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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/2/2008 8:09:47 AM   
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This fuckin' gal---- had young, talented, ambitious, handsome, and  prosperous young men attending her even until her death.  Voltaire unrequitedly pined for her all his life.

This will give you an uplifting  and an inspiration, LadyHathor. It is the science of womanhood, and the womanly use of power. RTFM!!!!!!!!! (that even is not a joke).

Admiringly (and not joking one fucking iota),
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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/2/2008 8:10:35 AM   
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Ma'am, Your picture looks great, Your age is just a number, and should be considered as part of the initial screening process, as might be weight, height, and whatever someone might choose to read in Your profile or what those who might find You really interesting would read in Your posts.
i'm a old guy and have been dismissed without consideration as such for that and a variety of other reasons.  With what i have seen of You, the quantity of offers may diminish, but the hope becomes that the quality of Your petitioners should improve.  imho.

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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/2/2008 8:13:05 AM   
dawntreader


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Status: offline 		Greetings LadyHathor,
 
Excellent thread; i perved your profile as well and agree with others that you certainly don't look like what the average 56 year old looks like
 
i have a few friends on here that for privacy purposes have no photo, incorrect age and location. However, they have made their authentic identity known right upfront. i can appreciate this~
 
i have also arrived to a lunch meeting with a Dominant from here who sent me a 20 year old picture prior to meeting and lied about his age by the same 20 years. While he did look younger in person than 62, he did not divulge his real age until our second meeting ( which by then, i was becoming suspicious due to certain mannerisms)
This was unacceptable to me and when i questioned him about lying, his response was "well you would not have gone out with me had you known"...As long as i have been on CM, i have never had an age range posted onmy profile.
 
Turns out he lied about having a wife as well...go figure~
 
Anyway, he and a few others i "know" continue to falsely advertise their ages by 20 + years. i find this quite pathetic. Especially in a realm that brags about waving the flag of "honesty and communication".
 
As to myself....at 45, i can run circles around most girls half my age. Hell, i just graduated with 3 girls 19, 20 and 21, that could not even keep up with me on a simple 1 mile walk...much less hike backcountry for 5 days, kayak, whitewater down the chatthoochee, or swim for 40 minutes. Add to that my sense of sexual adventure, my "graduating" offspring, my flexable and portable career and i have far more to offer right off the top.
 
While i enjoy all ages of men, i prefer Dominants that are not still raising children or grandchildren, stuck in the corporate rat race, or worse...stuck in a BDSM fantasy world. So, that pushes the age of the Dominant up past my own. Then one has to contend with whether they have spent their lives taking good care of themselves or warming the couch with a beer in one hand and nachos in the other. Where the concept of exercise is searching for the remote...
 
i don't think my age decreases my chances. My "youth" does...and that is ok by me - less cmail to wade thru...
 
Hang in there - you look awesome and obviously are in your "prime" for adventure...
 
peace of agelessness,
             j
 
 

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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/2/2008 8:15:11 AM   
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Status: offline 		Wow. While I've thought it of potential stunt bottoms before meeting them, I've at least been willing to try for online conversation and a coffee date before voicing any concerns about their abilities. And frankly, the only person I've turned down due to physical ability was so blind that he walked directly into a light post in broad daylight. I was just learning to top at the time, and really didn't think I could handle simultaneously training myself _and_ making sure my bottom didn't kill themselves in a dungeon that only had mood lighting on.

But unless I was in a scene where I was supposed to pick on something to piss my partner off, I wouldn't go there except as a "thanks, but no -- and here's exactly why your age is a concern" put very politely. Sheesh. It sounds like you're mainly dealing with very rude people.

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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/2/2008 8:16:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		Age it seems to me only becomes an issue if YOU see it as an issue. There seems to be an equal number of those feeling too young I havent found my age to be an issue (I am 21, so you dont have to go look, aint i nice saving you a trip) I think that this is the case because I dont feel that it is an issue. Being 21 doesnt make me less mature than someone and I know that i have a fair amount of life experiance. I once lied about my age when I was in a pub I made myself 5 years older to appeal to someone, the fact that he believed that this was my age shows that age is nothing other than a number. If someone judges you on it then they probably are not the type of person you should associate with any way. I have found that people discredit my opinions after looking at my age but that is more based on their own inability to argue my point without mentioning my age as a factor. "well you dont know anything you are only young" yeah that doesnt really wash with me. We are as old as we feel, saying that I am 25 wouldnt intantly make me smarter or more mature or anything and if someone needs that number as a security blanket then they are very shallow.


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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/2/2008 8:41:03 AM   
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i don't think my age decreases my chances. My "youth" does...and that is ok by me -
 
How eloquently stated dawn---very very nice.

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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/2/2008 9:03:13 AM   
carisa


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Status: offline 		Master is 31, i'm 51, it works, go figure :)  anyone worth being with , see's the inside as well as the outside, but, IMO, puts more time into knowing what is  on the inside.  The outside can be changed, actually quite easily, the inside, well, it can be, but not so easily and one must always wonder about the thoroughness of the change.
You do look lovely, and i bet lovely inside and out. 
will wishes,
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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/2/2008 9:31:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		People who lie about their age just madden me!   What else are they hiding?  Often, quite a bit!

My family is very youthful looking.  There are guys here in their 50's who look older than my dad, who will be 69 in a few months.  Actually, MOST of the guys in their 50's here look older than he does....  Big deal!   I still love Ron's shiny head! (and as soon as he figures out that you can have fun with a hot gal WITHOUT either party topping, WHOA baby!)

I make no effort to hide my age, my fat, my crankiness, or anything else.  I intend to keep on playing as long as I have a working brain to play with!  Yes,  I do get a tremendous amount of inappropriate email, but isn't that the internet for you?   Enjoy who you are right now, and share that with those who are interested---the rest can just move on!

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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/2/2008 10:02:35 AM   
shellzbythesea


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Status: offline 		Even though i state on my profile an age range i'm seeking (and it spans 20 years), i've been approached by those both younger and older.  Sometimes it bothers me because it makes me feel they haven't read my profile but most times i'm happy enough that someone took the time out of their day to attempt to reach out to another person.  As i stated to an older Dom that sent me a note recently: i will still take "chemistry" over a number any day of the week...so although i have a preference, age isn't a deal-breaker.  What is a deal-breaker is being lied to. 
 
i think it's a very good thing that you've decided to go back to being honest in your profile.  The best relationships are built on foundations of trust. 

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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/2/2008 10:38:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		My thanks to you Lady H as always, however, I must put you on notice that if Ron ever acquiesces that top spot, I will be forced to armwrestle you in the mud to the death to be first in line.
 
 


and yes, shell, I feel much better being what I am.  

< Message edited by LadyHathor -- 3/2/2008 10:40:55 AM >

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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/2/2008 10:49:04 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHathor

quote:

i don't think my age decreases my chances. My "youth" does...and that is ok by me -
 
How eloquently stated dawn---very very nice.


Thanks
quote:

 
ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

People who lie about their age just madden me!   What else are they hiding?  Often, quite a bit!



Exactly. On the sad side of it, i have known Dom's in denial of certain aspects of their lives and while they were not intentially lying outright, their reality was not the reality of the situation. Ofcourse that is verring away from the original post a bit...
 
Where age really comes into play is how well one takes care of themselves...however societal thinking is still age-biased. But again, i hang around people that do not follow traditional box thinking...i am amazed at the amount of folks in this realm that prefer box thinking!
 
And i have such fond memories of 2 summers ago when i had a fetish for young philosophers...i don't believe i dated anyone over 25 that summer...it was a good summer

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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/2/2008 10:50:04 AM   
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I am 59 and freely state it .. and look my age .. and if it doesnt suit someone then we wouldnt be compatible anyway.. You are beautiful and do NOT look your age... I at my age still have those in their 30s contact me daily ... and cant deal with them as they are my sons age ... and that just doesnt work for me ...

Dont let anyone make you doubt yourself .. you have sooo much to offer ..... and anyone who doesnt realize that needs to have a sign aroung their neck saying " it is my loss "

Your wonderful and beautiful and wise .....

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RE: Am I too old for consideration? - 3/2/2008 10:52:44 AM   
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Someone once lied to me about his age.  I found out after a few months that hardly anything he told me was the truth.  In my experience, if someone lies about their age they probably lie about almost everything.

Agreed.  I tell the truth about everything and offer references, all who know me both vanilla and kinky, so it'd be really hard to dig my way out of a lie or omission.

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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/2/2008 10:55:33 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyHathor

My thanks to you Lady H as always, however, I must put you on notice that if Ron ever acquiesces that top spot, I will be forced to armwrestle you in the mud to the death to be first in line.
 
 


and yes, shell, I feel much better being what I am.  


Oh, honey, if Ron ever sees common sense, there will be much, much sharing!!   And videotape....   And hey doesn't have to aquiesce anything, just rethink how he relates to US!

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RE: Am I too old for consideration? - 3/2/2008 10:58:43 AM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		LOL MisPandora,

Is that an army entrenching tool down the front of your nifty leather dress or is your big bertha strapon just happy to see me?

Maybe West  

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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/2/2008 11:27:29 AM   
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Status: offline 		Lady Hathor,
I just turned 50 in December and had similar concerns about who might want a sub my age, despite the fact I stay in shape and enjoy an active lifestyle.  Yet, I know I have a lot to offer any woman of any age but prefer one whom I can relate in terms of life experience!  Like others, I just perved your profile.  If you were only in DFW...
 
I'm glad you you decided to be honest about your age.  This would have been a deal breaker for me.  For me, a breach of honesty would be difficult to overcome; totally inhibiting the development of the kind of trust it takes to have a D/s relationship between a dominant woman and her sub.  Kudos to you for breaking the barrier many vanilla women have about disclosing their real age.  Isn't that part of what being a domme is all about; breaking the social norms and acknowledging the woman inside her that she really is?? 
 
For me, part of coming here or participating in my local community is being able to freely say to the world without shame "I'm a male that desires to be submissive to a woman".  That's being honest with myself and to those around me; the ones who are willing to accept me for who I am and love me for that part of me which makes me unique and part of the leather community.  I'd hope the same would apply to you.  Similarly, a sub who'd see you as such would be the only kind I'd think you'd want to find. 
 
There are many of us out here who seek a loving domme with whom to spend our golden years both in service and faithful companionship.  Personally, I seek one who makes the effort to take care of herself and is thus more likely to be around for a longer time to enjoy wiitwd.  I desire a domme who'll have a higher quality of life to enjoy her life spent with me before it's time for her and I to transcend to another plane.  At 56, that could easily be 30 years or more for you!  I hope the latter gives you an even clearer perspective on your decision to come clean.
 
 - pixel


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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/2/2008 11:33:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		Old women are gross....Men get better with age....I never used to focus on these "universal truths" but for some reason as I have continued to age I have done everything within my power to promote these truths that just might enable me to acquire some top flight young gash.

Whatever my age.....I am available. I will help you get your g.e.d.

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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/2/2008 11:45:24 AM   
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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/2/2008 11:53:20 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHathor

My thanks to you Lady H as always, however, I must put you on notice that if Ron ever acquiesces that top spot, I will be forced to armwrestle you in the mud to the death to be first in line.
 
 


and yes, shell, I feel much better being what I am.  


Oh, honey, if Ron ever sees common sense, there will be much, much sharing!!   And videotape....   And hey doesn't have to aquiesce anything, just rethink how he relates to US!



Girls, Girls, Girls!!!!

I am Dominate!! Hear me roar!!! 

erstwhileMaster 

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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/2/2008 12:00:06 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHathor

My thanks to you Lady H as always, however, I must put you on notice that if Ron ever acquiesces that top spot, I will be forced to armwrestle you in the mud to the death to be first in line.
 
 


and yes, shell, I feel much better being what I am.  


Oh, honey, if Ron ever sees common sense, there will be much, much sharing!!   And videotape....   And hey doesn't have to aquiesce anything, just rethink how he relates to US!



Girls, Girls, Girls!!!!

I am Dominate!! Hear me roar!!! 

erstwhileMaster 


You are a very powerful dominate!!! But as sure as the sun will set tonight...There are some sterEOtypes that should not be fucked with...As sure as a domme has on some sort of a silly biker hat(?) Men should go out with younger woman.

I din't make the fucking laws....But as God is my witness, I deserve a young nubile sub to do my bidding...FROM MY COLD DEAD HANDS!!!


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