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RE: New Question - 3/3/2008 8:06:19 AM

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FR to the OP~

I never answer one-liners, except the ones that are just begging for a smart-aleck response. It's rather like being in a club and having one's eyes caught by someone at the bar who's appearance is unappealing. If he leered at me, I would avert my eyes; sometimes I would be unable to hide my shudder of disgust.

If I get a considerate, polite email from someone I really don't think is compatible with me, I will respond in some fashion, either with one of those "quick reply" buttons, or with a short but polite response that indicates I'm not interested. Again, using the club cenario, it would be the same as a quick, polite, smile and headshake.

I have told Doms that I don't believe, from reading their profile, that we are compatible - only to get a response demanding that I read their profile, where I'll discover that I am exactly suited to their needs. That response gets the Goddess Ignora treatment.

One must realize that if this site is indeed, as it claim, the bigget BDSM site on the planet, that the vast majority of its denizens are far from being compatible with any one specific individual. We keep trying, though.

>>I check my spelling as I type, and then I read the post through before I hit the OK button. Why, then, do typos show up afterwards?<<

< Message edited by SubbieOnWheels -- 3/3/2008 8:09:40 AM >

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RE: New Question - 3/3/2008 12:15:23 PM

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the reason many submissives do not respond to all messages is the fact that they get at least 20-40 on a daily basis... imagine the time consumption of responding to all!

many of these messages are sexually explicit and are consider 'junk'... then there are the ones that send the very same message to every submissive on the site that they find interesting, this is very lame!

there is also the fact that many submissives have their profile stating many things that bring about 'weird' messages and then they get angry. i have never understood this!

just a few reasons....

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RE: New Question - 3/3/2008 1:46:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: domguy54

I am a Dominant. I am really looking for some input from submissives to this question. Why don't submissives answer emails? They seem to answer if they are interested, but they feel it is ok to ignore it when they are not? Isn't it just being polite to answer no matter what the answer?

let's look at this from a submissive's pov:

hi, i'm a submissive. i'm really looking for some input from Dominants to this question. why don't Dominants answer emails? they seem to answer if they are interested but they feel it is ok to ignore it when they are not? isn't it just being polite to answer no matter what the answer?

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RE: New Question - 3/3/2008 2:05:08 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: domguy54

I am a Dominant. I am really looking for some input from submissives to this question. Why don't submissives answer emails? They seem to answer if they are interested, but they feel it is ok to ignore it when they are not? Isn't it just being polite to answer no matter what the answer?

This subject comes up a lot on the boards.

Unattached submissives gets tons of mail on this site. As one of them, I can tell you from this side of it, some of the the reasons why I don't respond to most of the mail:

A. The guy has emailed me before (sometimes several times) and doesn't even remember.

B. They say something that indicates that they haven't read my profile (when I've had one up).

C. I read their profile and determine that there's no way we'd be compatible.

D. They send a pre-written form letter, or they just give some shallow one-liner like "wanna chat?".

E. They have the words "looking for discrete" in their profile. Or state that they are married.

F. Their picture turns me off.

G: They're from Egypt or some other place that would make it impossible to know them in real life.

H: They're rude and classless- ie--YOU'LL SUCK MY COCK, SLAVE.

I: They state in their profile that they are well-endowed, or well-hung. please.

J: And a myriad of other reasons that I'm too tired to list.

Yes, it would be nice to email each and every one of them back and explain why I'm not interested, but if I'm going to sit here for an hour a day, emailing people I'm not interested in knowing, I'd wanna get paid for it.

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RE: New Question - 3/3/2008 3:29:56 PM

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Now Domguy 54 Don't lump all submissives into the same catogry. I admit i did not read all the responses. When i was looking i answered all polite emails and the majority of them were polite. Maybe they don't answer because you are not exactly what they are looking for or any # of reasons.

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RE: New Question - 3/3/2008 8:23:12 PM

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I read all emails I get. Any email which is reasonably polite, well-written and/or funny, I'll respond to regardless of whether the individuals profile looks to be a match for me. Of course, sometimes my response is simply, "No.", but I will at least respond with an indication that their email has been recieved.

Were I one of the subs that I've seen written about that get 20 emails a day, my tune might change, but for now I like things this way. Seems more polite that way.

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RE: New Question - 3/3/2008 8:32:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: marieToo

I: They state in their profile that they are well-endowed, or well-hung. please.

Those are the ones I answer first.

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RE: New Question - 3/3/2008 9:49:39 PM

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Oooooooooo.. all the standard answers in one easy post. I want to cut and paste it somewhere..
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ORIGINAL: TreasureKY

lol...

You'll have to forgive the responses that you get to this question... it gets asked at least once per week. However, for the sake of brevity, here is what you'll get in a nutshell...

No response is a response.

There is no obligation to respond to an unsolicited email... do you reply to the junk mail you get in your mailbox?

Subs are overwhelmed with messages and responding to each one is a full-time job.

Too many dominants take a response of any kind as an invitation to continue the conversation. They seem to think "no" really means "yes" and the sub just needs to be convinced.

Too many dominants cannot handle rejection even if given politely. A gentle "no thank you" can solicit very rude comments in return.

I'm sure I'm leaving out many other of the standard replies to this question, but I'm sure you get the idea.

Good luck, here.

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RE: New Question - 3/3/2008 10:12:35 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

quote:

ORIGINAL: marieToo

I: They state in their profile that they are well-endowed, or well-hung. please.

Those are the ones I answer first.

Shocking!

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RE: New Question - 3/4/2008 9:23:31 AM

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If they are interested they will answer you, if not they won't. I don't think it is nesessary for them to answer you if they aren't interested, for one they don't even know you. just my two cents. Best of luck to you.

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RE: New Question - 3/4/2008 9:37:50 AM

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I read all my e-mails I just don't bother responding if I don't feel like it. Why? Because that's my right and privilige. Don't like it? Go mail someone else then.

I do not need to justify or explain myself to strangers on the internet who seem to think I owe them something.

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