes", "suck my cock" blah blah blah, but if the Dom doesn't have that passion and that fire inside of him, or the ability to mentally dominate me, then my emotions just never get heightened and the experience basically feels like vanilla sex, which only makes me jones even worse for one of those knock-down-drag-out hot emotional scenes that leaves you quivering and high for days afterwards. 

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 6:39:09 PM   
TysGalilah


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quote:

ORIGINAL: breatheasone

So is this, or can this be a real phenomenon in the wonderful wide world of WIITWD? To be tied....beatin....spanked, slapped, hair pulled....To be told certain things, in a certain tone of voice. When he has that certain look in his eye... To experience your "D" types power in person....to FEEL his passion...his strength.... You actually feel your soul kneel to this man at times like these.....

So is it just me?....Or can a body REALLY miss this kind of interaction? Please bear in mind that this in no way negates how special I find the other ways I spend time with my own Master.....but if its been awhile....don't you miss it?....just a speck?


You are certainly not alone in those feelings.

I try not to let it derail me.....sometimes I am even successful in that attempt   soft smile...
times like right now>  not so much.

it does feel like a craving....like  SOMETHING needs to get fed, or Im gonna come out of my skin.....
which is ironic because  its not about filling me up ( fed ) but more so the craving to have more and more  TAKEN from me....from deep inside me...
I crave feeling him taking and using and sucking all the energy out of my body and then replacing it with all that is him and his strength.
like a transfusion..
is that close??


ok I just went off didn't I?
sigh
can hardly believe my last visit to Az was less than 2 months ago...at holiday.







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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 7:10:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hi Breathesasone,

I think your post caught my eye, not just because I enjoy reading your posts in general, but because I think it was my "jonesing" that drew me back to Collarme after months of apathy toward it.

Now if only I can get my fix
Not much else to contribute, so

W

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 10:19:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		Because i don't see my Dom as much, i do miss his low tone of voice that he uses when he's upset with me or asking a serious question that demands an answer.

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/20/2008 5:43:19 AM   
breatheasone


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Status: offline 		Thankyou ladies.....shysub...I know what you mean about the tone of voice thing! Winsome, I hope you get your fix soon! galilah, you can go "off" anytime you want....and yes that was very close

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/20/2008 2:59:04 PM   
TysGalilah


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quote:

ORIGINAL: breatheasone

Thankyou ladies.....shysub...I know what you mean about the tone of voice thing! Winsome, I hope you get your fix soon! galilah, you can go "off" anytime you want....and yes that was very close


hugggzzzzzz
I just can't help myself ..had to hug you : )


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RE: Jonesing? - 2/20/2008 3:54:46 PM   
subsong


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     Absolutely  !!!    That's one of the main motivators for me to be here !    While it's not a constant thing - it is like that old adage about sex  :
         When you have it regularly ,  it's about 10% of your life - but when you don't , the urge escalates to 90%  !         

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/20/2008 3:57:13 PM   
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 just a speck?
talk about understatement....lol
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Hell yes.  I know *I* miss it.  I haven't had a good session in about two years.  Sure, I've gotten laid and ordered around ---"take off your clothes", "suck my cock" blah blah blah, but if the Dom doesn't have that passion and that fire inside of him, or the ability to mentally dominate me, then my emotions just never get heightened and the experience basically feels like vanilla sex, which only makes me jones even worse for one of those knock-down-drag-out hot emotional scenes that leaves you quivering and high for days afterwards. 
what she said.
Why is it that these guys who just want to order you around, have a bit of hard sex, and play at being a little dominant in bed can't come out and say, "I'm pretty vanilla with a little bit of a kink...well a penchant for hot sex." ?   That would be pretty helpful in the screening process...SHEESH!


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RE: Jonesing? - 2/20/2008 6:18:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ha! We played yesterday, and I'm already missing it , and more importantly missing him! When you love the time you spend with someone, you can't help but want to be with them more.

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