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and yet someone whom I can make happy by being all that she needs.

and above you switch back to the submissive

I want someone who needs for me to provide everything for them, from clothing to food.

Above you are a submissive....

I want someone who's only desire is to see me happy,

Above you have a slave

and yet someone whom I can make happy by being all that she needs.
who has just topped you......

  I disagree that these things would make him submissive. I see it as realistic. He wants to be important to her and cares about her emotional well being. I can understand the argument for the first and last comments, but I don’t for the middle one.   If he is the only person in the relationship with the ability to provide for her, how does that give her the control? It gives him the control. I think sometimes people forget that even in D/s or M/s both the Dom and the sub may provide for each other.
In some dynamics, it works to have the s-type providing for their d-type so that he/she will be more comfortable or life will be easier… what have you. In other dynamics, it works to have the d-type providing for their s-type so that he/she is made more dependent on the other. And in some dynamics, such as mine, I provide for my Master whatever it is he requests at the time that he requests it and meanwhile, he is the one that provides me with clothing, food… anything I could want (in that he decides if I may have it, if he so chooses, it would be taken away and thus I would be without. I therefore depend on him for these things at the same time that I provide him with the services he requests of me).
sorry for chopping apart your post by the way, I couldn't figure out a better way to put it together.

~puppy