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Where, When and How? - 2/23/2008 7:18:56 AM

Drummerpunk7

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A few questions for all the masters out there:

Where did you meet your slave/submissive?

When did they decide to offer their submission to you/ beg your collar?

How did you go about getting to know them better and collaring them?

Slaves/subs may answer for their masters should they so be allowed.

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RE: Where, When and How? - 2/23/2008 7:37:41 AM

Justme696

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Drummerpunk7

A few questions for all the masters out there:

Where did you meet your slave/submissive?

When did they decide to offer their submission to you/ beg your collar?

How did you go about getting to know them better and collaring them?

Slaves/subs may answer for their masters should they so be allowed.

Met her here........we started as friends..because I wasn't looking..It grew to become more. I mentored her first....and then I told her I wanted her as my sub. The thought made her shiver...so I took that as a yes. Next month I collar her in person. We call, sms, mail..webcam
Sometimes it takes perhaps a year...to feel good about a sub....sometimes a few months. Depends how the persons connect.

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RE: Where, When and How? - 2/23/2008 7:40:49 AM

Drummerpunk7

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how do you manage a long distance dynamic? Seems like it might be more work and trust than a 24/7. Not that I mind having to work harder.

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RE: Where, When and How? - 2/23/2008 7:51:06 AM

Justme696

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ORIGINAL: Drummerpunk7

how do you manage a long distance dynamic? Seems like it might be more work and trust than a 24/7. Not that I mind having to work harder.

Well I live in a small country...3 hours..and you are in an other country. So distance is not a big deal here.
TRust with her..is as trust with friends...it is there or not....and it grows (or reduces) in time. She proved her self loyal (lol she mails me with her phone from toilets..on boring parties).
Untill now..I never ha a girl giving me that much attention...it just feels right. We are very open from the beginning. And we have to see in time...with meeting in real regular..how it goes. But even 24/7 relations go wrong..soemtimes.
I just enjoy "now" and make the best of it ...for her and Me

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RE: Where, When and How? - 2/23/2008 9:46:15 AM

DomsubcplNYVT

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Greetings, I met my sub/wife at the local munch where a good number of us kinksters met once a month. She watched me, listened to what I said to others and decided that she wanted to meet me out side of the event. She made contact via email and it went from there. Over three years we went from most weekend having a night or day together to my moving into her home to flying to Jamica for marrage by the sea.

To add a bit here, I have had the fun of meeting people in 4 contries from on line contacts, all of them kinky and enjoyed all of the travel and kinky times when there. So, just be who you are and go to the local events (with in any one day drive I concider local for us) and keep chatting here and other places.

they call me Bruce

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RE: Where, When and How? - 2/23/2008 10:10:32 AM

Padriag

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Drummerpunk7

A few questions for all the masters out there:

Where did you meet your slave/submissive?

Which one, which chapter in my life? I've met them online, I've met them in art galleries, met one in the meat section of a grocery store. I find potential submissives anywhere there are people.

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When did they decide to offer their submission to you/ beg your collar?

When they felt the desire... and that differs with each individual. One threw herself at me immediately and then got upset when I rebuffed an advance I felt happened much too soon (meaning I hadn't made up my mind about her). Others took a long time... some weeks, or months or in one case a couple of years. There is one now who has been offering herself to me for a couple of years. I haven't accepted partly because of some issues she has which concern me, but mostly because my priorities have been elsewhere.

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How did you go about getting to know them better and collaring them?

Same way you go about getting to know anyone. Talk with them about varied and sundry topics, spend some time around each other, do things together (not just kinky things... go to a movie together, take a hike together, try grocery shopping together... you'd be amazed how much you can learn about someone seeing what sort of groceries they buy), listen and observe.

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RE: Where, When and How? - 2/23/2008 10:57:52 AM

sambamanslilgirl

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Drummerpunk7

A few questions for all the masters out there:

Where did you meet your slave/submissive?

at AFF

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When did they decide to offer their submission to you/ beg your collar?

i was collared on January 16th, 2007 about 5 months into our Daddy-daughter relationship. i didn't have to beg for it. it was discussed in which He chose a metal one. about a month later i offered my gift of submission to Him. sounds backwards offering submission after getting collared however we're not into BDSM formalities.

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How did you go about getting to know them better and collaring them?

Daddy and i communicated learning about each other's interests, limits etc

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RE: Where, When and How? - 2/23/2008 10:59:53 AM

AquaticSub

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Drummerpunk7

A few questions for all the masters out there:

Where did you meet your slave/submissive?

In college. At very normal party.

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When did they decide to offer their submission to you/ beg your collar?

We're one of those crazy "owned but not collared" couples. We just talked about things for awhile, from the time we got together and roughly six months into our relationship we decided to start making the transition into a 24/7 relationship.

quote:

How did you go about getting to know them better and collaring them?

We did all that *gasp* vanilla shit! We gamed together, talked a lot (we still do), watched movies together, TV shows together, we went shopping a few times and he gave me input on the sort of clothes he'd like me to wear. We just... dated. And talked about everything we could think of.

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Slaves/subs may answer for their masters should they so be allowed.

Happily, I don't need your permission to post on your threads.

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RE: Where, When and How? - 2/23/2008 11:01:50 AM

AquaticSub

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Drummerpunk7

how do you manage a long distance dynamic? Seems like it might be more work and trust than a 24/7. Not that I mind having to work harder.

Same as you would any other - with a lot of work. However, LDR and 24/7 aren't mutually exclusive. We did it pretty well, at least I think so.

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RE: Where, When and How? - 2/23/2008 12:12:24 PM

CuriousLord

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Drummerpunk7

Where did you meet your slave/submissive?

Vanilla hang outs here at the college. Anything from a lounge to the student gathering areas.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Drummerpunk7

When did they decide to offer their submission to you/ beg your collar?

Depends on the girl. Some saw a Master and were estatic, begging for a collar right away. Others came to like me over time. Lots of variety here.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Drummerpunk7

How did you go about getting to know them better and collaring them?

I normally talk to them for a total of ten to twenty hours before collaring (over the course of several days or weeks). I'm picky, so a lot of chances are weeded out over this time.

One week, I had a group of girls who all begged for a collar. One of those things where being my slave was suddenly the cool thing to do. (Even two or three guys asked for a collar or offered submission. One of them was straight!) So I granted the girls temporary collars and played King of the Room for a while. I had them all do things I knew they'd hate 'til they were tired of it. On the up side, you wouldn't believe how many amueter lesbian pictures a guy can get from straight, vanilla girls in that sort of situation.

That will go down as one of the best memories in my life. Not that it ended well, but I doubt I'll ever lose bragging rights for it. :P

(Also, my current slave was one of the random ones I took on at that time. She's definately worth the huge social backlash against me for pulling the stunt I did.)

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RE: Where, When and How? - 2/23/2008 8:06:39 PM

TracyTaken

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quote:

Slaves/subs may answer for their masters should they so be allowed.

Do you understand that no one here (including slaves and submissives) needs your permission to post a reply?

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RE: Where, When and How? - 2/23/2008 8:17:22 PM

imalittleslave

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you collar someone after speaking with them 20 hrs??? bahahahahhahahahahahahahahahahahahahah
a collar is like marriage you goober.... so you're marrying all these women and men?
a collar is given after being with someone for a very long time
you can have a velcro collar ~ be my guest

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RE: Where, When and How? - 2/23/2008 8:24:04 PM

MissHarlet

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CuriousLord

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I normally talk to them for a total of ten to twenty hours before collaring (over the course of several days or weeks). I'm picky, so a lot of chances are weeded out over this time.

One week, I had a group of girls who all begged for a collar. One of those things where being my slave was suddenly the cool thing to do. (Even two or three guys asked for a collar or offered submission. One of them was straight!) So I granted the girls temporary collars and played King of the Room for a while. I had them all do things I knew they'd hate 'til they were tired of it. On the up side, you wouldn't believe how many amueter lesbian pictures a guy can get from straight, vanilla girls in that sort of situation.

That will go down as one of the best memories in my life. Not that it ended well, but I doubt I'll ever lose bragging rights for it. :P

(Also, my current slave was one of the random ones I took on at that time. She's definately worth the huge social backlash against me for pulling the stunt I did.)

This is from the expert on all things BDSM??

< Message edited by MissHarlet -- 2/23/2008 8:25:23 PM >

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RE: Where, When and How? - 2/23/2008 8:42:40 PM

Drummerpunk7

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ORIGINAL: TracyTaken

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Slaves/subs may answer for their masters should they so be allowed.

Do you understand that no one here (including slaves and submissives) needs your permission to post a reply?

I did not mean that they needed my permission. Perhaps I worded it incorrectly. I meant slaves/subs should/can speak for their masters if they are allowed by him/her to do so.

I apologize for the confusion.

I'm just trying to get as much input as possible.

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RE: Where, When and How? - 2/23/2008 9:46:14 PM

playmate4Master

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i've known my Master for over 25 years. We met in college and had a vanilla relationship, then reconnected seven years ago when i googled His name and we started emailing. In our conversations, we discussed how our lives had transpired in the time apart, and eventually the discussion returned to sexual preferences. He is, and has always been, a very obviously Dominant person and sense that i was a submissive person who had not yet accepted that part of myself. An entire year of conversations took place until we finally met in person. It was a transformative experience when we finally got together and i felt as though i was finally free to be myself. We have developed a level of trust that i have never experienced with anyone before. i never begged for a collar or offered my submission as a gift. From the first minute of our visit six years ago, it was obvious to me that He already owned it. i made a promise to Him then that i would do whatever He commanded of me - with full trust in how well He knows me and protects me. i am His most valuable property and He is very dedicated to treating me as such.

We are not 24/7. Perhaps if we had reconnected sooner things would have been different. But now i have family obligations and He is very involved in different business ventures that require a lot of travel. We speak almost daily, usually more than once a day. He has become my best friend, a mentor, and most importantly, a Master who is committed to this journey that we are on together. i love and treasure the time we do spend together. It does require more time and attention but for us it is worth it. i cannot imagine having a different Master, even if it meant a 24/7 relationship.

i have a physical collar made of leather and pearls. Sire allowed me to get it when i mentioned to Him that i would like to have a collar to wear in public in His absence to be a physical reminder of our relationship. As many have mentioned, it is the intangible bond that matters the most.

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RE: Where, When and How? - 2/23/2008 9:59:23 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Drummerpunk7
Where did you meet your slave/submissive?

Online.

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When did they decide to offer their submission to you/ beg your collar?

When it was right.

quote:

How did you go about getting to know them better and collaring them?

Same way anyone does- time and shared experiences.

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Slaves/subs may answer for their masters should they so be allowed.

OK don't say that- it sounds dorky and like you're presuming to tell others their own rules and allowances on a free public forum.

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RE: Where, When and How? - 2/23/2008 10:19:23 PM

conquer4love

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Where did you meet your slave/submissive?
   Highschool, we both had crushes on each other back then, now that we have grown up and actually know what we need in life..

When did they decide to offer their submission to you/ beg your collar?
   Over the phone about a year and a half ago.

How did you go about getting to know them better and collaring them?
   Uhm, talking for MANY hours over the phone, and now in person we still talk for hours on end.

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RE: Where, When and How? - 2/23/2008 10:32:20 PM

Drummerpunk7

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for some reason it's not letting me edit my original post to delete that whole comment. It sounded better in my head than on paper.

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RE: Where, When and How? - 2/23/2008 10:33:04 PM

girlygurl

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Drummerpunk7

A few questions for all the masters out there:

Where did you meet your slave/submissive?

When did they decide to offer their submission to you/ beg your collar?

How did you go about getting to know them better and collaring them?

Slaves/subs may answer for their masters should they so be allowed.

Sir and I met through Alt. How did He get to know me better? Spending time together, communication, and lots and lots of play!

girly

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RE: Where, When and How? - 2/23/2008 10:51:13 PM

TakeThatChance

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I think he means that the submissives could answer how they met their Master/Mistress and not just the Master/Mistress answering how they met their submissive.

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