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What do you require of your sub/slave? - 2/26/2008 5:39:15 PM   
Drummerpunk7


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Status: offline 		A question to masters out there, if it isn't too personal:

What do you require of your submissive/slave? What are your rules? What are your disciplines? To what degree is your power exchange?
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RE: What do you require of your sub/slave? - 2/26/2008 6:02:57 PM   
RedMagic1


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Status: offline 		I have 100% sexual control.  I control when she comes, when she touches herself, what we do together.  I have made clear that she has 100% responsibility for her vanilla stability -- her own financial decisions, for example.  She can ask me for advice about anything, but I am a busy person, and I need someone who is perfectly able to take care of herself, but wants something more.

I control what we do while we are together, where we go, what food we eat, etc.  However -- she's a chef, loves to cook, and knows a hell of a lot more about food and nutrition than I do.  So I follow her food suggestions 99% of the time.  She also loves nature and loves playing the guitar -- and I love nature and love listening to her play -- so we often end up doing her favorite things, "despite" the fact that I'm the Dom.

I don't "discipline" or "punish" in a for-real way.  She really likes to please me (and I'm a pleasure-slave to her too) so if she exhibits behavior that's a problem, I'd better figure out what's really going on, and deal with the actual problem, not just spank away the symptom.

We have exchanged as much power as she has offered and I have accepted.

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RE: What do you require of your sub/slave? - 2/26/2008 6:27:30 PM   
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RESPECT to myself and those in the lifestyle.

TPE is exactly that.

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RE: What do you require of your sub/slave? - 2/26/2008 6:27:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Drummerpunk7
What do you require of your submissive/slave?

That they remain true to themselves and honest to me about it.

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 What are your rules?

It's very rare I put official rules into place.  I'm much more a laissez-faire, go with the flow, work in the dynamic and not create static suffocating rituals/rules to bind BOTH of us in.

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 What are your disciplines?

Do you mean what do we study?  What areas do they demonstrate discipline in?  Not sure what you mean here.

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To what degree is your power exchange?


67 degrees Farenheit?

It's the degree to which we are all fulfilled.

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RE: What do you require of your sub/slave? - 2/26/2008 8:15:21 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Drummerpunk7

A question to masters out there, if it isn't too personal:

What do you require of your submissive/slave? What are your rules? What are your disciplines? To what degree is your power exchange?


I require of my slave that she adhere to the precepts I have given her to guide daily living, and to respect the rules of my household.

If by discipline you mean "punishment"--when the situation warrants, I spank her with a belt.  I apply other corrections (essay writing, for example) as well.

The power exchange is pretty much absolute.  I am Master, she is slave; I rule, she is ruled.


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RE: What do you require of your sub/slave? - 2/26/2008 8:30:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		I keep it simple.  I have the authority to control every aspect of her life.  It doesn't matter if it's where we go to dinner or something sexual.  As a pratical matter I do NOT control every aspect of her life.  It's just like racing a sailboat with a crew of 10 <it's a big boat> everybody can discuss what they think we should do.  However as the capt I have the final say.

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RE: What do you require of your sub/slave? - 2/26/2008 10:07:55 PM   
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RE: What do you require of your sub/slave? - 2/26/2008 10:15:54 PM   
masterfixer


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Status: offline 		most of the time my submissive is here to please me and some of the time she challenges me by want something, be it a spanking a treat. it's never been a disipline problem like a seven year old. she is and adult and acts like one. her rules from me are not rules at all but common sense common courtisy and respect.

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RE: What do you require of your sub/slave? - 2/27/2008 2:15:06 AM   
antipode


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RE: What do you require of your sub/slave? - 2/27/2008 5:35:34 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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ORIGINAL: Drummerpunk7

What do you require of your submissive/slave?

believe it or not, Daddy doesn't require anything of me - only my loyalty, obedience, honesty, submission and to be the same person that i was before we met.  nothing dramatic.

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What are your rules?

we have no rules. it's not Daddy doesn't believe in having them but why have them when He dominates me with a loving and caring persona.  according to Him, rules are for those who need to control a weak mind.

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What are your disciplines?

no disciplines - doesn't apply to us. spankings are rewards earned ...they're not used as a punishment

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To what degree is your power exchange?

we have a mutual and equal power exchange - we're not into tpe or anything like that. He didn't want a weak woman/slave to control and dominate as His submissive. with Him it takes a strong woman to be His submissive and He found her in me.


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RE: What do you require of your sub/slave? - 2/27/2008 7:40:21 AM   
Justme696


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Status: offline 		I demand her to be honest and open to me. (wel it isn't actually something you can demand..but without it..she will not long be mine). Those are actualy also rules.
Gladly I get this from her.

and it is nice if she is submissive  ;P

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RE: What do you require of your sub/slave? - 2/27/2008 9:22:30 AM   
DMFParadox


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Status: offline 		%100 authority in almost every aspect of my sub's life, or things go pear-shaped quickly.  Like the others here, I rarely exercise that authority completely, but when it counts I insist on it. 

I like things done my way; I'm very strict, and somewhat hard to please, as my pet can attest.  As the submissive proves herself capable, I relax and give her her head; but if she doesn't, I lean harder and harder until she either breaks or succeeds in the tasks I give her.  I don't chince on rewards when she succeeds though, however long it takes.

As for specific requirements, I first demand service.  If I were not serious about this, then it would cheapen the relationship.  Little tasks--fetching coffee, kneeling when I ask her to, backrubs; and big tasks, as appropriate.  Second, I insist that she be happy and fit emotionally, physically, and financially.  If she's down, I try to lift her up; if she's up, I try to raise it higher.  When she doesn't want out of the bed, I'll drag her out and have her sincerely thankful for it before I'm done.  Third, I *don't* ask her to be true to herself--I ask her to seek out the risky and uncomfortable and push her boundaries, because that is how colors become brighter and smells sweeter.  That's how you grow.  If she doesn't trust the direction I'm taking her in, I'll listen; but if I still feel that I'm right, then she'd better follow my lead, regardless of how true it feels to her.

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RE: What do you require of your sub/slave? - 2/27/2008 9:36:12 AM   
Justme696


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so let me do it


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RE: What do you require of your sub/slave? - 2/27/2008 9:50:04 AM   
Drummerpunk7


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Status: offline 		sex kinda goes without saying. Although, on that line of thought, is there anything sexual that you require of a sub/slave beyond just giving it up?

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RE: What do you require of your sub/slave? - 2/27/2008 9:56:57 AM   
DiurnalVampire


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ORIGINAL: Drummerpunk7
What do you require of your submissive/slave?

What I require depends on the boy in question. Of Angel, I have far less requirements than I do of Fox, becasue of differences in availability and in the relationship in general.
Of Angel, I require honesty, chastity and openness whenever I ask questions.  He is autonomous enough that I dont need to know every move he makes, but I do require him to inform me when he is going to be away for periods of time or if he is having people over.
Of Fox, the honesty and chastity are the sae. For him, I expect to see him at least once a week, and tak to him every day. When he comes over, I expect him to have his chores done before I get home. He also needs to ask permission before he moves to yahoo for conversations, becasue unlike Angel he is not quite a good with judging people and far too many have non-conversational motives once they move to yahoo.


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What are your rules?

I have very few. Both boys need to tell me if they are going to be away for any length of time. They need to tell me if they are going out with friends, or having people over. They need to ask permission to ouch themselves, with neither of them do often. Fox's only other rule is that he needs permission for chats. And both f them need to run major purchases past me, since they both have bigger eyes than they do wallets sometimes.

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What are your disciplines?

None have been necessary, thankfully. ASide from a talking to, I havent had to actually discipline either boy.

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To what degree is your power exchange?

With Fox it is complete. I am in total control, and he has responsabilities I have given him back. With Angel, it is only when we are physically together, for the most part, becasue he needs more of his own autonomy becasue of his living and work situaiton. Both dynamics work out well or us.

DV


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RE: What do you require of your sub/slave? - 2/27/2008 10:01:06 AM   
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What do you require of your submissive/slave?


Only one thing, she must have and exhibit the same focused commitment to our relationship as I do.

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RE: What do you require of your sub/slave? - 2/27/2008 10:27:08 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Drummerpunk7

sex kinda goes without saying. Although, on that line of thought, is there anything sexual that you require of a sub/slave beyond just giving it up?

Drummerpunk7,
Are you trying to take the easy route? Seems to me, you can not apply what you learn here to your own dynamic, as each one is different and unique in itself. As far as "sex kinda goes without saying" that is not true in all cases. You are assuming that all Dominants require their subs to "give it up". You may require it in your own dynamic, but it is not something that "goes without saying". Nice try though.
I know you are new and you want to learn everything all at once so you can call yourself experienced. But experience comes from DOING, not from reading what others DO. To me, this is the best advice you will get here. Each person has to walk their own path. It can not be walked for you.

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RE: What do you require of your sub/slave? - 2/27/2008 10:36:36 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think that's an unfair assessment-- why can't someone ask other's opinions and create his own path from there?  It's not much different then reading books for guidance.  So long as he knows that one size does not fit everyone and makes ajustments for himself and his partner, I don't think it's cheating at all.

I saw a trend for a way of handling something once around here and since we'd never talked about it, I asked m'Lord his thoughts.  We talked about it and he decided what was best for us, but it was nice to use the actions of others as a sounding board as it was something I might not have thought of myself and could have lead to confusion or conflict at a later date.

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RE: What do you require of your sub/slave? - 2/27/2008 10:43:09 AM   
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I think that's an unfair assessment-- why can't someone ask other's opinions and create his own path from there?  It's not much different then reading books for guidance.  So long as he knows that one size does not fit everyone and makes ajustments for himself and his partner, I don't think it's cheating at all.

We are saying the same thing OmegaG. I am saying to him that one person's way of doing things, does not necessarily mean that it is THE way to do it. I am saying to the OP to walk his own path. I never said he was cheating in any way, I don't know where you got that from. Cheating is rather harsh, don't you think? He can take his own path from here. I never said he couldn't.

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RE: What do you require of your sub/slave? - 2/27/2008 10:46:08 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Drummerpunk7

sex kinda goes without saying. Although, on that line of thought, is there anything sexual that you require of a sub/slave beyond just giving it up?


no...just like to throw gasoline on the fire
seriously..BDSM involves often..sex..but it gets hardly mentioned...so I was curious about reactions




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