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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 2/29/2008 11:34:02 AM   
BBWnNC72


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From: NC since Jan of 2007, but born and raised in Cali
Status: offline 		i don't think it is bad to google people, especially those you may have intimate contact with. i even go so far as to check the state and national child molester sites since i have children.  but i also realize that not everything will be on the searches that we do.

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 2/29/2008 11:37:02 AM   
lusciouslips19


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Status: offline 		Its a great idea. I do it all the time.

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 2/29/2008 4:42:38 PM   
lronitulstahp


Posts: 5392
Joined: 10/17/2007
Status: offline 		Chambers, not bluidy likely...but have been wanting to check out the castle...will probably not be free anytime 'till April...i'm a very busy slut, and all. 

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 2/29/2008 5:09:23 PM   
GreedyTop


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From: Savannah, GA
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quote:

ORIGINAL: lronitulstahp

Chambers, not bluidy likely...but have been wanting to check out the castle...will probably not be free anytime 'till April...i'm a very busy slut, and all. 


Well, let me know :) (I've never been to chambers..should I not bother?)


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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 2/29/2008 5:25:14 PM   
Evility


Posts: 915
Joined: 12/19/2007
Status: offline 		I don't think you did anything wrong in looking his name up in Google. The fact that he became so defensive about it is not encouraging. It suggests that what you read might be true or at the very least suggests that he is unable to discuss difficult or uncomfortable things as an adult. He might be totally innocent but he did not handle it as well as he could or should have.

If you had presented that to me I would have calmly discussed it and explained my own side of the situation. If you at any time or in any way, shape or form used the words clear your name I would still have explained things to you just before I bid you adieu. That sort of 'guilty until proven innocent' posture is nonsense and I won't put up with it.



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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 2/29/2008 5:30:14 PM   
SL4V3M4YB3


Posts: 3506
Joined: 12/20/2007
From: S.E. London U.K.
Status: offline 		Dangerously passive aggressive?

Show me someone other than a smoker that can be dangerous in a passive way.

Damn Ghandi grrrrr.



< Message edited by SL4V3M4YB3 -- 2/29/2008 5:32:26 PM >

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 2/29/2008 6:28:29 PM   
carlie310


Posts: 256
Joined: 9/23/2007
Status: offline 		Not to overshare, but my STBX would qualify.  While not physically abusive, he's done a pretty good job of flogging my spirit.

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 3/1/2008 4:07:53 PM   
Tapestry


Posts: 226
Joined: 10/29/2005
Status: offline 		You did nothing wrong, do it sooner next time, and use every variation of the person's name and screen name, scene name, etc that you know.

And just for laughs I'll tell you that when I google my own name I find out I'm dead, lol.
SO very weird to see an obit about yourself.  Thank heaven I know I'm alive!
(Bummer to have such a common name though.)


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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 3/1/2008 4:12:58 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		Okay, so I Googled myself.  And as usual, there are some hits that are actually ME, doing stuff at various SF conventions, and a kazillion hits relating to the film "Scent of a Woman", because one of the characters has my name.  There's other folks out there with my name, too.  It seems like checking out the corrections website for the state will be a little more useful.  There, you can find my former slave and his concealed weapons charge.  What kind of a loopy judge gave him probation is what I want to know!

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 3/1/2008 6:14:11 PM   
GreedyTop


Posts: 52100
Joined: 5/2/2007
From: Savannah, GA
Status: offline 		I found out that there is a woman with my EXACT name, in IL.  I sent her a postcard, just saying "I did a name search, discovered that you and I share an exact name... just wanted to say hi"
No response.

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 3/1/2008 6:19:05 PM   
xxblushesxx


Posts: 9318
Joined: 11/3/2005
From: Kentucky
Status: offline 		She'll probably haveta Google ya first, GT.
I'm just sayin'...

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 3/1/2008 7:12:11 PM   
Maya2001


Posts: 1656
Joined: 8/22/2007
From: Woodstock ONT,CANADA
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quote:

I have a question for my submissive sisters. How many of you have googled a Dominant? Am i psycho for doing it? Am i just playing it safe? Why on earth would a Dominant get SOOOO mad, that He would drop all communications. I know i am rambling, but i am extremely frustrated.
I had gone out with this Dominant numerous times. We had played, been intimate, He had stayed at my house NUMEROUS times. I was home bored and I did a search on His full name. Something came up that was not right.. "Dangerously Passive Agressive" (whatever that means) It had been posted by a Girl on some girlsavers/womansavers kind of site. I actually went into protective mode and confessed that I had done this search and sent him the link. I wanted to give Him the opportunity to clear His name. He went off on me and asked me "What else i snooped about him?" I had stopped at that point and told him what was online about Him.
The sub in me is frustated with having someone that i "submitted" to being sooo angry with me. The self-sufficient, single mother in me is thinking... You are most likely better off... Sure, i most likely am better off, but my question to the all of You is... is my behavior truly ALL that bad??? is his??? Any advise would be greatly appreciated!!!


Lots of contradictions here in just the opening  post. 

Were you playing it safe ....or bored ??

Why would you need to play it safe with someone  you have been with numerous times??

The  time for checking someone out is prior to meeting, not after....just how long have you been seeing this particular dom???

Your stating you were bored and decided to punch in his name...does come as sounding like deciding to see what you could turn up on him ....  and in your case the curiousity ended up killing the kitty.... and after all this time with him ...you either trust him or you don't...so you expect him now to clear his name... is the same as saying you do not trust him, after he has already proven himself to you.... so yes I do see a reason for him to be angry with you

< Message edited by Maya2001 -- 3/1/2008 7:14:04 PM >

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 3/3/2008 4:50:08 AM   
edgepassion


Posts: 67
Joined: 2/20/2008
Status: offline 		I find Google to be a great tool. 

Not only do I Google anyone that I may be interested in, I also Google those in my professional life.  Information is power (and/or safety)

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 3/3/2008 6:42:59 PM   
tasha_tart


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Joined: 2/20/2004
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quote:

ORIGINAL: dadyzbrat

How many of you have googled a Dominant?



Can't remember googling a dominant, but I have googled myself.  Apparently "Tasha" is a very popular name for dogs!
 


Tasha

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 3/3/2008 8:11:18 PM   
IronOre


Posts: 24
Joined: 5/22/2007
Status: offline 		Should have googled him from the start. Not after he spent severl nights with you. I can see why he might get upset about it at this stage, however him reacting badly is a big red flag. Just for curiosity I did a search on my name, the only thing that came up was a missing person from Katrina. So I guess I am just that much more original now.

And if you think that was in bad taste, there are probably alot of other things about me you wouldn't like either.


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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 3/3/2008 8:17:59 PM   
Lordandmaster


Posts: 10943
Joined: 6/22/2004
Status: offline 		Laugh!

I just Googled myself to make sure I am really who I say I am and not some freaking psycho.

quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

I just googled myself and now I want to fuck myself all over again.

I got me some fucking prosepects!!!!!!!

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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 3/4/2008 4:46:17 AM   
TysGalilah


Posts: 589
Joined: 11/21/2007
Status: offline 		ohhh my brain went to an interesting place when I read " googled myself" ....
I blame it on your avatar!
 
gigglin.
 


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RE: Googling a prospective Dominant/Play partner - 3/4/2008 8:48:34 AM   
bliss1


Posts: 497
Joined: 3/14/2007
Status: offline 		After living with a man who lied about pretty much everything (very very passive aggressive), I wish I had googled him first (he even came with references that DID check out).
If he can get that angry, you are safer without him.  Those type of men never show their true colors until you are along ways into the relationship.  (And I have been with more than one passive aggressive male, guess it is a karma lesson for me.)


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