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lytehaze -> RE: secret life style (3/4/2008 6:40:26 PM)

"Any other women out here involved in a sub relationship outside your marriage?"

I feel like this is a loaded question. Are you asking if any other subs are involved in an illicit possibly marriage ending affair with some guy they met one day at the corner store disregarding the danger it poses to their health and welfare of their children? If not the story was unnecessary at best. And quite damaging to your assumed integrity. At least for me the story only served to annoy. A valid question doesn’t require a sordid story.




littleone35 -> RE: secret life style (3/6/2008 8:15:53 AM)

Well if this is real chris you showed REAL bad judgment.  First you went to his house when you just met him did not even know his name. Second you let him tie you up also a big no no.  Third you let him take pictures of you. Forth you let him take pictures an movies of you with others.
You need professional help.

Matt's littleone




Daddyslilpookie -> RE: secret life style (3/6/2008 9:14:37 AM)

If this is a real post first? I have to say why in your right mind go to a stranger's house a person you do not even know their name. They could of been a murderer and killed you. Plus the pictures he took are probably all over the internet and it is possible your poor husband has probably seen them. Also you aren't thinking about your kids and how this would affect them. If your husband finds out he could gain custody of your kids. Think about that one, somthing to think about.




proudsub -> RE: secret life style (3/6/2008 4:03:38 PM)

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Plus the pictures he took are probably all over the internet and it is possible your poor husband has probably seen them.


It's a real possibility, that's how Hubby learned of my affair.  My first dom posted some pictures in a photo contest on a cam site and Hubby saw them.




sambamanslilgirl -> RE: secret life style (3/6/2008 4:23:12 PM)

never ever talk to strangers ...never accept rides from strangers ...never take candy from strangers, etc - things we teach our UMs every day to keep them safe.

now you can add - never go home with a stranger that you just met at the grocery store, have him take photos/videos of you with others and continue returning back to him for more. 

*bitchslap*

wake up, OP!  now is the time to get help and out! tell your hubby before this jerk destroys your marriage and/or puts your family in danger.  




atursvcMaam -> RE: secret life style (3/6/2008 4:49:39 PM)

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ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

never ever talk to strangers ...never accept rides from strangers ...never take candy from strangers, etc - things we teach our UMs every day to keep them safe.

now you can add - never go home with a stranger that you just met at the grocery store, have him take photos/videos of you with others and continue returning back to him for more. 

*bitchslap*

wake up, OP!  now is the time to get help and out! tell your hubby before this jerk destroys your marriage and/or puts your family in danger.  


Can i take a ride from a stranger if she offers me candy first and then offers to tie me up and take pics....please...




Owner4SexSlave -> RE: secret life style (3/6/2008 5:19:13 PM)

Hell, I'm smacking my forehead over reading this.   Ok, you said you love your husband and are fearful of this messing up your marriage.   Yet, you went ahead and played with this DOM thus becoming the proverbial "cheater" without your husband knowing a thing.   OK, you have done this.   You have to be prepared to face the consequences of your own actions.   If you wanna play you have to be prepared to pay for it.

Right now, this has currently made you feel Guilty as Hell.   This is tearing into your sense of self esteem.   Also you said you feel addicted to scenes.   Have you considered you might have an "Unhealthy Sexual Addiction" problem?  People can have all kinds of addictions that stand in the way of common sense and better judgement.

Perhaps if you had expressed things like being in a loveless, or a marriage with a husband you no longer loved.  I would think somewhat different about this to a degree.

OK, you met this guy at the store and within a matter of what a couple of hours he was banging the Hell out of you?   This alone screams of being reckless behavior, even more so since you had to pick up your kids.  What if he had not released you to do so?  So many what if's you gambled with here.  

Now, you are thinking about calling this off and getting the blackmail treatment by this DOM?  Red Flag!! 

My honest guy opinion on this matter, is that you have some issues you need help with.   This DOM appears to be supporting your Self Destructive Sexual Addiction problem.    You self esteem is probally starting to go to Hell because you a not only a cheater you are being liar as well.   The Guilt is probally growing instead of you and sooner or later everything is gonna blow up.  

Basically, get help now before you hit Rock bottom babe.  This is my advice!  Everybody else responding on this thread sees the Red flags as well. 

My advice, is to get professional help or therapy.   Let them help you through the steps in making changes.  i.e. cutting things off with this DOM, coming clean with your husband and etc... Whatever it takes to bring you back to reality.  

This whole affair just may have cost you your marriage one way or another.  Ask yourself which would be a better way for the news to be broken to your husband, by you or this DOM?  How the hell do you think you are gonna manage to sweep this under the rug for much longer?   Perhaps you can call it off with this DOM without any incident.  He might be bluffing about blackmailing you.   If he does go through with it, you need to be prepared to deal with the aftermath. 

Somebody already mentioned self-Discipline on the thread.    Discipline actually is one of the Letters in BDSM itself.   Discipline, Discipline, Discipline, Discipline...  not everything is all about Rough Crazy Sex here.    Mind you that's a big aspect but not the whole of what BDSM offers people.  

I don't know what more to share with you.  You honestly need help is what I think.  This is my opinion on the matter.  You have a DRAMA TIME BOMB that's waiting to explode and it can/will turn your whole upside down, unless you can get a grip on it.

You actions will not only affect you.  They will effect your husband,  your kids, your extended family members, perhaps even effect the mutual friendships you and your husband have with other people.   This could get real ugly and nasty.   This does not mean it will have to be.    It all depends upon how receptive your husband might everything.

Perhaps, your husband is aware that something is going on.   He might already suspect you are cheating and just has not bothered to rock the boat.   He himself just might be trying to enjoy the days he has with you, hoping that you won't be leaving him permantly.    Life is strange at times.    I can't honestly say one way another about the best way to deal with this.  

Again, I stress getting help.   If you don't want to get help.   The alternative is to continue onward with what you are doing, let the guilt and shame tear you down.   Sooner or later the truth will come out, you can't hide this forever.  





sambamanslilgirl -> RE: secret life style (3/6/2008 5:27:01 PM)

don't come back here bitchin' and whinin' on a thread like this if she ends up blackmailin' yer arse, dearie

mother's first, final and only warning




atursvcMaam -> RE: secret life style (3/6/2008 6:01:41 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

don't come back here bitchin' and whinin' on a thread like this if she ends up blackmailin' yer arse, dearie

mother's first, final and only warning



Entirely agreed...my momma didn't raise any dumb kids...on the other hand i was adopted.




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