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Coming on too strong - 3/2/2008 9:02:19 AM

basheera

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Are Masters and Mistresses suppose to come on so strong. I have been here for a few days and they seem to be attacking me with their desire to put their foot on me. Scaring me to death! Aren't I a human being?

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RE: Coming on too strong - 3/2/2008 9:05:19 AM

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Ha you'll get a lot of that I am afraid just delete them and move on. You just have to wait till someone with a bit of a sense of humour comes along. Unfortunatly some people see the site as a way to get a quick shag and flex there "im the most powerful person in the world" muscles, they arent worth your time, we all get it and we all dont like it and we most ignore it.

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RE: Coming on too strong - 3/2/2008 9:09:43 AM

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Aren't I a human being?

We are Devo!

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RE: Coming on too strong - 3/2/2008 9:10:06 AM

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No one is "supposed" to do anything. Decide what YOU are comfortable with and accept nothing less.

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RE: Coming on too strong - 3/2/2008 9:10:13 AM

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Are you a human being?
I'm not sure if the whole Gorean thing lets a slave be a real human. :3 You might want to change your profile a little bit. One statement on your profile can draw droves of unsavory characters. E.g:

Your profile: "I enjoy dinner."
Everyone in the world: "U CAN HAZ DINUR"

Hope that's helpful. :)

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RE: Coming on too strong - 3/2/2008 9:11:50 AM

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Give it a month - things will calm down - Also think of it as an opportunity to view the wheat from the chaff.
good luck.
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RE: Coming on too strong - 3/2/2008 9:12:48 AM

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i dont know a thing about the gorean lifesyle except for what ive read here, but...
your profile states youre unsure about if youre slave or free,
then it goes on to say you can tell fakes from real,
then even later it states you are free.
now, from what i understand (and im NOT saying its alot),
the free goreans own slaves. just like D/s (im sayin)

what id sugest is deciding what exactly your orientation is
(are you a slave or an owner of slaves),
maybe by posting on the gorean board and finding someone with
some experience to help you sort it out.
then maybe rewrite your profile declaring thus.

best of luck!

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RE: Coming on too strong - 3/2/2008 9:23:54 AM

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thank you. i will work on my profile and be extra careful.

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RE: Coming on too strong - 3/2/2008 9:24:21 AM

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Anyone who comes on to strong from the outset should be a red flag in my opinion. Likewise anyone who is too eager to kneel or submit to one they do not even know. Either extreme is rooted in other issues or could also be a sign that the person is a game player and not here for the right reasons. My suggestion is as others have said and that is to delete them and move on for there are many here who are much more than that

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RE: Coming on too strong - 3/2/2008 9:25:19 AM

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ORIGINAL: basheera

Are Masters and Mistresses suppose to come on so strong. I have been here for a few days and they seem to be attacking me with their desire to put their foot on me. Scaring me to death! Aren't I a human being?

Whatever "genre" of slave you call yourself you are NOT everyones slave!...YOU decide who, and when you submit....Until YOU agree to do ANY of that, you deserve to be treated with respect, and like the Lady I'm sure you are....Remember you are "a" slave...That doesn't mean you are EVERYONES slave. I wish you well on your journey.

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RE: Coming on too strong - 3/2/2008 12:02:04 PM

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For Gorean Masters you are just seen as possible property. As your profile states beginner in the Gorean lifestyle, you could have known it.
It is better if you already scared to remove all Gorean references for now..and then decide if it is suitable for you. But if you already feel fear..you might skip the whole idea.

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RE: Coming on too strong - 3/2/2008 12:10:58 PM

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ORIGINAL: Justme696

For Gorean Masters you are just seen as possible property. As your profile states beginner in the Gorean lifestyle, you could have known it.
It is better if you already scared to remove all Gorean references for now..and then decide if it is suitable for you. But if you already feel fear..you might skip the whole idea.

There ain't no fuckin' Gorean Master I know that would hassle her, she needs to go to the Gorean Board, property or no, she pretty much either needs to approach them and real men will not twist her up like that, if they approach her. There is not enough on her profile or posting history to have a Gorean hunting her down.

She is getting the HNG plasma from being new. Nothing more.

*OP introduce yourself on the Gorean Board*

You are on the new list and you will be swamped with bullshitters for the next couple weeks. Ignore it. Read, if they are fuckwads, just block them immediately, no answer, no nothing. If they are just clueless fools, punch the thank you or the busy button. Do not take it into your heart or soul. Consider it a cost of doing business with the general public.

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RE: Coming on too strong - 3/2/2008 12:16:10 PM

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Ron is wrong...Well maybe....If you are attractive stay right here...If not, then have a ball on Gor.

Perhaps if you were to send me a pic or twenty. I'm very influential on these boards....If somone is giving you are hard time just point them out....I'm a problem solver, baby.

As far as too strong of a cum on...I'll refrain from eating asparagus before we meet.

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RE: Coming on too strong - 3/2/2008 12:19:19 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

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ORIGINAL: Justme696

For Gorean Masters you are just seen as possible property. As your profile states beginner in the Gorean lifestyle, you could have known it.
It is better if you already scared to remove all Gorean references for now..and then decide if it is suitable for you. But if you already feel fear..you might skip the whole idea.

There ain't no fuckin' Gorean Master I know that would hassle her, she needs to go to the Gorean Board, property or no, she pretty much either needs to approach them and real men will not twist her up like that, if they approach her. There is not enough on her profile or posting history to have a Gorean hunting her down.

She is getting the HNG plasma from being new. Nothing more.

*OP introduce yourself on the Gorean Board*

You are on the new list and you will be swamped with bullshitters for the next couple weeks. Ignore it. Read, if they are fuckwads, just block them immediately, no answer, no nothing. If they are just clueless fools, punch the thank you or the busy button. Do not take it into your heart or soul. Consider it a cost of doing business with the general public.

Cordially,
Ron

Not the ones that post in the forums. But there are more then the few posting there ;)
There is a bigger world then the forums....even on CM

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RE: Coming on too strong - 3/2/2008 12:26:28 PM

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ORIGINAL: basheera

Are Masters and Mistresses suppose to come on so strong. I have been here for a few days and they seem to be attacking me with their desire to put their foot on me. Scaring me to death! Aren't I a human being?

I know what you are talking about..before I met my Master I got mail from Doms who wanted me submit by the minute they dropped me a line..got mails like ‘open your mouth and neel’ or questions that where very inappropriate for someone you don’t know or have ever met..
Even now I get mail from Doms who want to meet me etcetera..

I’m a submissive, yes, but I’m also a strong woman that wants to be treated with respect. I’m not submissive to anyone but my Master. The good thing of this is that you can filter out the ‘bad’ one’s and select the good one’s that do treat you with respect and sincerely want to know you as person ;)

Just be yourself and ignore those who want you to be different ;)

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RE: Coming on too strong - 3/2/2008 12:28:59 PM

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Cordially,
Ron

Not the ones that post in the forums. But there are more then the few posting there ;)
There is a bigger world then the forums....even on CM

oh yeah, right...next you're going to say the earth is round....

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RE: Coming on too strong - 3/2/2008 12:31:35 PM

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ORIGINAL: christine1

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Cordially,
Ron

Not the ones that post in the forums. But there are more then the few posting there ;)
There is a bigger world then the forums....even on CM

oh yeah, right...next you're going to say the earth is round....

perhaps if you beg..I will :P
or zoom out in Google Earth and see yourself ;)

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RE: Coming on too strong - 3/2/2008 12:45:39 PM

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ORIGINAL: basheera

Are Masters and Mistresses suppose to come on so strong. I have been here for a few days and they seem to be attacking me with their desire to put their foot on me. Scaring me to death! Aren't I a human being?

i agree with the posters that recommended being a bit more clear on that profile. i have yet to see Gorean Doms be anything other than respectful...but then again, i don't know much about that side of things...i do know that as a bisexual chocolate slave, if you have a big ass, it's your responsibility to send pics to Ron and Domi immediately. Trust me, i'm after your best interests.