HisWill
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This is the reason I keep trying to volunteer at a domestic abuse hotline. These phone lines need submissive women on them, to direct submissive womens calls to. If she calls a D.A. hotline, they will tell her all BDSM is abuse, all hitting is abuse, ect, ect, and in her heart and soul she knows that is not so, so....
What he is doing (read your profile) is abuse. I, and many, many other women, are in deeply satisfying BDSM relationships, with all manner of play and real life agreements, where we NEVER get abused.
I am my Master's slave. I am property. He could do anything he wanted to me, without ever a single complaint from me.
We play on the extreme side, to say the least. SSC is not a metaphor that interests me, I am more a 'RACK' girl. We do some things that many would consider unsafe - because it is play time and we both find them intensely satisfying. We do what we can to keep such things as safe as they can be, but we play the way we want to play.
My slavery includes my everyday life and goes far deeper than just sex or playtime. I submit to him in every area of life, in every day. what I eat, what I wear. I am his slave every minute.
I have never seen him angry. He is totally and completely in control of himself. If he ever did get angry, rather at me or at something else in life, he would walk away and spend time alone till he calmed down. Today he spent an hour loading a nonworking car onto a car dolly with a wench, one slow inch at a time. An hour driving it to where it needed to go. Another hour trying to back up to line the car up to the garage opening in the narrow rows between the rental garages where we rented a space, and a final hour using great big pieces of wood to try to coax the car off the dolly into the rental garage. he never cussed. It was freezing out, and he was dripping with sweat. Today I got a paper cut and cussed, then whined about it for 20 minutes. See why he is the Master?
No Master I know in real life would ever strike their submissive in anger, nor call her derogatory names in anything but utter love and respect. The couples I hang out with have Masters who are in absolute control of themselves, and who consider that a prerequisite for what we do and the life we live.
With my last master, I took a sociology class in college, and the book had this interesting test in it to see if you were battered. I had never seen a test quite like it, so it got my attention. Every test like that I have ever seen, on brochures from abuse orgs, ect, basically says, 'if you answered any of these questions yes, get out, get out now'. This one had a long list of behaviors, not just hitting. It asked you to rank each one between one and five - 'never happens to me' to 'always happens in my relationship'. Then it had numbers. The average score of battered women. The average score of non-battered women. ect. I decided to experiment with the test. I gave every question that had to do with hitting a 5, without thinking about it. Every other question I answered with careful thought. I scored less than half the average for nonbattered women.
Every relationship is different and you must find one that works for you. But, for me, a relationship of this type must include an immense amount of respect. I am treated SO well, I can't begin to describe it, and many other women, here, in my local group, and in every other group I've ever belonged to, are as well.
Do not tolerate poor treatment. If you find it so unacceptable that what you are asking yourself is 'do I deserve it', then you are being abused. And, no, you don't deserve it. Get out. And join a local BDSM group, where you can meet others who do what we do, and see the answer to your question in bright, living detail. You will eventually meet a dominate man who will treat you well, and still tickle your kink. I promise.
< Message edited by HisWill -- 2/23/2008 11:59:25 PM >
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