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SailingBum -> RE: Why does it work? (2/25/2008 3:56:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Dnomyar sob, sob I need another hankie. I used the box of tissue. Hey! Someone had to cry on this post. Im not in a relationship now and this post is a tear jerker. Man up dude BadOne

gypsygrl -> RE: Why does it work? (2/26/2008 6:24:58 PM)
I'm answering this with respect to mine and Master's relationship. We're a poly household. quote: why do you think you have this good relationship? Why questions are hard to answer. The stars were in perfect allignment, and we were willing to seize the opportunity that presented itself. quote: What lead you to this good relationship in the first place? Master says theres a reason we were brought together. I tend to be a fatalist about these things. quote: What keeps the relationship good for you AND your partner(s). We click together, understand each other and allow each other room to grow. We also work at making it work and are committed for the long term. We talk alot, but, more importantly, we don't just talk. We tend to be pretty action oriented and make changes when changes need to be made. For me, one of the most important things is that Master has allowed me to initiate some rituals such as him tucking me in every night (we don't sleep together) that help me maintain connection and enhance my sense of agency so I don't feel helpless. I know that, even as a slave, I'm an active participant in shaping our relationship in a way that makes it sustainable. ed to add: sorry about the font. something funky happened.

DesFIP -> RE: Why does it work? (2/26/2008 6:27:31 PM)
We are committed to the relationship, not to winning individual disagreements. We have the same moral values. We talk things out without yelling. We like to give each other what is needed. We respect and admire each other in both small and large ways and make a point of telling this frequently.

joy2u -> RE: Why does it work? (2/26/2008 7:49:45 PM)
oops, i was just reminded of one of the most important ingredients to the success of my relationship with Master David. It's Laugh, a lot. Having a similar sense of humor is a huge plus and it's wonderful being able to laugh spontaneously with each other. He loves to laugh at me, especially when i am screaming in pain that He's inflicting on me and then, i can't help but laugh, too, even while i am still screaming. Laughter is a huge stress reliever. So, i guess that makes it 6 L's, including: Laughing with each other. joy Owned servant of Master David quote: ORIGINAL: joy2u The 5 L's: Listening to each other. Learning from each other. Looking out for each other. Leaning on each other. Loving each other. Doing all of these, on a continuous basis, after having started from a point of mutual understanding of what each other was needing, wanting, and expecting from the other and allowing each other room to breath and grow. joy Owned servant of Master David quote: ORIGINAL: KnightofMists why do you think you have this good relationship? What lead you to this good relationship in the first place? What keeps the relationship good for you AND your partner(s).

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