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We could learn a lot from crayons: Some are sharp, some pretty, some dull, or have weird names, and all are different colors, but all have to learn to live in the same box.

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ORIGINAL: krikket

This may sound a little complicated, but it's what worked for me -- for years in fact. The plan itself came out of a book called "Sidetracked home executive" or "SHE"..lol.

First, i went around our house and decided what needed to be done -- from daily, weekly, monthly, yearly -- and i wrote it all down.

Second, i bought mysef some index cards, different colored for each catagory (purple = daily, green = monthly, etc.). i also bought numbered index cards - the kind that stick up from the rest (1-31) and some monthly cards (Jan., Feb., etc.).

i wrote all the chores down on the appropriate color, put them in a pretty box and left the box where i was sure to see it. i also wrote down the time it took(5 minutes, etc.). The surprise was in timing things, i discovered it didn't take me nearly as long as i had always thought -- for example it didn't really take me all day to polish the furniture and clean the floors -- maybe 30 minutes total since it was a big house..lol.

i always kept the current day in the front of the box, and found i enjoyed seeing the cards "disappear" back into the next day or month they had to be done.

i even had some cards for the (ex)hubby since there were things that needed to be remembered, but rarely were, and that i physically couldn't do myself. When the kids came along i added them to the cards. When they were little i put pictures on them and the word itself (like a bed) so they knew what to do (and wanted to back then, the little darlings..lol) plus it helped them to read.

i never did like doing all the chores, still don't for that matter, but the trick is to make something about it "fun", or challenging, or what ever works for you.

Hope this makes sense.

jimini

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ORIGINAL: Fawne

I was brought up very old fashioned. Taught to cook and clean by granny at an early age. can do...will do....

BUT.. if I am working full time: a cleaning service def pays! Who says scrubbing the tub with a toothbrush makes one more of a slave, anyway?

Plus, a happy sub has more energy for the fun stuff! JMHO

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ORIGINAL: lonewolf05

and all this comes from women? what happened to the old school where women were natural nesters? damn. and here "I" am male,.......and naturally into domestics services........"I" do everything from rain gutters to digging septic tanks to anything from ceiling to floor.......i do it ALL..painting drywall washing walls and doing floors on my hands and knees to beds and dishes and ceiling fans and...........hell i do it all and i do it alone..........for my Mistress. including laundry-----and upgrading the computer myself changing hardware........upgrading software..........car maintenance...........

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PS i am not a spoiled bitch ;) I wouldn't mind one of those nice wolfies around though. Hmmnn.. any more in your pack, dude? <wink>

< Message edited by Fawne -- 9/22/2005 5:40:51 PM >

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OK, can we just clone you? I NEED someone to help me do all these things! Trouble is, all I can find is girls who want to take Master from me, and men who want me to feed their fantasies. I've got 18 rooms and 4 bathrooms to redecorate and keep clean, and a dungeon to rebuild! Who's got TIME for fantasies???

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So. I was wondering if anyone could give me advice on how not to resent housework. how to remember NOT to ask him to it, or feel like he should. The biggest one right now is the dishes. I keep feeling that I'm doing too much, and pestering him to do them. I hate this. However, I have yet to come up with a good way to remind myself and to put my brain back where I want it.

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ORIGINAL: imtempting

I just think your dominant needs to punish you a bit more to make you want to do it. Also living with someone else would make it hard to tell you what to do without getting weird looks and perhaps other things happening...

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ORIGINAL: lonewolf05

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OK, can we just clone you? I NEED someone to help me do all these things! Trouble is, all I can find is girls who want to take Master from me, and men who want me to feed their fantasies. I've got 18 rooms and 4 bathrooms to redecorate and keep clean, and a dungeon to rebuild! Who's got TIME for fantasies???

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clone? oh my. then i wouldn't be such a cool single item..everyone would want one and then in time you'd have factory rejects from over producing too fast on the assembly line and then you'd be right back where you are now......
oh my my no........
besides.......(giggle smirk chuckle)
you have-to speak to my Mistress first...

have a good day and thanks

wolf

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ORIGINAL: FLButtSlut

PERVERSEANGELIC

First, you said there is a room mate and implied that said roomie is unaware of the whole "own/owned" situation. That of course is fine, but what freaking chores is the roomie doing? Certainly, some of those responsibilities should fall to roomie, don't ya think?

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The other thing is whether or not you both work full time. M/s, D/s is great in theory, but when both of you are working, those household chores become very time consuming for one person. You said he hates doing dishes...are there things he likes or doesn't mind? (keep in mind I am saying this regarding a both working full time scenario). If you are both working and he gets home an hour before you, why couldn't he throw dinner in the oven? You could finish up the details when you get home, you eat sooner, which leaves more time for PLAY (very important too).

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Everyone indicating that household chores should be split, it appears, are thinking of you both having full time jobs. .. So perhaps if you are both working, you could try to take on the things he truly dislikes doing. This would also be helpful for you getting "in the swing of things".

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One other comment...if you DON'T live together, I'm sorry but you shouldn't feel too terrible about not taking on all his household chores while you also have your own household chores to do. That would be like having 3 full time jobs, but only one gets you a paycheck!

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ORIGINAL: imtempting

I just think your dominant needs to punish you a bit more to make you want to do it. Also living with someone else would make it hard to tell you what to do without getting weird looks and perhaps other things happening...