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hopelesslyInvo -> RE: "Training" (2/25/2008 1:09:50 PM)
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: : wanting to be trained sounds, fairly retarded to me. it's like you could use a cracker jack box secret message decoder ring to translate "self servicing, like the kinks, oh baby make me feel used". i wonder what anyone could possibly train me in, i'd feel like in saying "i like to be trained" was saying i'm inadequate, unwilling, or not up to the task in the first place to go and advertise that. by saying "want to be trained", the trainees pleasure from either the punishment from not figuring out how to "roll over" or enjoyment of being told to do things, couldn't sound much more obvious.
i am all to happy to offer allow myself to be molded into something found more suitable regardless of training. if i wanted to inform anyone about me being trained i would say "i am willing and receptive of training". someone can copy and paste that if you want, 1 line won't convince anyone you're not self serving or sincere, and the worst thing you can possibly do is be insincere in describing yourself.
: : the longer the better... sounds wanting again when it's used alone, but it needs to be in context to get the message. it could also be looked at like "it takes me more time to get anything done right", it would be better perhaps to say "length of sessions is a non issue". but more likely and quite simply, the longer i have to be able to do something, the more likely the results will be satisfactory; obvious without saying, but it simply again comes down to if it's self service or not.
i would not put that phrase in my profile, because it's fairly obvious to the degree of being a 'no shit' statement. take the chance to lose the interest of your reader by giving them filler text like this at your own risk.
: : discretion is respectable, while perhaps not commendable. i myself see no reason to attend silly gatherings of people i don't know and probably won't care to meet. if i did, i'd run off to every art show and computer seminar. it's a great way to meet people with similar interests, but don't expect i will care to meet them. how many people would you not care to meet on here? i don't need cultured, or my horizons broadened. i think it is commendable when people are able to worry less on what other people think, even people within the lifestyle or community. i might be willing to go, i simply would not do so of my own accord, and expect nothing worth my own while to come of it. but despite not going of my own accord, if i was asked to accompany someone, i may find myself willing depending who asks. if the person asking had a "collar" on me, the answer would unquestionably be yes.
i wouldn't go about informing the world of my sexual life any sooner than i would disclose people of my other private relations... but not being so ashamed as to remain faceless is another matter. still, i can't see how desiring discretion could make them anything more than possibly "not up your alley". there's a difference between not wanted to be seen in a newspaper wearing a leather collar and a chain leash, and not wanting to be seen with someone at a coffee shop. a person who would not introduce you to people they know or go somewhere familiar is only flagging themselves as untrustworthy or finding you to be untrustworthy, shyness has little to do with it at this point. but while i respect discretion, and commend people for not being ashamed of themselves or partners... aside from someone very close asking me to go, you would have to absolutely drag me to attend one of those... things.
: : it's hard to answer this part without stepping on some toes, but i don't really care if i step on a few, but i hate to rattle cages. basically... who would want to meet a pro-domme? the self servers don't want to pay money. and the people looking for something meaningful and have any semblence of intelligence won't expect they will find it in a person only interested in cash. and the one's who demand tributes rather than sell themselves are even worse, it's better to be a "profession" than a game if you ask me. who goes looking for a relationship in a bordello or from an escort service? fools. people who idolize the body and the pleasures, but little of the person or anything else. these "pro's" only make any surmountable amount of money because there are people desperate enough to pay, and the buyers are only interested in their own desires and ends. i would tell you to look for people who dislike "pro's" long before i would tell you to look for people who want them. not looking for a pro tells you nothing conclusive, looking for a pro tells you pretty much everything.
on a flip side, anyone who would go looking for a pro hoping to lead to something more is certainly filled with more determination than common sense, and thinking more inwards than outwards. but to anyone who's "relationship" did evolve from pro, congrats and all that. i'm sure plenty of, if not most of them are lifestylers. if i fancied labels i'd call myself a lifestyler too, but i don't seek to sell myself as a "pro sub" because of it, preferably i would like to value my experiences, rather than offer experiences for material value.
consider toes stepped on i suppose, but if someone's "happy to be pro" they wouldn't care of my opinion anyway, i'm just another lost "potential customer" afterall. anyone should feel free to "open my eyes" if they think i'm squinting though. i try not to seem insulting even if my words seems slanderous, but i couldn't explain my reasoning without it though.
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