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ownedandcollared -> RE: Respect for the property of Others. (2/20/2008 8:38:15 PM)

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ORIGINAL: OldBastardly1

I know....it is a terrible thing when somebody else thinks you are attractive, when somebody else wants you, even if just to taunt you with it. And of course, it is near hell for a Dominant to have to endure having a s-type that others want. Competition is a bad thing when you are not sure of who the victor will be.

Actually, if  he  can't handle competition, he should close up shop, and that doesn't mean closing your profile. I am guessing this is an online relationship.

And just as I was thinking that the starving kids, eating flies in some 3rd world country was a huge problem. Thanks for putting things in perspective. [sm=banghead.gif]


No, actually, its not.



FangsNfeet -> RE: Respect for the property of Others. (2/20/2008 8:46:33 PM)

Just be flattered



DiurnalVampire -> RE: Respect for the property of Others. (2/20/2008 8:56:05 PM)

Rather than be upset by the poachers, Fox has a canned answer he gives them. If they dont get the hint, then he bocks and ignores them. It isnt flattery, but it IS only the internet. If someone's initial email is insuting and rude, then you can do one of two things. Ignore them completely, or tell them strsight up that you think it is disrespectful and rude to speak to you as they did, and that any further corresponsances can be directed through your D-type.
Assuming you are only looking for friends, and this has been a problem, perhaps you should change your "looking for" to just friends.  That will majorly cut down on the number of people who's searches you come up on, and therefore the number of disrespectful messages as well. If you dont wish to limit yourself that much, then you will have to cope with those that dont actually read profiles or pay any attention.
Ask your Master to write you an appropriate response for you to cut and paste to any of those messageing you with something so innapropriate that it would threaten your ability to stay on CM. If your Master trusts you, and you are not doing anything other than emailing these people, then no matter what someone is saying to you, theres o reason you should be made to leave.It isnt like you are at a realtime club being followed around and he has to worry about what might be done.  On an anonymous site such as this, you are never going to escape the idiots who believe that no matter who you are with, they are better. You just have to learn to deal with them properly.

DV



MissMagnolia -> RE: Respect for the property of Others. (2/20/2008 9:36:12 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

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ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

I have whole reams of do's and do nots on my profile that not many seem to read and do anyway.

Some guys will try to chat you up in a club, even if you have a wedding ring on. Here is no different. It's not that dramatic. If you see a dark blue name delete and block it before opening it. It's that simple.


Right after I get past your cleavage, I will read your profile...:)

Jeff


Now just watch yourself, ya cheeky monkey!!  Oh well, seeing as it's you, I'll do a quick flash [sm=shake.gif][sm=lol.gif]



obagaar -> RE: Respect for the property of Others. (2/20/2008 11:07:58 PM)

I have Doms perv my profile, but very few actually message me. Switches usually are the ones who do it. I usually talk to them casually, but make it plain I have a Daddy.



eyesopened -> RE: Respect for the property of Others. (2/21/2008 2:38:38 AM)

May i make a suggestion?  When i became collared i thought i could change my profile to indicate that and to select the actively seeking to "friends only" and that would be that.  However, not everyone translates "friends" to mean not looking for playmates or whatever.  Once i selected nothing at all for the 'seeking' option, the inappropriate emails nearly stopped.  i still get the occasional cut-n-paste form emails but i never get the poaching kind anymore.  i de-selected anything from the 'seeking' response so that i would not have to turn my profile off or hide it.  You know how people will snark if you post something and then they see 'profile not found' when checking you out.   Just a suggestion.



SimplyMichael -> RE: Respect for the property of Others. (2/21/2008 8:22:46 AM)

Somebodies wittle man isn't sure his woman belongs to him and so he wants to lock her up to keep her.  GROW THE FUCK UP DUDE!  He is masking his insecurity in scene bullshit.  It would be one thing if he simply said, "woman, I love you and you are so amazing that I feel insecure and want to cement the relationship so lets stay offline for a BIT and work on US"  That would be open and honest, but instead he is playing jailer and you can't lock a woman up enough to heal that insecurity.

BossyShoeBitch, my woman, gets emails all the time telling her that she should submit to a real man/a real dom/a real dominate etc.  YAWN.

Hot women get hit on, if you can't deal with that, date blow up dolls.



Leatherist -> RE: Respect for the property of Others. (2/21/2008 10:40:57 AM)

I seem to recall your current partner being married when you met her.

Funnny, you standing up for poachers.



Jeffff -> RE: Respect for the property of Others. (2/21/2008 11:54:33 AM)

You can't take what is truly unavailable

Jeff



Leatherist -> RE: Respect for the property of Others. (2/21/2008 11:59:51 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

You can't take what is truly unavailable

Jeff


At the same time,one should proabaly avoid coming across as high and mighty-when they see fit to pursue something that seems taken. It looks silly when you criticize others for doing asd you do.



Jeffff -> RE: Respect for the property of Others. (2/21/2008 12:04:55 PM)

Micheal has said some things here that I have found to be ridiculous.Just as I have said things here that others find the same. He does not really need me sticking up for him. Having said that, the fact that BSB was married and is now with Micheal does not mean he pursued her. I do not know the facts of how they became a couple. I don't care.  I stand by my statement. If someone is truly happy you can't poach. I agree with him totally here.

Jeff



Leatherist -> RE: Respect for the property of Others. (2/21/2008 12:06:31 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

Micheal has said some things here that I have found to be ridiculous.Just as I have said things here that others find the same. He does not really need me sticking up for him. Having said that, the fact that BSB was married and is now with Micheal does not mean he pursued her. I do not know the facts of how they became a couple. I don't care.  I stand by my statement. I someone is truly happy you can't poach. I agree with him totally here.

Jeff


I just found it ironic, enough said.



Jeffff -> RE: Respect for the property of Others. (2/21/2008 12:08:42 PM)

lol.... thats cool..:)

Jeff



laurell3 -> RE: Respect for the property of Others. (2/21/2008 12:11:33 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

Micheal has said some things here that I have found to be ridiculous.Just as I have said things here that others find the same. He does not really need me sticking up for him. Having said that, the fact that BSB was married and is now with Micheal does not mean he pursued her. I do not know the facts of how they became a couple. I don't care.  I stand by my statement. If someone is truly happy you can't poach. I agree with him totally here.

Jeff


go read her prior posts about that marriage and tell me whether you believe that is a "poachable" situation at all.  Come on Rrafe, people leave because they are unhappy, not because they are approached and Michael is right, when someone seeks to isolate their partner from everyone else, it should be a red flag for that person.



Leatherist -> RE: Respect for the property of Others. (2/21/2008 12:17:23 PM)

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ORIGINAL: laurell3

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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

Micheal has said some things here that I have found to be ridiculous.Just as I have said things here that others find the same. He does not really need me sticking up for him. Having said that, the fact that BSB was married and is now with Micheal does not mean he pursued her. I do not know the facts of how they became a couple. I don't care.  I stand by my statement. If someone is truly happy you can't poach. I agree with him totally here.

Jeff


go read her prior posts about that marriage and tell me whether you believe that is a "poachable" situation at all.  Come on Rrafe, people leave because they are unhappy, not because they are approached and Michael is right, when someone seeks to isolate their partner from everyone else, it should be a red flag for that person.


I know,but why do people have to intrude BEFORE the fact of someone leaving? Maybe I am just too pragmatic. I think you should start a new relationship with a clean slate, not in the middle of a mess.



KatyLied -> RE: Respect for the property of Others. (2/21/2008 12:19:36 PM)

Sometimes life is messy.



BitaTruble -> RE: Respect for the property of Others. (2/21/2008 12:26:21 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Leatherist


I know,but why do people have to intrude BEFORE the fact of someone leaving? Maybe I am just too pragmatic. I think you should start a new relationship with a clean slate, not in the middle of a mess.


You're the same guy who wrote this, right?

Celeste



antipode -> RE: Respect for the property of Others. (2/21/2008 1:30:24 PM)

It shows disrespect for you. They can't disrespect your master if they've had no interaction with him. This stuff often gets cloudy as so many girls' "masters" are figments of their imagination.. So, block 'em, and don't worry about it. I do think that if someone wants to try to wean you off your master, they're free to do so, that's all up to you. I once hijacked a sub by making more of a commitment than her existing dom did, and I see nothing wrong with that - we sent him a Hallmark card afterwards, to express our condolences with him losing his pet. It's rough out there... [8D]



Jeffff -> RE: Respect for the property of Others. (2/21/2008 2:35:31 PM)

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ORIGINAL: laurell3
go read her prior posts about that marriage and tell me whether you believe that is a "poachable" situation at all.  Come on Rrafe, people leave because they are unhappy, not because they are approached and Michael is right, when someone seeks to isolate their partner from everyone else, it should be a red flag for that person.


Laurell? I gotta be honest. I  am not gonna go searching...:) I like them both and I hope they are happy. Not so happy that it causes  Me to experience an almost diabetic reaction, but happy...:)

Jeff



SunLord -> RE: Respect for the property of Others. (2/21/2008 3:22:52 PM)

A Master who approaches you for sexual favors without approval from your Master is not a Master on or off the net. On the net is easy, click ignore, off tell your Master and steer clear of the fraud. My take in my humble eight months experience.

SunLord



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