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first Spanking - 2/26/2008 5:59:45 PM   
twinkie219


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Status: offline 		Dear Doms,

I am wondering...   What do you think is the best way to introduce a novice to spanking?  For example, do you think it's best to start off with an "erotic" type spanking or more of a "punishment" kind of spanking? 
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RE: first Spanking - 2/26/2008 6:06:12 PM   
RedMagic1


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Status: offline 		"I missed your birthday!  I'd better take care of you now!"  Fully clothed.  Laughing about it.  Count together.  Talk about how it felt afterward.

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RE: first Spanking - 2/26/2008 6:08:22 PM   
subsnow


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Status: offline 		Just do it in whatever way feels most comfortable.

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RE: first Spanking - 2/26/2008 6:08:22 PM   
shysub0951


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Status: offline 		i saw this thread and just had to comment on it from my POV when i had my first spanking with my Dom even though i'm a sub. It was very lightly at first with all implements bare bottom to let me taste each. Very sensual, not a hard spanking at all.

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RE: first Spanking - 2/26/2008 6:24:41 PM   
celticlord2112


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quote:

ORIGINAL: twinkie219

Dear Doms,

I am wondering...   What do you think is the best way to introduce a novice to spanking?  For example, do you think it's best to start off with an "erotic" type spanking or more of a "punishment" kind of spanking? 



If I'm "introducing" her to spanking, it's going to be erotic.


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RE: first Spanking - 2/26/2008 7:16:47 PM   
antipode


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Status: offline 		There's no "best", there are no rules to this, it depends on the people involved, etc, etc.

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RE: first Spanking - 2/26/2008 8:15:19 PM   
SailingBum


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Status: offline 		My first choice is over the knee....watching her squirm....

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RE: first Spanking - 2/26/2008 8:18:24 PM   
kittengirl8


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Status: offline 		It always depends on the people involved. My first spanking was relaxed, hand on skin only, and fun. It varied from soft to hard, and went along various points of my body. In the end, I had some markings along my thighs a few days afterwards. However, the encounter I had certainly wouldn't work for everything.

Actually, I know a lot of girls that would probably freak at being slightly bruised. I found it delicious.

~kitten~

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RE: first Spanking - 2/26/2008 10:09:01 PM   
kinkypuppy2


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Status: offline 		Erotic. Make it something they will want more and enjoy.

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RE: first Spanking - 2/26/2008 10:15:26 PM   
everhope


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Status: offline 		my first spanking was bare handed, ass in the air on all fours. it was an erotic spiritual experience. 

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RE: first Spanking - 2/27/2008 6:01:03 AM   
SteelofUtah


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Status: offline 		Over the Knee, 10 count, Making the first 8 mild and 9 with a sting and 10 something harder and more sting and then pull her close and rub her bottom and tell her how proud you are of her and explain that the sting goes away quickly and what is left is warmth and that warmth is good. Then kiss her and explain that you will do this again tomorrow and the next day and the next and then discuss it over the weekend.

Each time turn up the eroticisim and each time make it as enjoyable for you as is possible show her that this activity is enjoyable to you. If this is the case the natural idea is to find the act enjoyable because you enjoy it.

The mind is where it all starts, before you spank her bottom teach her how you want her to precieve the act. If you want it sexual them make the act sexual, if you want it strictly for the act them make the concept mechanical. Guide her toward it.

As Always

Steel

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RE: first Spanking - 2/27/2008 8:53:29 AM   
Totalmaster4you


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Status: offline 		twinkie,

It depends on what your goal is for the spanking. If you want her to ask for more and include in your play, then soft to medium.Spread it around looking for the spots that connect the most and make sure you talk her through it. If you are looking to alter a behavior and are spanking for punishment make them moderately hard but limit the numberof spanks (I'd recomend less than 10).

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RE: first Spanking - 2/27/2008 6:06:02 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Depends if you want there to be a second. Think about it, nice girl with no bdsm experience and your first thing is to grab her out of the blue, announce she burned the toast and needs to be punished. Then you spank her while telling her what a poor cook she is. You really think she'll enjoy this and permit a second round? I don't think you would even get another date!

Ask her, talk to her about it, and if she consents, light and fun with lots of rubbing and playing. So that it ends with her saying "Wow, that was awesome. Can we do it again sometime?"

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RE: first Spanking - 2/28/2008 4:48:47 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		Bare hand on bare ass is the only way to go for the first time. To me spanking is a bare hand contact sport.  

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RE: first Spanking - 2/28/2008 12:10:32 PM   
Cradyn


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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Bare hand on bare ass is the only way to go for the first time. To me spanking is a bare hand contact sport.  


*fabricates Silver and gold paddles to give out the next time he's at a party*

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RE: first Spanking - 2/28/2008 12:27:58 PM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		My First spanking from Master was bare hand and bate but.  It was harder than i though it would be not enough to not let me sit down but enough to leqve a little sting.

The first spanking should be like that you give a girl a novice a punishment spanking first time out unless she is a Maso  she will not stick arond.

Matt's littleone

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RE: first Spanking - 2/28/2008 3:16:33 PM   
MichiganHeadmast


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Status: offline 		If it's an erotic spanking, I start very lightly and build up to a rosy glow, and a sting she will feel for several minutes, then let her process it.  Sometimes they want more right away, and sometimes they want more the next time.

If it is a disciplinary spanking, and they are new to it, I'll gauge her reaction as I go, stopping short of any intensity that will scare her from coming back again, but aiming to have her feel it for a day or so.

If I am introducting the cane in erotic play, I start with very light taps and an occasional hard tap.  Whereas many subs dread the cane, I find if it is introduced correctly they will often end up craving it.  With punishment, I limit the first time to six, not intended to leave welts lasting more than a very short time.

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RE: first Spanking - 3/4/2008 10:51:00 PM   
erebus


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Status: offline 		Bare hand on bare ass, and make it erotic and with affection, if that makes any sense.  Unless you have an indication otherwise.

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