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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 2/29/2008 6:59:45 AM

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quite...mayhaps, too much!!!

prove it... come to Tampa ;)

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 2/29/2008 7:01:58 AM

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i've been to Tampa...where were YOU young lady???

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 2/29/2008 7:04:24 AM

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I just googled Jeffff. I went 10 pages deep they are all someone else. This means anyone trying to google me is shit outta luck. I can start lying like a motherfucker!!

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 2/29/2008 7:05:41 AM

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is it safe to google You without a condom?

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 2/29/2008 7:08:42 AM

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When I was talking to both my former and my current Dom, I googled them, and it only made me want to submit to them more.
Quite accomplished they are.
And I found nothing bad, even though I really gave Google a workout.

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p.s. There is nothing 'non-submissive about looking out for yourself. (and) the ones who get upset are angry because they have something to hide, imo

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 2/29/2008 7:14:03 AM

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if you want to verify if the gossip/rumor is true or not, grow some balls and ask the person yourself.

I believe you miss the point, but I'm not surprised.

should you be? i believe rumor has it you never are

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p.s. There is nothing 'non-submissive about looking out for yourself. (and) the ones who get upset are angry because they have something to hide, imo

i personally have nothing to hide however if you want to know something that pertains or heard a rumor about me, common curtesy would suggest that come ask me yourself. i would do same if i wanted to something in particular about you. i'm not going to google you to find the answer which may or not be there.

if you google my married name i come up as a porn star to a daughter of a porn magazine publisher to party of a lawsuit on appellate court documents now over.

is it true? only the last part is true ...the rest is not me. that i absolutely know for sure.

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 2/29/2008 7:25:38 AM

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I have a question for my submissive sisters. How many of you have googled a Dominant? Am i psycho for doing it? Am i just playing it safe? Why on earth would a Dominant get SOOOO mad, that He would drop all communications. I know i am rambling, but i am extremely frustrated.
I had gone out with this Dominant numerous times. We had played, been intimate, He had stayed at my house NUMEROUS times. I was home bored and I did a search on His full name. Something came up that was not right.. "Dangerously Passive Agressive" (whatever that means) It had been posted by a Girl on some girlsavers/womansavers kind of site. I actually went into protective mode and confessed that I had done this search and sent him the link. I wanted to give Him the opportunity to clear His name. He went off on me and asked me "What else i snooped about him?" I had stopped at that point and told him what was online about Him.
The sub in me is frustated with having someone that i "submitted" to being sooo angry with me. The self-sufficient, single mother in me is thinking... You are most likely better off... Sure, i most likely am better off, but my question to the all of You is... is my behavior truly ALL that bad??? is his??? Any advise would be greatly appreciated!!!

thanks for a minute of your time...
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Sounds to me like he proved the other sub's observations correct.

Google is a fact of life in the Internet age, and our names are out there far more than we realize. We cannot put that genie back in the bottle--and expecting others not to be idly curious suggests an appalling lack of understanding of human nature.

You called his attention to someone trashing his name--for all anyone could know, the other sub was Little Miss Psycho Bitch, and this is part of a simmering disagreement between them. That would be a reasonable (and plausible) explanation.

If he didn't give that, but instead got defensive and angry and accusatory....."Dangerously Passively Aggressive" does seem an apt description.

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 2/29/2008 7:28:11 AM

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Jefff I did also and the same thing happened to me. Im going to go off here for a few weeks and take the time to write to all of those pretend Dnomyars.

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 2/29/2008 7:37:40 AM

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have a nice weekend

Thanks, Christy... I'm having a great time in Vegas.

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 2/29/2008 7:41:26 AM

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OK, so from a person that is completely "googleable"...which i am pretty sure is a word this board just made up...here is my 2 cents...

First...there is ALWAYS a point to googling a person...even if you find nothing...if there were something very bad to find then you would find it...finding nothing is a good first sign...if you are looking for that type (low profile) of person...personally i like it when i find out all kinds of things because the person is either an activist or a professional that has had a great deal of success...i prefer the activist myself, but the successful subby is always a nice thing to have around...when you are as successful as we are there are a lot of mooches hanging around all that time...just shook one off last Sept that clung for 2 years and even managed to get herself moved in...for a few months.

Second...it is helpful to google the correct info...for instance...if you were to google Danielle DV8 you will find stuff...but if you were to google my professional name (as opposed to my scene name) you would find a lot more...i am still debating if i want to give it to you or not, or if i want to sit back and see who already knows or who is clever enough to take 10 seconds to find out. Then again, clever and motivated are not the same thing, LOL.

Third, google is only a start. You had better have some other ways of checking a person out that have nothing to do with what others have said about him/her.

i do a clinic on intuition that is fantastic for people that have a history of poor choices...partners, scenes, finances, whatever...it is also great for anyone with insecurities (that is all of us), people new to the scene, and really, even those that are already highly intuitive because it can help them to teach, or explain to others, just how they do it.

That clinic is not much help in this venue though...so what i would say for now...if you are one of those people with absolutely abysmal taste in partners...and you know who you are!!!...you really need to find a friend that has WAY BETTER radar than you do...and next time you have a prospective partner in mind...let them approve or disapprove the person first...and then...this is the very hard part...LISTEN TO THEM.

Remember this...we all have intuition...is is just a matter of whether we know how to feel it or not, and whether we know how to heed it or not. Probably, on some level, you knew that person was not a good choice for you...but you did not listen. Here is what i have to say to you:

BY THE TIME YOU HAVE PROOF THAT YOUR INTUITION WAS RIGHT IT IS TOO LATE!!!!!!!

So the next time you have that feeling...that off feeling, that just not right feeling...but the person seems so nice...and people seem to like her/him...go ahead and listen to it...you did not miss out on a thing but heartache.

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 2/29/2008 7:50:12 AM

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OK, so from a person that is completely "googleable"...which i am pretty sure is a word this board just made up...here is my 2 cents...

Could it be??? i made up a word??? Doubtful...bit it woulda been sweet, if i had....
~etymology slut

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 2/29/2008 7:51:25 AM

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I do both. I ask the person in question, and I run a check on them. Google is a tool, why not use it? I trust my instincts, but see nothing wrong with verifying certain information, like whether or not they are married. And doubly so if I had kids. I would rather find out sooner then later if my new partner was a pedophile. of course it isn't the perfect way to find out about somebody, after all not all pedophiles have been caught.

I've googled my full name and birthdate, and didn't come up anything. Darn. **snickers**

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 2/29/2008 7:52:00 AM

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This is in reply to sambamanslilgirl, (I can't get the reply feature to work correctly) If there is a rumor, then yes, of course I would ask you first. But I fail to see where 'common courtesy' applies here. Why should someone who is close to you not access the same information that any stranger off the street can access?
There are people who try to hide a lot of things. The internet has made that quite a bit more difficult.
I wanted to find out if there were any sex charges (among other things) pending against these people before I met up with them.
Not likely, but it happens.
I also could have found out if they were married, filing for bankruptcy, etc.
As it happened, I only found (tons) of professional type things. (articles about them, speaking engagements, books...)
I was lucky, in that my intuition was correct, and that these guys really were who and what they said they were.
Many aren't.
Especially on the net.

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 2/29/2008 9:02:47 AM

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i've been to Tampa...where were YOU young lady???

*sigh* probably working (but I have Saturdays off now ;) )wanna go to Chambers? or the Castle??

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 2/29/2008 9:51:57 AM

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While I've never googled someone I've been talking to I do routinely google for myself... Putting in my full legal name will return about 14 pages of relavent links dating back to the mid-90s. 3rd link is actually to my resume with my cell phone number, course to get my cell phone number you really only need to know my personal domain which would also give you my address which won't do you much good since none of the online map sites or GPS units can get you there. None of the links would give you much to know about me as a dominant other than I've been a geek for the last decade.

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 2/29/2008 10:01:37 AM

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I have googled every dominant that I have seriously considered... I would expect that the dominants that I got to a name basis with googled me too. I see nothing wrong in this.

I would wonder why people would get uptight about this.

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 2/29/2008 10:46:50 AM

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what can Google tell me that i couldn't get by asking the dominant in question myself?

sex offender charges
married/unmarried
criminal history
litigation history
things he/she has posted to the internet
are they currently on another dating site?
newspaper and magazine articles about them and/or by them
books they may have written

It's really surprising what may/may not turn up.

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 2/29/2008 11:01:24 AM

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In the past, googling my maiden name showed that I am a dentist, and also a cult deprogrammer out of Colorado, and a singer. Where the hell is all my income from these activities???

I find the cult deprogrammer quite amusing actually.

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 2/29/2008 11:12:44 AM

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You're better off finding this out now. And if he's so dumb that he's never googled himself and seen what's out there, do you really need someone that naive (or stupid)?

I googled The Man. Came up with some weird scientific paper that required $30 to see the whole thing of. He offered to send me a copy of it and went into long detailed explanations that I understood none of. It also came up with other things, perfectly innocuous and he was willing to go into explanations of all of it.

Quite honestly, his response would convince me that she was right to call him passive aggressive.

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 2/29/2008 11:20:10 AM

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he provided his company website, which included a picture of Him, during the first few internet contacts that we made with each other. He encouraged this slave to research Him on the web. He also insisted that this slave have a "safe call" in place for our first real-time meeting, which happened 5 years ago to the day, tomorrow.

He could have googled this slave's name and come up with a gazillion hits---and none of them her. it is a very common name, shared by a grammar school teacher in this slave's hometown, a Tony-award winning actress, the founder of a foundation for the performing arts, etc., etc.

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