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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/3/2008 7:55:35 PM   
domiguy


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Status: offline 		As I have said before...Nothing hotter than hammering an old broad against a wall...Hearing her moan thinking that she is really getting into it and then discovering that due to significant osteoporosis that you have shattered most of the bones in her back.

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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/3/2008 9:37:30 PM   
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get put on probation so mant times domi....Yuk, Yuk
 
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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/4/2008 8:24:37 AM   
spiritwarrior4U


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Status: offline 		This is the first time i've ever posted on collarme, although i've been around here for awhile.  Lady Hathor's comments triggered a reaction in me when i read her posting however. 

As a 56 year old male submissive, i find Women in their 40's and 50's to be most desireable.  It is the age group i am most attracted to. It's hard for me to imagine anyone of this age being interested in someone 20 years younger except for fantasy fulfillment.  There is a wealth of life experiences that someone so young could never share with me. Nor do i live in her world and subculture. 

A woman in her 40's and 50's depending upon the particular person usually has more wisdom, maturity, and sensuality, and is usually more comfortable within Her own body and with Her sexuality.  Physically i find them more attractive as well.  But it all tends to come down to Power for me.  And i find that the older a Woman becomes, the more genuine is her inner power.  She no longer needs to "act" powerful.  She just is.

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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/4/2008 10:34:58 AM   
LotusSong


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Status: offline 		Hi Lady Hathor :)

I visited this thread when you first posted it.  This is a question I've often asked myself. So I reflected on it  in self review and this is how I have evaluated this situation for MYSELF.

I've pretty much  put D/s on the back burner in my life.  I still have an interest in it in a more private venue and always will to some extent.   
 
So what made me hang up the whip, so to speak?  First and foremost, my MS (i.e., loss of balance. having to walk with canes instead of playing with them..  )  I caught a glimpse of my profile in a reflection one day (recently) and I wondered when I got so OLD!  The once firm jawline had dropped.. I have put on 20 pounds since my heyday.  If I needed further motivation to see if it was time to totally hang it up, all I'd have to do is have myself video taped "playing". 
 
If you bought your leathers 40 pounds ago.. let 'em go.  If you've looked down at your feet and don't see a submissive there after years of searching.. let it go.  If submissives don't try to catch your eye.. let it go.  Let it go before someone TELLS you to your face to "let it go".

Again, this is from my own self evaluation into this often asked question.

< Message edited by LotusSong -- 3/4/2008 10:35:34 AM >

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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/4/2008 11:26:38 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		LotusSong there are always pro subs you could use.

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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/4/2008 12:17:41 PM   
KindLadyGrey


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Status: offline 		As a token young'un, I figure I ought to hop in with my .02.

I have always preferred older partners, and while I claim on my profile that I do not discriminate based on age I am nevertheless hesitant to get involved with someone significantly *younger.* I've met some absolutely delightful men in their 50s and 60s, and had a huge crush on one my college professors who was in her 70s. Ah, that woman had an incredible smile. . .alas for roads not taken. On the other hand, one of the boys I'm seeing right now is 20, and I still have to remind myself constantly to chill out because he has yet to start acting like the immature idiot I wrongly assume he must be because of his age, so the discrimination often goes both ways.

Anyway, younger folks who rule out potential partners just because of age are only shooting themselves in the foot, especially in this lifestyle. I like to think that eventually every young'un will grow up and get tired of other young'uns who can't get their shit together and instead happily consider someone who already has their shit together. Or maybe this is just me and I don't have enough patience for the fickleness of youth. (To which I am not even remotely immune)

Personally, I often feel very special and important because the older ladies on this forum give me the time of day and offer me their respect even though I am pretty much a n00b. The advice and knowledge I find here is invaluable. Frankly, LadyHathor, any sub who rejects you solely because of your age is shallow and not worth your time.*

The lying thing, well, that would bother me. Lying is a total dealbreaker, even if it's about soemthing stupid like age.

*Exception: Someone in this thread did mention wanting children and family, and in that case I can see searching for someone young enough to start a family with. That is NOT a shallow desire.

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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/4/2008 12:27:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		Age can be a matter or preference or of limits -- I don't think I personally have a right to challenge someone on either of those unless they attack me for my age.

We are talking about personal relationships here, not government benefits or responsibilities or rights, and jobs.

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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/4/2008 1:39:29 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

LotusSong there are always pro subs you could use.


..AND if you have to PAY for someone to submit to you.. let it go..

< Message edited by LotusSong -- 3/4/2008 1:42:56 PM >

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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/4/2008 1:52:15 PM   
lateralist1


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Status: offline 		I noticed someone said you look good for your age which is to me the most backhanded compliment anyone can give.
The best compliment I ever received about my looks was You look good for any age.
However looks are very superficial.
If the right person comes along and you are right for him then what either of you look like will not matter.
I get very little mail presumably because of my age and the fact that I don't have a picture or because I like sex lol. My only advice is to be proud of who you are.

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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/5/2008 7:18:57 PM   
ineedotk


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Status: offline 		I think being "too old" isn't the real issue.  Or at least it SHOULDN'T be the issue.  Being too YOUNG should be the real issue.

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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/7/2008 2:46:10 AM   
Barbsthorn


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Status: offline 		Dear LadyH,

Just a quick comment from someone totally new to the site.
I think trust is more important than age. To have any kind of successful relationship, I think it is important to establish trust. Moving your age back a few years is not critical. If it makes you feel better, so be it, but in the end I think it should not matter. If you enjoy what you do and have the trust of your partner(s), you will have most of what all of us desire.
Now with that being said, I am turning 50 this year and am in the throes of a serious mid-life crisis. I see that age does matter, and in my brief experience here, I see that age will limit my access to some very interesting people. We do judge others by superficialities. It is too bad.

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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/7/2008 4:06:40 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: lateralist1

I noticed someone said you look good for your age which is to me the most backhanded compliment anyone can give.



Rather this than being told i look rough for my age Ma`am

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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/7/2008 5:53:13 AM   
BlackPhx


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Status: offline 		Be honest about you age and revel in it. You have earned every year of it, lived every year of it and learned every year of it. The sub who draws a line at a certain age hasn't learned yet that maturity can be beautiful and liberating. As for that photo being "dated" either a digital photo with date or a copy of USA Today banner with the dateline can solve that.

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RE: When is one too old for consideration? - 3/7/2008 7:43:50 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		Barb it is not your age that will limit you it is your attitude.

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