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Tributes? - 2/20/2008 8:52:48 AM

colouredin

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I didnt really know where to put this, its generally just a question I have out of interest not anything else. I have noticed on many Domme profiles that they ask for tributes, normally stating paypal and amzon but this seems to be virtually non exsistant on Doms profiles, I just wondered firstly what really is a tribute? Is it just a gift? And why there is this apparent gender division, i know generalisations are silly and I am sure that some Doms do require it but it does seem more prevelent on Dommes pages.

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RE: Tributes? - 2/20/2008 8:54:15 AM

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tribute = payment for services (although I'm sure some would argue otherwise)

there are more pro females than males... hence the difference...

are there any pro males?

and if you do a search, I'm sure you'll find several discussions on this...

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RE: Tributes? - 2/20/2008 9:07:11 AM

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Doms generally recieve tributes of sexual services.
Dommes can get laid and would often rather have gifts and cash for thier services.

Not all of either gender require "payment" .

How ever there is always "something" exchanged or dominant's would just be performing monkeys for a bottoms pleasure now wouldn't they?

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RE: Tributes? - 2/20/2008 9:40:41 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: colouredin
I didnt really know where to put this, its generally just a question I have out of interest not anything else. I have noticed on many Domme profiles that they ask for tributes, normally stating paypal and amzon but this seems to be virtually non exsistant on Doms profiles, I just wondered firstly what really is a tribute? Is it just a gift? And why there is this apparent gender division, i know generalisations are silly and I am sure that some Doms do require it but it does seem more prevelent on Dommes pages.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_597491/mpage_1/key_tribute/tm.htm#597500
Question on tribute

http://www.collarchat.com/m_220366/mpage_1/key_tribute/tm.htm#220651
Mater-Mistress tribute

http://www.collarchat.com/m_434838/mpage_2/key_tributes/tm.htm#435293
tributes and gender

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The gender stereotypes that we have in our world today still perpetuates the idea that the man should give direct financial support to the female. There are many female submissives who will not be with a male dominant who does not pay for them and their time together, though it is usually through food, travel and other expenses.

As well, male doms tend to prefer expressions of devotion in other ways. Instead of ordering the sub to give them money or gifts, they will order the sub to dress a certain way and expect sex afterwards. It's still having expectations of the other person- it's just one is less obviously monetarily related.

Adding:

Tribute to me is something I view as to Christians who tithe, or make animal sacrifices. It's saying "I am grateful for your presence and affect upon my life, and I sacrifice this part of my life as an expression of that."

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RE: Tributes? - 2/20/2008 9:43:08 AM

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
Tribute to me is something I view as to Christians who tithe, or make animal sacrifices. It's saying "I am grateful for your presence and affect upon my life, and I sacrifice this part of my life as an expression of that."

Ooooo - interesting... I like that analagy.

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RE: Tributes? - 2/20/2008 9:57:12 AM

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Mmmm thinking. Which at times is not a good thing. I have not seen a Dom with a profile asking for money. This is tempting me to change my profile and see how the money thing works out. I have been offered gifts but have turned them down. I feel accepting a gift obligates me to that person. Probably a stupid assumption but thats me.

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RE: Tributes? - 2/20/2008 10:02:26 AM

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Thanks for the links LA, I was wondering about the general nature of it, IE if i was in a personal relationship with someone I dont think I would want to be told to buy them gifts etc to express my feelings for them I didnt actually realise it was a Pro Domme thing and that makes a bit more sense to me now, gosh I sound a bit thick dont i.

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RE: Tributes? - 2/20/2008 10:04:27 AM

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woohoo another tribute thread! if i had $5 for every tribute thread i'd be making more $$$ than tribute dommes!

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RE: Tributes? - 2/20/2008 10:59:20 AM

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Online and at parties there are more male than females. The imbalance between male subs and dommes is so high, that they can charge for time spent learning whether or not they are compatible with someone. As far as playing with people they aren't interested in? Well, usually it's more servicing a fetish than receiving service. And have you priced latex clothing lately? If they aren't getting anything out of the interaction, they won't engage in it. The easiest way to get something in return is to set up an Amazon wishlist. This way they know they'll get paid, if they wait till afterwards, they'll get stiffed.

The only pro male tops I know of solely serve the gay community. Honestly, women can get beat and fucked for nothing. Men can't.

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RE: Tributes? - 2/20/2008 11:02:00 AM

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faery ask for the $5 every time you see this type of thread.

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RE: Tributes? - 2/20/2008 11:16:42 AM

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Both Doms I met had prezzies for me when we met...
Can I call those tributes?!!!

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RE: Tributes? - 2/20/2008 11:45:35 AM

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

faery ask for the $5 every time you see this type of thread.

it wouldnt be a tribute now if i asked for it. its supposed to be a gift.

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RE: Tributes? - 2/20/2008 11:48:40 AM

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

Both Doms I met had prezzies for me when we met...
Can I call those tributes?!!!

I gave Phin twinkees when we met up. Does that count as some sort of tribute?

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RE: Tributes? - 2/20/2008 1:15:13 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyLolly

Doms generally recieve tributes of sexual services.
Dommes can get laid and would often rather have gifts and cash for thier services.

Not all of either gender require "payment" .

How ever there is always "something" exchanged or dominant's would just be performing monkeys for a bottoms pleasure now wouldn't they?

The attitude that intimacy and cash are interchangeably equivalent.... ouch.

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RE: Tributes? - 2/20/2008 1:18:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: TallDevoted1

The attitude that intimacy and cash are interchangeably equivalent.... ouch.

They certainly can be. Not all "intimate" moments are equal - some are priceless, others I'd trade for a 50, possibly a 20.

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RE: Tributes? - 2/20/2008 1:36:00 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

Both Doms I met had prezzies for me when we met...
Can I call those tributes?!!!

I gave Phin twinkees when we met up. Does that count as some sort of tribute?

Only if they were chocolate twinkies! Or cannolies!

I got; champagne, chocolate, a movie, shoes, gel insoles (*lol*), and a very sweet card.
I must remember to put my wish list up, so people who visit my profile can pick out what they want to get for me...
*skips off to peruse the fetish websites*

~Christina

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RE: Tributes? - 2/20/2008 5:45:47 PM

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Mmmm thinking. Which at times is not a good thing. I have not seen a Dom with a profile asking for money. This is tempting me to change my profile and see how the money thing works out. I have been offered gifts but have turned them down. I feel accepting a gift obligates me to that person. Probably a stupid assumption but thats me.

Too late, smiles.

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RE: Tributes? - 2/20/2008 5:52:22 PM

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Ooooh, this might turn out to be fun.....

http://www.collarme.com/bdsm/v/572765/rzny/39038/details.htm
http://www.collarme.com/bdsm/v/570238/rzbl/71895/details.htm
http://www.collarme.com/bdsm/v/551088/rzvb/55211/details.htm
http://www.collarme.com/bdsm/v/548712/rzdf/34384/details.htm
http://www.collarme.com/bdsm/v/540603/rzvi/41678/details.htm
http://www.collarme.com/bdsm/v/465928/rztx/35617/details.htm

There actually appear to be pages more, I just got tired of going into each profile...plus, I might be scarin em by pervin them. There were many pages on first search. Enquiring minds wanted to know, lol.

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RE: Tributes? - 2/20/2008 6:17:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: Madame4a

tribute = payment for services (although I'm sure some would argue otherwise)

Damn, I thought you had to be a physical therapist to get paid for torturing someone.

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RE: Tributes? - 2/20/2008 6:39:13 PM

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No, M, lawyers can do it too!

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